Started another post but somehow posted too soon, so have asked MNHQ to remove that as it made no sense. In essence I've had a disastrous month financially due to unavoidable household emergencies, (needed a new boiler) and I've got some debt to repay. Old friend messaged me the other day who I've not seen in ages to ask if me and another old friend would like to have a catch up, and if we would like to join her at a spa day at a posh hotel. So as not to drip feed, I think both these friends have always been more financially comfortable than me, but it's usually not a massive issue. On this occasion however I decided to bite the bullet and admit (somewhat embarrassingly) that I'm struggling with money at the moment, and I'd love to catch up but could we do dinner or something rather than an expensive spa day. She's replied basically saying 'oh but they've got an offer on so it's only £70 at the moment'. That's still a lot of money to me! Plus it'll be more than £70 by the time we buy food and drinks there too. Then I just felt really awkward, as she obviously doesn't consider that to be a lot of money and must just think I'm really tight, so I've said I'll think about it. But now I think about it I'm wondering if she was a bit insensitive to reply like that. It's pretty embarrassing to be honest to have to admit to someone who is financially very comfortable that I'm struggling and can't keep up with their lifestyle choices. AIBU?