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Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 12:20

My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

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Firstawake · 15/01/2020 20:42

It will all fall into place for B one day.
Until then sell the tickets or go with someone else.
You know the truth.... Move on.

Alexis21 · 15/01/2020 20:43

This must be the world's oldest teenager or a bridge dwelling goat Smile

SecretMillionaire · 15/01/2020 20:56

Neither A nor B are your friends and both appear deeply unpleasant.

However if you have accepted money from each of them for the purchase of a ticket then they own that ticket and you cannot refuse to pass on or sell something which you do not own having accepted the money.

The holiday is a separate issue and unless you specifically stated that you were accepting A’s money as money owed and not to pay for the ticket then you cannot reallocate the use of that money unilaterally.

What A did with the holiday is unacceptable and the best thing you can do is have no further involvement with either one of them.

Willow2017 · 15/01/2020 21:17

Take A to small claims for the £400 it will only cost £40 and she will have to stump up the money.

B isn't a friend if she sides with A against you after knowing you better.

Ignore both of them apart from court case business from.now on.
It's not your fault they are asshole you don't have to put up with them in your life. B wi soon find out what A is like when she starts asking for money or for B to pay things for her. Serve her right.

BrusselPout · 15/01/2020 21:28

There is no way either of them get the tickets, as they are telling you that you aren't welcome (and will no doubt cause drama if you do go) so it's a waste of your ticket. I would either:

  1. refund B, tell A to go jump, go with new friend and sell remaining ticket

  2. tell A to go jump, go with new friend and give B the option to come with you both, or you can sell the ticket and refund her

LolaDarkdestroyer · 15/01/2020 21:39

What the fuck am I reading 35? 🙈 wow.
Anyway you should have learnt your lesson the first time your fault. This time no don't give her the ticket tell her she can buy it for £400 or jog the fuck on. You have to give the other person their ticket or you'd be just a bigger dick than friend a.

Original poster
whatdoidorr · 16/01/2020 10:54

Today is another day.
Yes 35 and yes this whole thing is teenage drama but I'm removing myself and moving on.
I tried calling friend B last night and she said text instead ...
I did and she ignored me.
So I can't be bothered

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TorkTorkBam · 16/01/2020 10:55

Make new friends.

angieloumc · 16/01/2020 10:59

You're not removing yourself though are you, you're still trying to contact her even though she doesn't want you to. I think you like the drama.

Newbie1999 · 16/01/2020 11:01

How old are you all?!

Newbie1999 · 16/01/2020 11:02

Sorry, just saw 35. Wow.

Graciebutterfly · 16/01/2020 11:03

Friend ' B' isn't a friend at all. Stop begging her and making her look like she isn't part of this. Whatever this is.

Cut both off and leave them alone.

Take you other friend or make a new friend to go with.

This friend B is either bitching about you to or is weak of mind. At 35 she should be able to decide who she wants to be friends with.

Original poster
whatdoidorr · 16/01/2020 11:45

I don't Like drama,I don't really have many close friends and thought friend B would become one.
I just didn't want to loose a friendship

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whatdoidorr · 16/01/2020 13:42

Last night when I text friend B I said "I'm feeling really low and just need someone to talk too,I feel Like nobody cares"
"I'm just ringing for a chat "
Her response was ..ring someone else

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Whynosnowyet · 16/01/2020 13:48

Sell both tickets guilt free.

hammeringinmyhead · 16/01/2020 13:49

You need to respect what she's said. Flowers

TorkTorkBam · 16/01/2020 13:52

Why are on earth are you sending messages like that to Friend B when she's already made it clear she has fallen out with you? That's weird of you.

mummmy2017 · 16/01/2020 13:55

Please see B has chosen her side.
Do not send her ticket, why should you.
They stole your holiday, so just go with other people or sell the tickets.
You now owe her nothing.

Number64 · 16/01/2020 13:55

They’re a lost cause, I’m not surprised at this from what you’d already told us, they both sound spiteful, childish and unpleasant. Move on - I would suggest blocking and deleting their numbers so you’re not tempted to text or call again.

It seems the real problem here is you feel lonely and unsupported and lack confidence in making new friends. This is why you’ve put up with this horrible friend in the past and why you’re getting involved in this nonsense now. But these people will keep you feeling unconfident and insecure - they aren’t the answer. Are there groups that you can join nearby or events you can attend to get to know new people? If that seems intimidating, I would start with something low key and unthreatening - perhaps a coffee morning at the local church or similar. Do you do anything workwise? If not, there might also be volunteering opportunities or part time work available close to you. Both will help you feel more robust and positive about yourself.

How are you feeling OP? What will you do for the rest of today? X

OnTheEdgeOfTheNight · 16/01/2020 13:58

A and B have made their choice.
Stop contacting B.
Ask A for the money owed if you want to give her a chance to repay it.

Learn from this.
Neither of them have any respect for you.
If you do what you did after the holiday and pretend it didn't happen and pretend you're friends then you can expect more drama in the future. It's your choice.

Original poster
whatdoidorr · 16/01/2020 14:40

@Number64 I'm ok ...still upset but I'm ok
I'm just in costa at the min,I'm alone but just wanted to get out of the house for a bit.

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 16/01/2020 14:46

Her response was ..ring someone else

What an utter bitch.

Tells you all you need to know. So sorry! But you are better off without these two. They are welcome to each other and their toxic behaviour; they'll probably fall out in a couple of weeks.

Just leave them to it and get on with your own life.

I hope you have a nice time at the gig with your other friend and that you can forget all about these two idiots.

Onwards and upwards. Flowers

LellyMcKelly · 16/01/2020 14:48

Send a Friend B her ticket. Tell friend A you’re selling her ticket and putting it against the £400 she owes you for the holiday. Copy in friend B. Go to concert with friend C. Let friend B go by herself. You hold all the cards.

Graciebutterfly · 16/01/2020 14:57

Op don't send messages like that.
Your making yourself look silly.

You need to understand someone isn't going to this event. Either they go and you don't, because if you turn up they are going to make it horrible or you fuck them off and
Go with some other people.

Stop making it harder for yourself:
You are not going to hey friend B to be your friend.

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