To ask what you find attractive in a man

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Just fancied reading some positives and nice things.

I've been through the shit with xh. Abusive, controlling, bad breath, BO, hardly washed or changed his clothes, lazy, didn't fancy going to work or helping out in any way, tight and mean with money, heating and everything else.
Feel so sorry for his latest victim.

Been with my dp since last July, and I'm all loved up. He's clean, smells beautiful, amazing teeth, beautiful smile, funny, kind, quiet, caring, generous, loving, I love his voice, tall, helpful, hard working, great and so patient with dc, healthy, makes an effort.

Please share yours to be nice and positive what you look for in a partner

@romany4 my husbands beard is the only thing I would change! I just don't like facial hair at all...

Personality: Kind, funny, generous, Some shared interests, empathy, intelligent, affectionate

Looks: It varies tbh but my lovely man has beautiful eyes and a lovely smile. I like him being taller than me and wrapping me up in a hug.

How he acts with other people, especially those who need extra help. DP is a very self aware caring person. 1st born Mammys boy.
Physically stubble not a beard, nice arms, good smile.

Talent!

Pretty much anything, being clever academically, being really good at a sport, playing a musical instrument etc.

Big, broad, hair in all the right places especially chest, tidy short beard, a strong forearm and a cracking sense of humour

@EmeraldShamrock stubble I could probably handle, you know like day one or day 2, but my husband apparently hates shaving, even just using the electric trimmer, and his "beard" just looks so untidy...

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My husband is half Iranian; unusual pale green eyes, lovely olive skin that goes dark in the summer, dark short hair and trimmed in facial hair. He's very stylish and smells amazing.
He has a playful, childish sense of humour and is a hard worker.

Muscular arms, Gentleman qualities (I.e opening doors, checking you got home safe if it’s dark etc ) but an absolutely filthy mind

Got all 3 in my DH 😍

Oh yes, I love the playful side 😁

Lovely smile, sparkly eyes and a good laugh (noise). I also like a big man to make me feel protected

My guilty crush is Brian from Impractical Jokers. Not your immediate "fuck me he's gorgeous" kind of bloke but his eyes and smile just do something to me. Not when he was younger though... He needs a beard/stubble for it to work... I'm a particular Brian type!! 😂😂

Off for cold shower!

Nothing is more attractive to me than a bloke who can make me properly belly laugh!
I also like dark hair

Also stubble/short beard is a must!!

Self starter who can do domestic chores without instruction, has a bit of get up and go, adventurous, independent,has robust mental health and a glass half full view of life. Also not too fat.

Competence, DIY skills, sewing, cooking, cleaning, ironing, nappy changing etc. Laughter, kindness.

Basically very little of the stuff I thought was important in my 20s.

My DP is crap at DIY.

I'd probably go for a personality over looks (close second), I like someone who's confident but not cocky, has a good sense of humor, is intelligent and thoughtful.

Then looks wise I'd say I've always been attracted to stocky built men, big arms, handsome rugged looking men, beards ect (like a rugby player).

Physically I like tall, dark, handsome, nice forearms, especially love a beard.

Personality I like them to be capable, strong, tough guys, but emotionally intelligent with it. There's nothing my DH can't do practically, and he's the bravest person I know. I have no doubt he would literally die to protect his family, yet he worships me, is openly loving, says how he feels, admits when he's wrong, we never argue or raise our voices, he will happily cry at a sad movie. He's perfect for me.

Stubble, nice aftershave, helpful, funny, can cook, contributes to the household chores... got lucky with my dh, he's incredible, smells amazing, does housework, he cooks, runs me hot baths he's thoughtful, and he's fucking hot😍

Someone who is

Kind to others, even if they haven’t earned his kindness.
Patient.
Has a passion for something, whether that’s a hobby, career etc.
Socially independent, so spending time with friends etc and not just me.
Able to put up with me!

Looks, the vain bit.
Plump lips, blue eyes, slim, not hairy, decent abs and a nice bum.

Obviously the looks aren’t as important as personality, a persons personality also has a huge impact on how you perceive their physical attractiveness.

@flouncyfanny

I don't even really want to be attracted to anyone at the moment, I was for once, really happy before this 'moment' and tbh having this attraction is a bit of an intrusion into just me being me at the moment. Like I said it's a sign that I've got over what happened with the previous relationship but still not really ready for anything else yet.

I JUST LUV DH😘😍🥰. What attracted me to him, when I was 16, Was his confidence! He knew what he wanted and 23 years later he's still got it☺️! He is very intelligent and like me has realistic life goals that we work hard to achieve. His morals and values are those to be proud of. From day one the love, respect & honor he gives to me lets everyone one around us know that we are a power couple and our love for each other can't be broken. My heart still flutters🥰whenever I see him and it's not his looks that do that (even though he's super sexy) it's his overall love he gives me.

Willing to share his chips.