Smacking

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Was everyone smacked in the 90s/00s? Thought it was normal to be smacked by your parents and curious to know what it was like for those who weren't and didn't have that threat? And what age did it stop? I was smacked well into being a teenager. But now I think about it I don't remember my older sisters being smacked, at least as often.. I was a clumsy child, always made mistakes, awkward, apparently made the wrong faces/expressions (adult diagnosed autistic may explain some of it). I never knew what I did wrong. My parents got it worse, both hit at school and possibly home with the cane etc, I only got my dad's hand and a drink thrown in my face when I was about five for tripping over a picnic blanket.

80s/90s we got beat with a wooden spoon.

Was born in the 80s, mainly raised in 90s and my parents never smacked me. My dad was quite scary and had a temper - the mere threat of him being angry with us kids was enough to deter us from fucking about! My mum normally told us why what we were doing was bad and the impact is was having.

That sounds awful OP, especially the picnic blanket incident. I can’t imagine hitting a kid and throwing a drink in their face just because they fell over.

I’d strongly advise caution before sharing explicit stories of childhood discipline, people.

My eldest was born 1992. We didn’t hit them. I don’t think any of our friends with similar aged children did either. Obviously one never knows what’s behind closed doors but I’ve never seen or heard parents with our age children hitting them.
Growing up in the 60s/70s hitting was more common and we may have had the odd smack but I don’t remember our parents hitting us. A couple of teachers, yes but our parents were generally quite gentle.

V late 80’s early 90’s here and yes, everyone I knew did too, and everyone I know now of the same age. Not for making mistakes though, or what you describe, that’s very different . Just a smack (not enough to mark) for being genuinely naughty!

I was born in the early 80’s. My parents never smacked me. I’m sorry op, that sounds horrible.

I was born late 80's and my siblings throughout the 90's. We were never smacked and as far as I'm aware neither were our friends.

Your parent threw a drink in your face at five years old?

My mum used to leather me, she actually sprained her wrist once trying to hit me because I put my feet up so she couldn’t get me. So she pounded my feet. My stepdad comforted her by wrapping a bandage round her poorly wrist - and I was in the dog house for that too.

She also used to whack my head with the brush if I pulled away if she was brushing my hair and it was hurting.

I’ve never felt the need to smack any of my three kids. Eldest one is 25 this year.

Is shit parenting if you have to take your hands to your kids

@palmtreedreams ?
Sorry all of you, sounds horrendous.
I suppose when it's your childhood it seems normal and justified.
I was basically never 'naughty'. I did stuff like not getting how to safely cross a road, tripping, dropping things, not smiling even though I thought I was, forgetting to close a door that I didn't know I was supposed to, lying about asking for help from my sisters.. got smacked a lot.

Born mid 80s and yes was beaten with slippers wooden spoon and a belt also remember being punched in the face by my dad in public!

I'd say my childhood was abusive.

I wasn't smacked, but my dad hit me in the face when he got annoyed. Everyone turned a blind eye. It didn't work anyway.

I was threatened with wooden spoon but never got hit. My brother got hit though and both my parents were hit

In the 90s smacking, or at least the threat of, was the norm in my circle. The head teacher of my very ‘middle class’ outstanding village primary school publicly smacked 2 children, one of whom had quite severe SEN. I often think back on it and imagine that scenario happening now. It wasn’t that long ago.

Was born in the late 60s...
Everyone got smacked! Even my infant teacher smacked me!

I was born in the 60s
Had my DC in the 90s
Smacking was not the norm at slk

My mum hit me a couple of times but I was much more afraid of my dad, even though he never actually laid a finger on me. I didn't live with him and he was/is a very heavy drinker so I didn't feel close to him or comfortable with him and there was always this sense of danger about him, like he was always barely controlling his temper. I always behaved for my dad but had a right attitude towards my mum as a teen; as and adult though I barely see him and feel a lot closer to her.

I was born in the early 80s btw

Born in the 80s, sister born in the 90s, we were never smacked. I could never envisage smacking my ds. It is barbaric.

I talked about this with my friends the other day, actually. All nineties kids, all got smacked. DH wasn't though.

My granny would hit us with a wooden spoon culturally accepted and would chase us with it

We got the wooden spoon mainly, but smacking as well. As I got older especially I got proper beatings where I thought I was about to die. Never had a mark stay long enough or in a place anyone would notice though.

Grew up in the noughties by the way

Born in the mid 80s. Smacked by my mum but never my dad, though he smacked my brother a few times. As we got older it became pinching just above the elbow instead of smacking (agony) and face slapping.

I would never ever ever smack my DD. Ever. I didn't really have a problem with having been smacked until DD was born and now I see how it was an outlet for my mum's hot temper most of the time and I have to admit, I judge her for it.

Yep..but it's because he raised his slipper as I. Was being an absolute shit. And he thought better of it as he put the down.. I laughed and said I knew you wouldn't fucking dare..
Boy did I get that slipper then!