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Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 12:20

My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

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Cheeseandwin5 · 15/01/2020 15:29

Have o agree with others, this person is toxic and you shoud drop her straight away, sadly there maybe some who are swayed by her lies, but they will find out in time what she is like.
If she owes you money, I would use the ticket to recoup any losses. You may need to write of the rest though.

Original poster
whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 15:44

I didn't want any of this childish situation.
Friend A has had it in for me for years now.
I should have got rid of her ages ago.
Me and friend B got on great which is a shame

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Inertia · 15/01/2020 15:44

Don't bother trying to be nice to make friends with this pair- that ship has long sailed.

Agree with a PP about not posting any tickets- you know full well that they both lie, and there's every chance that they would claim they didn't turn up, and demand refunds anyway.

I would tell A that you will knock the ticket price off the £400 she owes you, and give her a date that you expect to receive the remaining £325 by. Though to be honest, I don't think you'd have much chance of pursuing it legally - you might have to write that off as the cost of getting rid of an absolute horror from your life.

Sell A's ticket to nice friend.

Tell B that you will hand over her ticket in person, in front of reliable witnesses (not A!) and tell her when you will be available. She can then decide what she does with her ticket.

SureTry · 15/01/2020 16:01

I still like what @Somemore suggested, I would go one further by telling them that both their tickets are in the post, then refund your friend her ticket just before the concert 😆 She's just as bad and deserves the same treatment. I would then take 2 other friends to the concert instead.

Retroflex · 15/01/2020 16:02

B will only realise what A is like when she treats her as she has you... You say that you got on well with B, but in the end, it seems like she has chosen A's "side" and that's entirely her right to do so...

Send a txt telling her to look out for the postman, and that you take no responsibility from this point on...

Then just sell the tickets... You're not responsible for Royal Mail losing post

Number64 · 15/01/2020 16:03

LTB

lifeisgoodmostofthetime · 15/01/2020 16:05

Sell the tickets to make back some of the money she owes you

Honeyroar · 15/01/2020 16:06

I would send friend B one ticket. Tell her in an attached letter she can sell it or go, you don’t care. Explain that friend A owes you £400 and as she doesn’t want to be friends anymore you know you won’t get paid, so you’re selling friend A’s ticket towards recouping your loss. Say that you no longer wanting to be involved with any drama and nastiness that surrounds friend A. Say you’d be perfectly happy to remain friends with friend B, but if she doesn’t want to be friends you’ll respect that decision and will simply be civil to both A and B if you bump into them. And mean it. Smile and nod, but don’t be drawn into any drama if you meet them, even if they’re trying to fan the flames. Just say “Are you still trying to create drama!” and walk away. Find better friends. Friend B is not as lovely as you think, she’s been pretty rude and cold towards you.

Branster · 15/01/2020 16:06

What is the £400 for? Is is the cost of your holiday you missed because she prevented you from going? You’ve already written that off so I’d be inclined to just leave it at that.

You said she paid for the concert ticket. In which case you need to give her the ticket. You have got an item she paid for. It’s the correct thing to do.

If I misunderstood and the £400 is the cost of the ticket, then you give the ticket when you get your money.

As for the other friends, give her her own ticket separately if she paid for it already.

Forget about both of them, they are really horrible to you.

MummytoCSJH · 15/01/2020 16:10

Why the fuck are you letting them tell you, an adult, whether you're 'allowed' to go somewhere or not? I'd plan to keep both tickets against your losses and tell friend B exactly why, detailing the amount still owed to you by friend A. If she transfers the total £400 by X date, you'll post them (leaving enough time to sell/go with another friend). If not, you're washing your hands of the both of them and will keep all tickets and they can sort it between themselves.

Jellybeansincognito · 15/01/2020 16:12

Block, delete and take 2 other friends.

I’m a cow though.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/01/2020 16:12

Right, send one ticket to the daft twat who believes her. Tell the friend you want the 400 quid for the holidays. Sell the ticket to third friend and go to concert anyway.

THIS ^

OR

Tell them his they pay you for YOUR ticket (which you can't now use. You will send them two tickets. (Friend B's ticket, and yours. "Friend" A's ticket goes towards offsetting the £400.

Sell friend A's ticket

Believe me - you will NEVER convince Friend B that you aren't a mad bat. She will have to learn this for herself - and I'm sure that she will, eventually.

The more you try to protest, the worse you will seem - just draw a line in the sand here and leave the whole sorry story behind.

ForestYeti · 15/01/2020 16:12

Tell B that A will refund her money from the ticket out of the money she owes you thus recouping you £150 of the £400 owed

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/01/2020 16:13

OR - tear up both tickets and burn them.

Post the ashes to them.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/01/2020 16:14

And BTW - NEITHER of them are "nice" friends.

Dagnabit · 15/01/2020 16:15

Yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but...

Karenisbaren · 15/01/2020 16:17

send her a message asking for your £400 then she can have the tickets.

loobyloo1234 · 15/01/2020 16:25

WTF. A and B sound like complete twats OP. Pls grow a backbone here. Send B her ticket and a text saying 'enjoy the concert' and then block her. Send A a text saying 'I will be selling your ticket and putting the money towards what you already owe me' - and then block her too

Sodone2018 · 15/01/2020 16:30

Tell them that because you have the tickets and paid for on your card that you have decided that they are no longer welcome to attend with you like A did to you on your holiday. Send friend B a refund and sell A’s ticket to your friend.
Then block

PurpleCrazyHorse · 15/01/2020 16:32

Make some new friends that have nothing to do with A or B. Ditch both of them out of your life.

You can also be nice and not a doormat.

If you're posting the ticket, I would send it tracked/signed for, whichever covers you for the cost of the ticket. I wouldn't put it passed B to say it hasn't arrived, especially if A bends her ear as she's not getting her ticket.

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 16:37

It's just a totally pathetic situation.
I guess Like people have said I have to respect friend B choice not to want anything to do with me and move on.

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HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 15/01/2020 16:45

Why do you want to be friends with someone who is clearly shouting at you with big fat CAPITALS that she does not want you
In her inner circle

Are you normally a glutton for punishment?

Jellybeansincognito · 15/01/2020 16:47

You can respect friend B easily OP.

Text her with ‘ to be fair to you, I’ll transfer your x that your ticket cost you- as you said I was not welcome to come anymore.
I’ll be taken 2 other friends to see the concert’

Jellybeansincognito · 15/01/2020 16:48

Taking’

PanicAndRun · 15/01/2020 16:50

Did you write off the debt when you forgave A and become friends again?

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