AIBU am I in the wrong

[Elliesmommy]

Keeping it simple
Husband went out tonight to a funeral. Said would be home after.
2 hours later text to say he was out having drinks
Ok - not overjoyed hes out drinking and I'm home with 3 under 3. 2 of which wont go to bed
Asked him would he be home. He said yes straight away. Hour later ( pub 5 mins away ) comes home and cant understand why I'm annoyed . I'm more annoyed he went and didnt tell me until well into he night hes out drinking. Ie I'm the free babysitter at home its fine
He yells he doesnt go out anymore. I yell back neither do I.
He runs away downstairs like he always does and doesnt hash out the argument.
Says after all he does for me he cant go for a few pints.
Hes missing my point - text and tell me beforehand

Anyone help ?

Given that the op hasn't said who the funeral is for, perhaps we shouldn't assume too much on the 'grieving' front. I've been to funerals of people who I didn't know terribly well but had to go for the sake of appearances, it wasn't some emotional trauma. I'd assume the op would have mentioned it if her dh was distraught, or a close family member had died. The pp who as ked if a relationship is a prison.. No, but if your spontaneous decision to go out /stay out impacts directly on someone else then it's bloody rude not to run it by them surely?

He went to a funeral, they often turn into social events as people haven't seen each other for a long time. I'd expect my DH to be gone a long time.

He works a lot of evenings, so it's hard for either of you to get out, but he is not BU tonight.

Organise a night out for a months time and go, he can then do the same the following month.

^Also, wtf is this shite: No one partner is free to just go spontaneously
Is a relationship a prison?^

Children rather impact on your ability to do things spontaneously don't you think? And doing something spontaneously means you're relying on the other parent not to do the same thing...

I’d let him off this one as it was a funeral, and , as PP has already mentioned, your not babysitting your own children.
If his nights out are more regular then you both need to discuss how you can move forward so that you get some time off too.

@GrolliffetheDragon OP would've been neglectful to leave three children alone, so no she couldn't be spontaneous on this occasion. But next time her DH is not working in the evening, she can be spontaneous.