I am the breadwinner of the relationship. His passion is home renovation and and he has itchy feet for new project , we have offer in on a new project , this time it will be slightly different as we have a toddler
When I went back to work from mat leave I was hoping to work 3 days a week, but husband was not happy with this due to the changes it would have on income and pushed me to do 4 days. Which I am not happy about . We would survive on me doing 3 days , but he doesn't want to reduce the quality of life that we have and sees this as being really important for our son
My values are somewhat different , and about being available for my son. When we move home we are also thinking about moving my sons nursery which would be term time only and school hours , I would like to be as available to him as much as possible and can't see how I would make 4 days 9-5 work work around his nursey timing and holidays , the commute to and from the new home and nursey to my work is longer so timings will be difficult
He doesn't seem to worry about this or think about this , I have a job opportunity to drop in 4 hours a week which will make nursey picks ups much easier , this is will be a drop of 250 a month , he is saying this is even too much of a drop .
I have given him an ultimatum that unless I can reduce 4 hours a week then the house and nursey move is not realistic - I can't see how it will possible work , he is keeping up with not agreeing to the drop in hours so we have reached a sticking point . Aibu?