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Year in Italy

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NewYearsRevolution2020 · 09/01/2020 21:19

If you were mid 40's (OK, late) no children, no mortgage/house as rent, no partner, no significant private pension (just state contributions but have a 'nest' pension which I could contribute to for part of the year, no fixed career but some freelance work and were offered a year in Italy working in an art-based place (excellent international reputation, paid internship about 1200 euro a month) would you be unreasonable to go?

My head says knuckle down here and do the sensible thing. My heart which I have not listened to for a long time says go. Have one last fling with the world before you come back and settle down and do the mortgage/pension/9-5 job thing.

I would get Italian language classes, too. It is in the area of my career and would be very good experience.

I am feeling old, tired and jaded. AIBU to say yes to it?

What would make you say no in my situation?

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WishIwasyoung1964 · 11/01/2020 23:16

Oh please go!! This just sounds wonderful. Wish it was me (only couldn't leave kids/hubby/my life). But seriously if you have this chance, just do it. Good luck!!xxx

peachypetite · 11/01/2020 23:21

I did a year abroad as part of my degree and it was the best year of my life OP. Absolutely go for it.

NewYearsRevolution2020 · 11/01/2020 23:24

Well, you will be pleased to know that you all persuaded me to go. However, I have to now do the application so I guess nothing is fixed until you see it in black and white.

I don’t know why I even questioned it really.

Thank you all for helping me decide x

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messolini9 · 11/01/2020 23:49

It is a completely reputable, recognised internationally internship in Florence. In my field of study.
Then there IS no "nonsense" to even get over is there?!

But I am not the fearless, Kate Adie wannabee that I was in my twenties.
Even more reason to do it.
Rediscover the fearlessness (&/or feel the fear & do it anyway ...)
Who knows what career opportunities or life chances might come of it?
Also ... you were offered this golden ticket at a renowned institution. Clearly senior folk think you are well worth the chance.

A bloody marvellous adventure: do it!

watchmefly · 12/01/2020 00:35

Of course you’re feeling a bit scared. And that’s the very reason to do it. Go, live, love and enjoy the experience, who knows what it may lead to, especially if it re-boots your creative practice. You may come back after a year, you may want to live there forever - but you won’t find out the answer to that by staying at home.

Or, if you change your mind just let me know and I’ll go instead.

I turn 60 in a couple of weeks time ;)

NewYearsRevolution2020 · 12/01/2020 00:36

@watchmefly Smile Yes, I’m going to apply. Fingers crossed!

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watchmefly · 12/01/2020 00:54

Brava!

FramingDevice · 12/01/2020 01:01

I’m excited for you, OP. And green with envy. All my art-gazing in Florence has been far too rushed!

NewYearsRevolution2020 · 12/01/2020 01:12

@FramingDevice. How can you see all that art in a holiday? You can’t, can you?

I shall leisurely stroll around the city sashaying in and out of the galleries, followed by cafe watching in shades. The life of a flaneur calls...

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Ididit2019 · 12/01/2020 01:23

Wow what an opportunity! Have the most amazing time and regale us with your stories!

Skysblue · 12/01/2020 16:06

I think if you don’t go you’ll always wonder what you missed out on.

If you go and it’s not great you could always quit. But I don’t see that happening because Italy is awesome.

InstitutionalMadness · 12/01/2020 16:39

Fabulous opportunity. Grab it and don’t look back.
I’m soooo jealous.

NewYearsRevolution2020 · 13/01/2020 17:24

I’m reading The Enchanted April nowSmile

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Sickofrain · 13/01/2020 20:28

Go!

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