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AIBU?

Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 12:20

My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

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SpillTheTea · 15/01/2020 13:10

Stop bothering with B, she is not a friend. Tell A you're not posting her ticket because she still owes you £400.

whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 13:10

What happened was we were going on holiday on the Monday.
Me and friend b had organised to go bowling on the Sunday..we invited her but she said no and she asked to stay at mine the night before holiday.
I said yes of course but I'm still going bowling.
She said I should cancel bowling but I refused as I already had plans.
So she then said I wasn't welcome on holiday anymore the next day.
I said ok give me my ticket and il go alone and book a cheap hotel she refused.
Then told everyone we had plans the Sunday and I ditched her for friend b
She's a total nutcase and I'm drained

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 15/01/2020 13:11

You can't not provide Friend B with either a ticket or a refund, the debt of A has nothing to do with her.
Her bitchy behaviour however means she should just get her money back and told to jog on

whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 13:12

I think friend A hated that I had made friends with friend B.
Her nose was out of joint.

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yearinyearout · 15/01/2020 13:12

Clearly B is no more of a friend than A. Text back "I won't be posting you any tickets. I will sell yours and A's in order to recoup some of the £400 she owes me, ask her for your ticket refund out of that" then block the pair of them.

Billben · 15/01/2020 13:12

You are punishing B because you were a mug. You are going to lose her as a friend, if you don't give both of them the tickets anyway.

Friend B has chosen the side she wants to be on. If she was OP’s friend, she wouldn’t be ignoring her phone calls.

OP, grow some backbone and stop letting people walk all over you. Cutting people out of your life can be liberating.

BlouseAndSkirt · 15/01/2020 13:12

Is the £400 owed down t the holiday last year?

Ellie56 · 15/01/2020 13:13

FGS OP these are not your friends. Stop grovelling and have some self respect.

As others have said, tell A you'll send her ticket when she pays you the £400 she owes you.If she pays up send the two tickets.If she doesn't pay up just send B her ticket and then block the pair of them. You don't need them. They sound and act as though they are about 12.

Then go to the concert with the real friend and find some more grown ups to be friends with.

Durgasarrow · 15/01/2020 13:13

Did friend B pay anything for the tickets? If not, she can stay out of the drama if she hates it so much. This is none of her business. She has no standing. She's just someone who wants to go to a concert who has not purchased a ticket.

whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 13:15

£200 was for the holiday (well weekend 3 nights)
£200 was money I lent her so she could go to Leeds festival when she was "skint "

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tweedler · 15/01/2020 13:16

I would walk away from all the drama.

I would send Friend B her ticket, explain that as Friend A owes you £400, you will not be sending hers in order to recuperate some of the losses, and as Friend A sadly has previous for this type of behaviour, you do not wish to be involved in the drama any more.

Take your other friend and cut your losses.

whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 13:16

Yeah friend b paid.
I said to her if friend A doesn't want to go where I am,tell her not to go.
Why does she get to dictate who people are friends with.

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BlouseAndSkirt · 15/01/2020 13:16

I would at the very least send b her ticket - she didn't stymie your holiday last year.
All she has done is be friends with A, but you did that too, by agreeing to you all going to the concert.

I dunno, the holiday was already lost, water under the bridge, and following that you agreed to get tickets for a joint trip. She paid you for those tickets so just send them and never have anything to do with either of them again.

And breathe a sigh of relief.

OR sell the tickets to other friends and send them the money back.

Twisique · 15/01/2020 13:16

I would refund friend B
Sell one of the tickets
take another friend to the concert
have nothing to do with either of them again

BlouseAndSkirt · 15/01/2020 13:17

Oh - definitely keep A's money in respect of the Leeds loan.

FamilyOfAliens · 15/01/2020 13:18

I want to prove to this other girl I'm a nice person

I’m afraid you’re proving is that you’re a doormat.

MrsAgassi · 15/01/2020 13:19

Send B her ticket. Tell her you’re using A’s ticket as she still owes you money and you’re not a mug. End the note with a see you there and a smiley face!

You fulfil your obligation to B by sending her paid for ticket. She probably won’t go but that’s not your problem.

AdobeWanKenobi · 15/01/2020 13:23

her only reply was "post two tickets please

Friend b is equally a twat.

Is the concert sold out? fingers crossed refund B and hopefully none of them can get replacement tickets. Meanwhile find two people who are actually friends and not using bitches to go with you. Oh and make sure you document every second of said gig on social media with lots of photos 😉

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 15/01/2020 13:23

Are all the seats next to each other? If so, either A or B going to the concert would be (at the very least) awkward, and possibly much worse than that. So either you can go or they can. You have the tickets, so they lose out, which can be the consequence of being a bitch.

I think you have to refund B, but A can go whistle. Neither of them is going to like you no matter what you do, so scrap that idea. And when either of them wants to be friends with you again in the future, remember how you feel now and tell them to fuck right off.

PenelopePissedstop · 15/01/2020 13:24

If the ticket was paid for by B send her one ticket. Tell her you will be reselling the other two < your’s and A if she hasn’t paid >

WhatchaMaCalllit · 15/01/2020 13:24

Just text back "She owes me £400. When she pays that in to my bank account, she gets the tickets. Until then, no joy. If I don't hear back from either of you by X date they will go up for sale on Ebay (or return them to ticket master or whever) and she can buy them direct herself."

Somemore · 15/01/2020 13:24

I think I might be meaner and send B her ticket and tell her you've posted As. But not post it. Leave A waiting for it to turn up and then B have to go on her own. I'd then gift other friend the spare ticket 😁 honestly you're not getting your money back anyway so they're no point in open warfare, but a little psychological torture 😁

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 13:25

They are standing tickets so at least I wouldn't see friend a or b

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ShinyRuby · 15/01/2020 13:25

Please don't waste any more time worrying what anyone thinks of you. I'm sorry but it's time for a row. You need to tell A what you think of her & pity B for being so pathetic.

Greenkit · 15/01/2020 13:25

How much is the ticket worth

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