AIBU unreasonable to be worried sick about DH

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DH had a bad cold/flu over Christmas. He is all better now. However, last week he was complaining about about how his body felt achy and fatigued, then on Friday he lost his appetite and has barley ate anything over the weekend. Since Thursday night he has had drenching night sweats which soak the bedding :(. But his cold/flu is long gone. I’ve just got up out of bed as he has drenched the bedding and is very sweaty to the touch after one hour in bed. For some reason he will NOT ever go to the GP, i lost a friend to lymphoma many years ago who presented these symptoms. I’m worried sick and 21 weeks pregnant. He said I’m not normal for worrying so much about his symptoms! Even if it’s an infection of some sort i think it’s selfish to not go and get checked as i don’t want to catch anything that could harm the baby. AIBU?

YANBU.
My DH was exactly the same. About 18 months ago he refused to see the GP after I begged him on a Friday. By Saturday evening I was calling him an ambulance and A&E told me he may not last the night. He had pneumonia which had developed into sepsis and his organs were shutting down. He spent 3 weeks in Intensive Care. We nearly lost him, it was only because he was relatively young and fit and that I called him the ambulance when I did that he pulled through. They also did some tests and apparently he is genetically susceptible to it so he has to be vigilant now. That was the unfortunate wake-up call he needed to stop dicking about with his health. I am fine with being called controlling about his health - because if I wasn’t, he probably wouldn’t be here now.

Great news OP, hope it's nothing at all to worry about

Great news! Best of luck

No, as it's not about her, but about someone else and the call handler will want to speak to him. If he refuses to do that, call over. Really Phil? I've spoken to 111 about my mother several times and they've never hung up because mum didn't want to get on the phone.

Good to hear he's going, Op. If it's any help at all, we just had very similar symptoms with a family member after a flu, and it turned out to be a kidney infection that was easily cleared up with antibiotics.

@Damntheman not the experience we've had here at all.

That's awful Phil! Sorry your experiences have been so shitty with them.

I'm glad he has spoken to his Dr, I hope they find out why he's been having his symptoms and he gets better soon.

Hope you get some reassurance soon

Got blood results at the doctors appointment, very fast turn around. Everything is completely fine, the dr says it’s the end of a nasty viral infection and they are seeing a lot of people with the same symptoms. However if in a week they are no better they will see him again. Thanks for all your kind messages :)

'No, as it's not about her, but about someone else and the call handler will want to speak to him. If he refuses to do that, call over'
Well that wasn't the case when I rang for my grandmother who was having a TIA. Thankfully they spoke to me because she was delirious.

The fatigue at the end of a viral infection can be debilitating. All the symptoms which I linked to in my first message are completely "normal" but they can be more severe than the infection originally was. Rest, fluids, medication to control his temperature, and lots of praise for you, (changing/washing bedsheets daily is hard enough, but you're 21 weeks pregnant, and have your own changes in your body to deal with). You'll both get through this, hopefully by next week he's much better, x

Well that wasn't the case when I rang for my grandmother who was having a TIA.

I do hope she is ok. I had a TIA in November 2018.