sleeping in the spare room

[Doodar]

DH sleeps with the TV on and refuses to turn it off even if he's asleep
He goes to the toilet multiple times a night
He rolls over and bashes me with his arm, I can only sleep on my left hand side
He closes all windows and cranks the heating up, its like a sauna
He wakes me up to approve his out fit options
He constantly blows his nose throughout the night

he says I'm out of order sleeping in the spare room AIBU

How old is your son that he's just put in the middle of this? How nasty.

And is he actually asleep when he's bashing you in the night?

Wanting different temperatures/levels of noise/frequent waking/snoring/tossing and turning - all perfectly reasonable reasons to sleep in separate rooms to ensure everyone sleeps and find time for quality time together at other times.

Smoking in the bedroom when you have kids and a non smoking partner - utterly unreasonable.

Involving your DS in this - completely unfair and inappropriate.

YANBU.

DH and I usually sleep apart these days and it's bloody blissful. I'm happy to say my DH is nowhere near that inconsiderate, but he's an incredibly light sleeper and gets tetchy if I read in bed or turn over in the night or breathe too loud. So I advised him that the spare room is nice and quiet and he might sleep better in there. He's slept there ever since! .
Seriously - if you have the option of separate rooms, do it. It's life-changing.

Waking for a wee in the night and being restless - he can't help that.

Keeping the TV on, walking you to show you his outfits (wtf?) - VU

Smoking in the bedroom? Does he think this is the 1979s? Totally rank and bad for all of your health. Plus fire risk.

I'd be sleeping in a totally different house, never mind a different bedroom.

Your post that he is selfish in other ways dit's not surprise me at all. What a selfish gut.

What are you going to do, OP?

he won't stop what he's doing so I'll stay in the spare room. He's asleep when he bashes me. My DS is 16

YABU for putting up with it for so long. What is it that entices you to stay married to this creature?

Tell him you don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore.

Is there any reason why you want to stay married to this delightful creature?

It’s never to late to divorce OP. He sounds like a selfish twat!