To let DS have a Disney Princess party for his 6th birthday

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Just that really. DS is 6 next month is having a class party. He has asked for a party theme of his favourite film characters...who are all Disney princesses. AIBU to give him the party he wants?

You’re on my wavelength jellybean

We had a teacher style entertainer who kept the kids under control
then she dressed up for last ten minutes as a princess.

It was fun watching the masculine boys doing twirls enjoying the music!!

Go for it!!

That sounds ideal justbin - someone leading games and doing crowd control with a little bit of princess thrown in.

I did a frozen party for my youngest sons third birthday - Frozen Barbie cake and all. At that age it wasn't noticed. While it shouldn't matter at 6 it might in real world dynamics so would probably do a Disney mash up that included various characters of both sexes and just call it a Disney party.

I think a “frozen” party is fine. But an “anna and Elsa” party would not appeal to my 6yo son. But if there were plenty of Olafs around and Christof and the reindeer and games like snowball throwing (at a target) then he’d be happy.

Everyone saying their kid might. Be unkind,bored,wouldn't want to go etc ... does that mean you also reject all the girls invites that might be princess themed?

Yes. My son would not want to attend a princess party full stop.

No I personally would not do this

Even a frozen/winter themed party I wouldn't throw either. Not trying to be mean OP but my boys are now 7&8 when they were 6 even doing a softplay party was seen as babyish I was informed by them. Even I was shocked at that.

@PanicAndRun

I think what people are getting at is that their boys probably wouldn’t want to go to a “Disney Princess Themed” party. That would be the same regardless of whether it’s a boy or girls party.

Almost all the 6yo parties I have been to so far have been soft play (the other being princess and pirate themed with a kids entertainer doing the usual party games).

What are they into age 6 if soft play is babyish?

@DecisioNN and that's fine, however there always were plenty of boys at whole class parties when DD was 6. And they were just as entertained and engaged by Tinkerbell and Elsa as they were by SpiderMan and Iron Man. Very few were actually absent from the "girly" parties when hosted by a girl.

So if a kid never attended a princess party whomever the host is, fair enough. However if they're ok to go when hosted by a girl, they are also ok to go when it's hosted by a boy.

My ds has been to 6yr parties this year at a really big soft play, also laser quest parties, trampoline places, a science party, sports/ball games and a pizza making one.

Just to add- Whilst they boys in the class may not want to go to the girls Disney princess party, they’re unlikely to make fun of the girl for having such a themed party.

It’s pretty likely that done children will laugh, make fun off etc a boy that’s having a Disney princess party!

It’s shit, but sadly that’s what will likely happen. It would be so much better if there was no mocking, getting picked on etc, but anything that makes someone standout will likely bring about negative attention.

No one wants their child to suffer unnecessarily so as parent I know personally I would avoid a situation that could cause them to be mocked. They’re unlikely to realise that they could be made fun of etc... if they knew this they probably wouldn’t ask for such a party.

I would have a private Disney party at home with family/ very close friends and not the whole class.

My son is about to turn 6 and I'd say that soft play is still in. But thankfully he wants a smaller sports lesson party.

@PanicAndRun

I agree with what your saying, but I think there’s a distinct difference. As you say, I’ve known plenty of boys drinking from Elsa cups etc and they’ve not had an issue etc and vice verser, girls with Spider-Man cups etc...

My worry would be in this particular situation that the kids would mock the party boy.

I hate the whole Disney princess thing but:
He is 6, it's his birthday, i'd let him have the party that he wants.

does that mean you also reject all the girls invites that might be princess themed?

again, I know girls who absolutely refuse to go - or refuse to join in anything if they were made to go - to princesses party.
I also know boys who refuse to go to football parties.

Some adults love fancy dress, others hate them. Kids are allowed to have opinions too!

It’s pretty likely that done children will laugh, make fun off etc a boy that’s having a Disney princess party
This is my concern too I'd fear they'd mock him for the next 6 years.
It happens, especially if he dresses in a princess theme costume.
Frozen is the easiest way to keep him happy.

Maybe in the minority, but if my six year old DS1 wanted a princess party, he'd get a princess party.

His school (which has neverending mufti/fancy dress days) had "dress up as your hero/heroine" last term. He went as Elsa. I asked if he was sure, he was, off he went in sparkly shoes and dress, wasn't allowed my lipstick though. Came home, asked if anyone teased him (warned him some people are stupid and mean), he said some kids tried to chase him for wearing a dress but he told them to go away and they did, seemed amused by it. His teachers have remarked on his confidence (stubbornness) in the face of peer pressure.

He's not sure whether he wants to dress as Elsa or Spiderman for his non-themed party though. I think he sees magical princesses and superheroes as the same sort of thing - both kickass with cool costumes.

but not all kids are that confident and wouldn't give a damn about what other children think.

It's unfair on parents to push an agenda on their kids. Yours was happy, he chose and you let him that's one thing. It wouldn't work out that well for all the kids. Some children are much happier in a group than on their own and like to fit in. They are not wrong either.

I agree with the majority. It depends what you mean by "theme".
Princess plates, cake and party bags? Fine.
Elsa lookalike entertainer? Fine.
Your son wants to dress up as Cinderella? Also fine, though you would be naive not to expect some negative comments.
Everyone else to dress up as princesses? Not fine. It would be quite unreasonable to expect every child of either sex to want to dress as a princess or their parents to facilitate it.

I'd go for a frozen theme with all of the characters. My daughter had an Olaf cake for hers(at a soft play!) as she is not princessy and both genders enjoyed everything. My other daughter had a star wars party and again boys and girls enjoyed. We did have loads of princess Leias at the party though!! 😂 At that age I dont think the kids see it in the same way as the adults. They just love a party!!

It's unfair on parents to push an agenda on their kids.

But OP's kid wants a Disney Princess party.

Refusing to do so because he's a boy is also pushing an agenda, even if it can be argued that it's definitely safer.

I have always told my 5 year old son that his beloved Elsa dress is hard to wash so can't be worn out of the house....which has the benefit of being true if not the whole truth. I wouldn't do a princess party for him personally. Round here it would be very very unusual for a boy. Probably varies a bit by area I expect.