To ask what you find attractive in a man

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Just fancied reading some positives and nice things.

I've been through the shit with xh. Abusive, controlling, bad breath, BO, hardly washed or changed his clothes, lazy, didn't fancy going to work or helping out in any way, tight and mean with money, heating and everything else.
Feel so sorry for his latest victim.

Been with my dp since last July, and I'm all loved up. He's clean, smells beautiful, amazing teeth, beautiful smile, funny, kind, quiet, caring, generous, loving, I love his voice, tall, helpful, hard working, great and so patient with dc, healthy, makes an effort.

Please share yours to be nice and positive what you look for in a partner

My dh is gorgeous. He's big and tall and has lovely hands with big fingers. Fantastic forearms which look gorgeous when he rolls his sleeves up and wears a nice watch.
Hes the kindest man I know . Very loving, very thoughtful and demonstrated over the past 27 years that he always has my back.

Nice smile, kind eyes, manly shoulders and build, good style and nice hair.

Intelligence and a sense of humor. Being a responsible grown up. Having skills and confidence.

Physically I like strong arms, a nice voice and a guy who’s not too skinny. And not a smoker.

Personality wise I like someone who’s ambitious, works hard and has a dirty sense of humour.

Good at sex and his own place to go back to so he doesn’t need to stay at mine.

That guy who is a mixture of manly strength and emotional awareness. Sends me weak at the knees. And a dry sense of humour. I've just started dating someone who ticks all those boxes! Physically is less important to me, there isn't much similarity between the people I've been involved with.

Proactive as opposed to passive, happy to initiate things. So many fall at the first hurdle lacking what I feel is a basic quality!

I love intellect, a quick wit, and an irreverent (not bitchy) sense of humour. Beyond that everything is icing on the cake

Hairy chest and bearded.
Nice forearms.
Intelligence and conversation

Hard working, stands up for what they believe in and nice arms

Nothing, because I am a lesbian. Haha

Yes, I should have said partner haha

I used to be physically attracted first and then that seemed to override everything else and I'd ignore things that didn't fit in other ways. Needless to say that hasn't ever worked out too well for me in the past. I was single for a long time though had ridiculous crushes and longed to be with someone, so I think loneliness played a part there.
After also having a disastrous relationship and a couple of flings afterwards that weren't much better I just didn't find anyone 'attractive' to think about them like that, I know some very attractive men and I more appreciated them like you would a view rather than anything else, like I was just switched off somehow.
That all changed recently as I had a 'moment' with someone I met a few months ago and who didn't really register. I've never really experienced the whole 'Our eyes met and boom!' until that day just having a normal conversation and it took me by surprise as I realised I find this guy really attractive suddenly, he makes me laugh and my memory is dredging up things I don't think I registered at the time about how he's actually been very kind and respectful, funny and thoughtful and I actually looked at him and thought 'hmmm you're actually really attractive' so I suppose without knowing I've changed to finding personality and kind, thoughtful and genuine attractive first and the physical attraction has come later on.
I don't expect anything to happen, for lots of reasons - mainly because I'm not going to act on it, but it's a good sign that I'm over everything that happened I guess.
For those of you who have been through a terrible relationship and gone on to a good one - did who you find attractive change after the terrible one?

Kind. Kindness above all else.

Ability to make up silly lyrics to songs is next

Brains, a sense of humour and someone who instinctively regards and treats women as equals. I'm not a ‘princess’ and I don’t want to be treated as one.

Tall, strong, slightly chunky, blue or green eyes, light brown or dark blonde hair, short beard, hairy chest, big strong hands and arms. Kind, smiley, easy going, good listener.
I don't want much

Intelligence, conversation, nice hands, kind, sense of humour, not too skinny, social. No physical 'type', it's more about a meeting of minds: that fuels everything for me.

I forgot to say that I love scratchy stubble. Maybe I'm weird 😅

Loyal
Honest
Kind
Funny
Responsible
Respectful
Tactile
Considerate
Thoughtful
Supportive

If someone doesn't have them all its a no-go.

Emotionally intelligent, funny, hard working, communicative and honest.

Looks wise, it's all in the eyes.

I’m with whoever said nice forearms with a nice watch 😍😍😍

Well aside from what I like physically about him he’s a good person, kind, thoughtful and would help anyone.

But fuck me, he’s gorgeous.

Honestly, my husband is like my best friend. There's nothing I can't tell him. Our marriage is an equal partnership. Although I'm disabled, he won't automatically "help" me to do something, he waits until I ask for help, which I love, because he's respecting the fact that I want to retain some independence. He doesn't lie to me, has never cheated, (it's something he wouldn't ever do), we laugh together, but give each other space to do our own thing, we're not joined at the hip, (which I think makes our relationship stronger and happier), he's attractive, (although I know that not everyone's taste is the same), he works hard and enjoys a home cooked meal, I think I'll stop now before other people start to think my life is 100% great! We sometimes disagree, but there's a difference between having a difference of opinion and having a fight.