Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

What do you do Sunday evenings?

45 replies

numberonecook · 19/01/2020 12:55

I’ve been selling various children’s things on a Facebook bidding site. The listings ended on Friday and most of the sellers messaged me and collected yesterday or this morning (Sunday)

One buyer asked if she could collect Sunday evening. I said this was fine but could she make it before 7.30pm. She said she couldn’t make it until 9pm and said I was being unreasonable when I said sorry it’s too late. I offered Saturday collection or Sunday through the day but she refused.

On Sunday evenings we have a Sunday roast. Then all the kids get baths. I iron all the school uniforms and make packed lunches for the week. The kids go to bed at 8.30 and 9pm and I don’t want strangers knocking on the door when all that is going on.

I explained to her I was also available Monday (my day off) all day and evening but no, this was not suitable. I then said tues or wed after 6pm? Nope not suitable either. She’s reported me to the admin of the Facebook page. Aibu to think most people with school aged kids are bloody busy on Sunday evenings?

The extra cash was towards some treats for the kids but I feel like not bothering again.

OP posts:

JaceLancs · 19/01/2020 14:01

I always list new stuff on eBay on a Sunday evening - which also means week before auctions end - so I then pack parcels ready to post Monday
I also sort out my work diary, emails and clothes choices ready for Monday
Make lunches for Monday and Tuesday and if I have time put some washing on!

isadoradancing123 · 19/01/2020 14:12

It wouldnt bother me but she is being unfair to report you, you have offered her plenty of alternative times

Mandarinfish · 19/01/2020 14:17

She was unreasonable to report you (given that you offered lots of alternative times), but I'm with the 'it would only take 5 mins' camp.

Aderyn19 · 19/01/2020 14:18

It doesn't matter whether it only takes 20 seconds - it's not for some total stranger to dictate what you do, when you've already said no.

DoreenSamuel · 19/01/2020 14:23

I eat cake on Sunday evening- it eases the reality of a looming Monday!

Aragog · 19/01/2020 14:50

9pm on a Sunday evening I'd be in PJs watching TV with a cup of tea generally. I don't want to be having to go downstairs (living room in middle floor) answering the door.

I think 9pm is too late to expect to be able to go and pick something up, especially on a Sunday evening.

ohtheholidays · 19/01/2020 14:59

Sunday evenings for us are Roast dinner and a cooked pudding,my DH does the cooking I do the washing up and wipe the counters and the cooker top over.

Sunday evening is when I make sure all of the laundry is caught up with(so washing and drying)so I can get it all put away.

Sunday evening is also when we make sure that our DD12 has got her school bags/pe bags ready and all of her homework is done and in her bags and we check that our DS18 has everything ready for college.

All of us(and there's 5 of us here tonight)have a bath Sunday evening as well(we don't only bathe once a week I promise)and me and 2 of my DC usually treat ourselves to a pampering session of face masks,foot soaks ect whilst we watch Dr Who and Call the Midwife

Clothes are also got out and ironed ready for the morning so Sunday evening is so busy at ours that even taking out some time to sort something else out would screw up our usual Sunday evening so I don't blame you OP.

IntermittentParps · 19/01/2020 15:25

Well, on principle she's being U as you should be able to dictate pick-up times and buyers should expect to fit in with them.

But I do agree with this: Press pause, Open door, exchange items, close door. 1 minute max. Does it matter if you're in your pyjamas?
It isn't much time or trouble to sling her the item.

fedup21 · 19/01/2020 15:27

Loads of kids here and we do baths on a Sunday night as well. Opening the door to sell something I wanted to get rid of wouldn’t even register as annoying to me! Whether I had slippers, pyjamas and a face pack on or not.

VenusClapTrap · 19/01/2020 15:31

I’m not usually doing much at that time on a Sunday evening, so it wouldn’t bother me.

However, some people are batshit on those selling pages. I’m giving away some free stuff and I had a guy fail to show yesterday, rearranged to this morning and he failed to show again. I sent him a message to ask if he still wanted it, waited half an hour with nil response then offered it to someone else.

Original guy then sent a message saying he still wanted it, so I told him sorry I’ve moved on to the next person on the list. He got really abusive, asked me why I was ‘so angry’ and was I ‘on my monthly’.

Unreal.

Picklypickles · 19/01/2020 15:34

9pm the kids are in bed and I'm watching Dr Who and Call the Midwife. I wouldn't really be happy with people coming around at 9pm on any day of the week though!

dottiedodah · 19/01/2020 15:43

I wouldnt invite someone over ,but surely just to pick something up as a one off no problem? You have lost the chance to sell your item which seems a shame really /

Squirrelblanket · 19/01/2020 16:21

I wouldn't be able to relax in the evening if I knew someone would be knocking on the door at some point, even if it was just to hand over a parcel. Especially not at 9pm, we're usually in bed reading by then. Nothing to do with having kids though, we don't have them.

silencebeforethebleeps · 19/01/2020 16:23

I'd be in work so they'd have a wasted journey.

Scarlettpixie · 19/01/2020 16:38

Your kids can't be that young if they have 8.30/9pm bedtimes. You are in and up and about so I can't see your problem. Sunday dinner and baths will be over with. No problem if you are in your PJs. It only takes a minute to hand over the item and take the money. Have it by the door ready. Having said that, she was a bit OTT to report you when you offered alternative times and she didn't. As you are in though, I would have said ok once arranging another time became difficult. You don't know what she has on/why she can't do the other times you suggested.

Scarlettpixie · 19/01/2020 16:40

Oh and in response to your question, I don't do much on a Sunday night. We have tea about 7. Then usually a bit of telly/ipad. Tidy the kitchen, iron a couple of things if I haven't already. Think about what food to take to work... Bed by 10.30 ish.

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 19/01/2020 16:44

I work Sunday evenings, but on evenings I don't work I tend to be in bed before 9pm anyway as I work full time during the week also. I also don't answer the door in the dark when DH isn't in.

Original poster

numberonecook · 19/01/2020 18:53

Maybe I am being a little unreasonable then. I do like to just relax and not answer the door esp after dark. Anyway I explained to admin about offering plenty of times etc and they said this was acceptable. 5 mins after this messaged the buyer messaged me to say she would collect at 6.30. She’s just turned up with a face like a cats bum to collect. Maybe she had a ticking off or Maybe she’s a mumsnetter?

OP posts:

Lightupthemoon · 19/01/2020 19:03

I chill after a long shift after work by watching netflix etc

TulipCat · 19/01/2020 19:04

Personally, I don't like to arrange for buyers to come after 9pm as if they're running late I can end up having to wait up for them.

Flip

1 2