To think friend is super paranoid and not everyone wants her boyfriend?

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It was friends birthday night out last night - she had pre-drinks at her house and this included her, me and two other women.

Her boyfriend then joined us about an hour later. One of the women with us (so I was told today) was sat with her legs crossed and then when the bf turned up she sat with legs apart.

I never noticed and I’m pretty certain it wasn’t a re-enactment of Basic Instinct

But apparently this must mean she’s after the boyfriend.

Like this??

I think this thread can be pretty much summed up by 'she doesn't want your man, to be honest, we're not really sure why you want him'

And was she commando?

I went to a party shortly after my ex-h left me. I was with my then 2 year old. The host was an old friend but she had moved so I didn't know very many of the guests. Well, you'd think I had "harlot in action" pasted to my head the way that the women clung to their husbands or looked at me suspiciously. It was the most difficult thing to do, it had been 20 years since I'd turned up at an event on my own and I was really quite upset by it. Fortunately DS was a reason to not stay very long do I didn't. Now I would ignore such fuckery.

On the other hand, ex-h was good looking and charming and often attracted attention, something that rarely bothered me...except one woman who put my hackles right up. She was so blatent in her behaviour and total lack of respect for me as his wife that I actually asked him to keep a distance. I had never done that before. I couldn't believe that somebody would openly drape themselves over somebody else's husband while giving little grins over her shoulder at me. When she moved away, I was relieved. Reader, 11 years later I discovered she was the OW and we are now divorced. The irony of this is that she is SO insecure and jealous that she's fed ex to obesity, he no longer trains, has lost his looks and is quite frankly an ugly man. She also tracks his every move and communication on their "paired phones". Funnily enough, she has a real issue with him communicating with me! It amuses me no end because literally no woman on earth would look at him now

I genuinely think that some women can’t handle attractive women being around their men or them, and I think some women purposely don’t have friends that are more attractive than them, it makes them feel too insecure

😂😂😂😂😂

I'm in my 40s. There are a hell of a lot of women, younger and prettier than me in contact with my husband. I have no problem with any of them! I don't fancy my friends' husbands/partners so I honestly don't believe they all fancy mine!

I only ever had a problem with 1 friend of my husband. She was smaller, fatter and had worse teeth than me (😉) but with her hair and makeup done she could pass as attractive. She WAS after my husband. Despite only being married 6 months herself.

Maybe some women can't handle "attractive*" women around their men. But I think most women who get a gut feeling about someone should trust that feeling.

"Attractive" is subjective*

To think friend is super paranoid and not everyone wants her boyfriend

She doesn't think everyone wants her bf. She thinks this one woman might have been making eyes at him. Maybe she was!

Unless of course she's usually accusing women of throwing themselves at him.

I have one of these at work. I am working on a project with her boyfriend. I do not fancy him in the slightest. Tbh, he is quite annoying and dull. But when we are having meetings in his office, she comes in at about 5 minute intervals to check what we are doing. The office has ceiling to floor glass. If we were shagging, the whole floor would see us.

@FramingDevice 🤣🤣🤣 exactly what I wanted to put

But I think most women who get a gut feeling about someone should trust that feeling

Thr point is the gut feeling might well be jealousy,,, she thinks her boyfriend might fancy her friend, so blames the friend as a way make an excuse to keep her away from him, so he doesn't even see her.

In that case it's just jealous behaviour . Yes it could be the woman saw her boyfriend and immediately spread her legs and wanted her man, but I think we can all guess that wasn't the case. And the op doesn't think so either.

The OP also said in her thread title that the friend thinks "everyone" wants her bf when there's no evidence of that from the OP at all. Only one of the 3 women who were there is mentioned. So to be honest, I'm taking the OP's post with a pinch of salt. It doesn't seem like she's much of a "friend" to the friend, at all.

@ArntNise, you wouldn’t find it weird and annoying if any time you asked ‘Is that Sharon Horgan on Graham Norton?’ or ‘Didn’t you play bass in a band in your twenties?’ or ‘Is the answer to twelve down ‘Srinagar’?’ someone invariably piped up ‘Correct!’ like a quiz?

Slightly different take on this - I know someone who literally thinks any man who speaks to her fancy her.
I've never met anyone with such a high opinion of herself!