What do you do Sunday evenings?

[numberonecook]

I’ve been selling various children’s things on a Facebook bidding site. The listings ended on Friday and most of the sellers messaged me and collected yesterday or this morning (Sunday)

One buyer asked if she could collect Sunday evening. I said this was fine but could she make it before 7.30pm. She said she couldn’t make it until 9pm and said I was being unreasonable when I said sorry it’s too late. I offered Saturday collection or Sunday through the day but she refused.

On Sunday evenings we have a Sunday roast. Then all the kids get baths. I iron all the school uniforms and make packed lunches for the week. The kids go to bed at 8.30 and 9pm and I don’t want strangers knocking on the door when all that is going on.

I explained to her I was also available Monday (my day off) all day and evening but no, this was not suitable. I then said tues or wed after 6pm? Nope not suitable either. She’s reported me to the admin of the Facebook page. Aibu to think most people with school aged kids are bloody busy on Sunday evenings?

The extra cash was towards some treats for the kids but I feel like not bothering again.

People are weirdos who love kicking off. Don’t give it another thought. Block her

I can't believe she reported you!! It is totally fine to say before a certain time on any day and it doesn't matter why. Any person with any sense would see you have tried your best to accommodate her.

Surely if you're home anyway they can come and collect the item? It will take about 5 minutes out of your evening.

Same as you...but, if it’s just a knock at the door and hand something over, I don’t really see an issue.
Surely it’s just a “hand it over” 30 seconds job...????

Don't worry about her reporting you, you've bent over backwards to offer multiple times but she's not prepared or able to do the same for you. I reckon at the very worst you'll get an email from the admin asking what happened but I’m inclined to think you'll hear nothing more.

I mostly sulk.

I disagree with the other posters. Your time is yours and to be waiting for someone, having to look halfway presentable is not on.
And I dint do anything g special on a Sunday but would still have a cut off time.

Yeah I'd not be keen either. Sunday night it's roast, clear up, baths including me and into pjs by about 8. Call the Midwife then bed by nine!!

Not unreasonable to specify a 'latest' time to pick up by, some people are in bed by then if they have early starts for work.

I don't do anything except have dinner, maybe do some ironing, have a bath and watch TV. It's a relaxed evening. It wouldn't bother me if someone wanted to pick something up.

I wouldn’t be happy about 9pm any night, kids are in bed by that time and I don’t want them disturbed after bedtime

I try and go to bed early on a Sunday night. I also try and get some personal grooming done. So if you came at 9pm I would either be in bed, in the bath, or in my pyjamas with any combination of Jolene cream on my lip, Nair cream on my legs, a box dye on my hair, half dry nail polish, fake tan mitts on and/or blackhead strips on my nose, one eyebrow plucked, Foot packs on, you get the picture.

I would not be answering the door. In fact, unless the house is on fire I won't be going anywhere after the kids go to bed on a Sunday night.

I don't even get food delivered on a Sunday night

We’re in bed at 9pm Sunday - Thursday as we have super early starts in the week. I wouldn’t be entertaining anyone coming to collect something from 7pm onwards as we’ll just have retired to watch some tv after supper, making packed lunches and generally getting ready for the week ahead.

We’re just watching the telly-it wouldn’t bother me In the slightest if someone knocked to collect something at 9pm.

Sunday nights are Country File etc, I’d be doing the whole ‘who’s that at 7pm on a Sunday night’ thing if someone came over.
My parents did it in the 80s if a pal dared phone after 9pm.

@AmazingGreats this is me! The kids take themselves off to bed and it’s chill time

It wouldn't bother me if someone wanted to come and collect something at that time, would only take 5 mins. Weird she reported you though.

She's going to knock on your door for you to hand over something. It will take seconds.

If you’re up, I don’t see what the problem is. Have it ready to go by the front door and hope she brings the correct change. Open door with item in your hand, say “hello, here it is”, she hands money and takes item, you take money, both say “thank you”, close the door. Takes less than a minute. Maybe she works shifts and is working all day Sunday.

If, like me, you have to be up at 4 am for work tomorrow and you will be in bed by 9 pm then just tell her.

This wouldn't be an ideal time for me either. I wouldn't be in bed but I would be in my pyjamas and not up for opening the door to strangers.
Also she says 9 but this could easily creep into later and then you're stuck waiting up for her.

Sunday evening is:

Dinner
Shower & comfies
Doctor Who
Dancing on Ice (fast forward through all the crap) with a small g&t
Bed by about 10pm to read and listen to music

Press pause, Open door, exchange items, close door. 1 minute max.

Does it matter if you're in you're pyjamas?

Don’t see the problem if I’m honest, it’ll take what 2 mins to answer door and hand over, do you actually want to sell the stuff or not?

I mean we go to bed at midnight, kids asleep at 7pm but we’ve had deliveries late. If it bothered you though then that’s fair enough.