There are people on this actual thread who have been there at the point their loved ones’ organs were donated and who were traumatised by it.
People who have talked about their actual experiences of being there at the point a loved one was wheeled away.
For some, donating organs is a positive experience, for others it is not.
But I notice that all those who have talked about their real experiences have been glossed over by those who have such a one-track view based on nothing but their own moral judgements that they refuse to see the point of view of others.
Asking whether other criteria should be judged or not is exactly the same. But people won’t talk about those because those criteria are more often than not real and happening in the here and now whereas the willingness or not to donate is purely hypothetical and therefore people can trot out their platitudes about how this and that one shouldn’t be allowed to receive based on their hypothetical unwillingness to give.
As a future recipient I wouldn’t want to receive a heart from someone because their loved ones felt they had no other choice because saying no would mean they might have to watch another child die due to being refused. That takes away entirely the notion of a donation being a gift and turns each and every one of us into commodities of the state even during life. Because as soon as you start to dictate what people should be allowed to happen to their bodies in life you have removed their right to bodily autonomy, and based on what? A straw man argument.