To think friend is super paranoid and not everyone wants her boyfriend?

[Drowningmysorroes]

It was friends birthday night out last night - she had pre-drinks at her house and this included her, me and two other women.

Her boyfriend then joined us about an hour later. One of the women with us (so I was told today) was sat with her legs crossed and then when the bf turned up she sat with legs apart.

I never noticed and I’m pretty certain it wasn’t a re-enactment of Basic Instinct

But apparently this must mean she’s after the boyfriend.

Yy, @FiddlesticksAkimbo and @Bluntness100. Clearly more women should be upfront and say ‘Actually, I’d rather eat my own liver than shag your bloke, thanks.’ Maybe a tshirt.

Well if she lifts her skirt and wafts her bag smell towards you, I think you’ll find that...

This is just making me think of that Goop candle now

And that’s not good, for the avoidance of doubt

@FramingDevice

I find it hilarious that some people seem to assume everyone's after their tubby, balding accountant boyfriend who monologues about Everton and says 'Correct!' instead of 'Yes' when you ask him a question."

What is the problem with saying "correct"? 😱

@ArntNise,
"What is the problem with saying "correct"?"

It isn't an appropriate response when having a conversation.

I just snorted and woke the dog up!

But yeah shes being U I would suspect. Doesn't trust her mates or bloke otherwise it wouldn't have even had a second thought.

She's paranoid.

Aye Karen, away into the kitchen and adjust your three “ live, laugh, love signs “ hen.

What? Sitting like this?

An acquaintance at university had a habit of suddenly climbing onto her boyfriend's lap if an "unfamiliar" woman sat down nearby. Not exactly subtle

I wonder if it's the same person

I used to work with a woman who thought I fancied her boyfriend who also worked with us and every time it was just the 3 of us on shift then she would start talking about their ‘rampant sex life’ and her boyfriend didn’t know where to look and I used to have to go to the toilet and laugh hysterically whilst running the tap to drown out the sound because she was batshit crazy!

I have a friend like this she can’t quite believe her luck

While all her friends can’t quite believe his luck

I think when your in that first lust stage with your man then you think he is absolutely gorgeous and some people think that everyone thinks so but it ain’t the case.

Maybe this woman is jealous of friend that did a ‘Basic Instinct’

The real issue is jealousy. These women blame the other women, but the reality is they think their partner fancied the woman, but they can't say that, so they blame the woman.

So in the ops case. She thinks her boyfriend fancies her friend. And she's looking for a way to make that the friends fault.

Yes this is true @Bluntness100, women are the worst for this type of thing.

To this day from 2001 then I have a ‘friend’ who is convinced that I slept with her boyfriend back in 2001 because he told her that he slept with me and he only said it because she is very insecure and I can guarantee that she has accused him of fancying me in the past (I do believe that he had a little crush on me though) and so to annoy her when they finished he said ‘well I shagged Inappropriate’ and she said that she doesn’t believe it but I know she does. He also happened to be my DDs fathers cousin so my DDs second cousin.

I bumped into this woman last week after not having spoken to her since October 2018 and the second sentence she said to me was ‘X phoned me’ and I know that she thinks I’m jealous of this, the thing now is that he is married with kids and has been since 2004 and my friend has slept with 2 of her sisters partners and various men who have partners/wives and she has an awful reputation for sleeping about in the area that she lives in so she judges everyone by her own standards.

She would never admit to me though that she thought he fancied me, she is one of those women that can’t have friends more attractive than her, or what she perceives to be more attractive anyway.

Her sleeping with everyone’s man was why I stopped being her pal, I couldn’t trust her.

This thread is so funny, please tell us more info OP

Does she often think other women are after her fella. If she dies, then she's probably wrong. If she doesn't, then she might just be right. Aren't women always told to trust their gut?

*If she does (not dies 😳)

This thread brought back horrible memories, my partner of 10 years and I moved to China for a couple of years and initially stayed in a hostel until we got our flat. A woman became obsessed with him and would ask to go along if we wanted to go to dinner, interrupt me if I tried to speak to him and knock on our bedroom when I wasn't in.

Final straw came when she organised a birthday party for him. He didn't realise it was her not me as we both have the same name. We'd only known her just over a month, I didn't want to say no as it was his birthday. But I deliberately dressed down and she turned up in a little black dress, cleavage out, zoning in on him. I started crying quietly and he came over and put his arms around me and everyone left so I guess it didn't go to her plan

Loving everyone's work here.

OP - can you please elaborate on the "legs apart" bit?

I have been amazed at some couples around me since I became a single mother.

The assumption seems to be that I am after every man near. This could not be less true, having got rid of one tedious partner why, oh why, would I be trying to take theirs?!

OP. Think it's probably time to stop lying to your self, you all want him ...

I genuinely think that some women can’t handle attractive women being around their men or them, and I think some women purposely don’t have friends that are more attractive than them, it makes them feel too insecure.

He also happened to be my DDs fathers cousin so my DDs second cousin.

banjos