To ask you to tell me to get a grip?

[HelpMeGetAGrip]

Name changed as I just feel pathetic . You’ll probably know who I am anyway 🤣
I’m just over 6 weeks pregnant . 25 Y/o First pregnancy, all very new.
I’ve had nausea and other symptoms just before I got my BFP at 3 weeks, but since approaching 6 weeks I’ve got worse and BAM reached 6 weeks and I can’t eat anything other than crisps and sips of ginger beer and orange juice.
Not told any family I’m PG yet as we want to wait for the scan, but after feeling so poorly last night I just had to call my mum and tell her . Her reaction wasn’t what I’d hoped which upset me a bit but she was ok.
Anyway I just need you to tell me to get a grip because I feel pathetic . I’ve had to take today off work as I’m so sick, can’t stomach food other than crisps thus making me worry I’m going to starve my little bean. Can’t leave my bed.
I’m crying to myself because I feel like I’m letting my team down at work being off, worried it will affect my records, just generally fretting over silly things .
I’m tired , anxious about my scan, I’ve spoken to my GP and he won’t prescribe me anti sickness yet as he says it’s not bad enough and they prefer to wait to see how patients are at 12 weeks. That’s another 6 weeks 🤢😭

Anyway if you know how to cheer an anxious , nauseas, hungry but can’t stomach anything, first time pregnant mum to be then I’d really appreciate it

Thanks in advance

P.S , any recommendations for Netflix / IPlayer or any catch up shows would equally be appreciated . Currently watching Arthur to take my back to my childhood 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

It’s miserable, but you won’t starve the baby. I spent about four months of my pregnancy living on barbecue-flavour Hula Hoops. Best wishes.

I'm not going to tell you to get a grip. You don't deserve it at all.

Is that what you're used to? Being ignored, having your problems minimised or downplayed? If so, maybe this is a great opportunity to change how you feel about yourself. Be kind; be patient. Things can be tough, and sometimes the last thing we need is a grip. What we need is care, attention, rest - and laughter. If you can't get that from others, then step away from them, and see what you can start giving yourself. Pregnancy is life-changing, and you'll be chock-full of hormones, which have a huge effect on you physically and emotionally.

Netflix is a great idea. What are you in the mood for?

Go and see another doctor, there is no point in struggling along. I’ve never heard of anyone saying they like to wait until 12 weeks... most sickness is better by then. Had he ever suffered bad pregnancy sickness he would be more sympathetic. It’s better to treat it now before you end up dehydrated and in hospital.

@AFistfulofDolores1 I guess in some sense yes. But I have an amazing Husband who’s support has been invaluable and it’s him that actually told me I need to stay off work , because I was going to try and soldier on and he said it won’t help me or the baby.
Your comment has really made me smile , thank you. I definitely need some laughter .
I’m in the mood for a comedy I think. I watched Identity Thief last night which I love , so that made me smile

@FramingDevice you know what, they actually sound really nice . I’m a bit sick of S alt and vinegar now

No grip required, sympathy is what you need.

Get to the GP, don't wait until 12 weeks as there is no point in suffering like this if something can help.

As for the baby, your body will prioritise the baby over you.

@PyjamasForever I’d never heard it either but I mentioned it to my friend and she said she was told the same . Very weird

The baby will take the nutrients it needs, you'll be the one that's malnourished but its easier dealt with in you. I have generic nausea from meds, but sparkling water made a big difference, could be worth a try! Things like breadsticks, or plain crackers? Stewed apple is quite gentle too, or plain rice with a little salt?

Oh OP, feeling sick is the worst! Feel free to have absolutely no grips at all, you're entitled to feel sorry for yourself!

I think you need to go back to another doctor. And say that you cannot cope like this for another six weeks, especially as it is now causing you to miss work.

I'm really glad you've got a supporter/cheerleader in your DH, @HelpMeGetAGrip.

Comedies are so subjective, I can only tell you what's made me laugh: The Big Bang Theory; Dirty Rotten Scoundrels; Beetlejuice; and watching back-episodes of the Graham Norton Show on iPlayer.

(I'd also be asking for a second opinion too. Morning sickness can be debilitating, and, frankly, why should you suffer if you don't have to?)

Go to your GP, why suffer when they can give you something to help you? I always found ice pops and very sour lolly pops helped me also don’t get hungry that’s when nausea starts keep a fully tummy.

Try Anne with an E on Netflix. There are three whole series, if you enjoy it!

I agree with speaking to a different GP. Try your best to stay hydrated with little sips of water. I found salty breadsticks helped and fizzy drinks.

Your first pregnancy is HARD. You don't know what to expect and your body's like "erm what?"

See a different GP. I was prescribed anti sickness tablets at 8 weeks.

You won't starve baby. They'll take all the nutrients they need from the stores you have.

My GP said to me just to eat what I could keep down. Her words were "I don't care if you only live off haribo for the next month. Obviously it's not ideal but just do what you can."

Works not your priority anymore. You've got a little life to think about. Try not to stress.

I had nausea and vomiting through out both my pregnancies so can empathise.
I found sparkling water good.
I was advised to eat before getting out of bed and this only helped in the first few weeks.
I was just told eat what I fancy when I fancy it and fluids were the most important.
You'll not starve baby it will be you who becomes dehydrated.
Some people say the sea bands for travel sickness help (they didn't for me but worth a try).
Frozen fruit can help too.
I would encourage you to see a different gp (perhaps a female would help) also could you request you see midwife early she may be able to help.
It's awful but I tried to keep in my mind while ever this was happening it's a viable pregnancy.
Re work just take the time off you need. Maybe worth confiding with a manager you trust in order to get some support and understanding. Can you work from home, work shorter days or go in later?

Ah that sucks you're so sick!

I've just binged Clique on iPlayer! Ah mazing!!!!!

Yes to asking again for anti-sickness medication. You can also try pregnancy bands which can be helpful, chemists or Amazon sell them

Thanks so much everyone you’re all very kind , I genuinely expected someone to come on and actually tell me to grow up so it’s nice to get some reassurance that it’s ok to feel this way. So thank you, and in response to @Butterfly02 unfortunately I can’t work from home as I work for the NHS. Luckily I told management from 3.5 weeks that I’m pregnant so they were aware, and I told them the reason I can’t come in so they know it’s not a bug and it’s pregnancy related . I’m just so scared of people thinking bad of me, judging me or thinking ‘i came to work with morning sickness why can’t she’ but it’s so bad I am still in bed I can’t get out . And I’m dying for a wee 😂 I have always had an intense fear of losing my job so any little thing triggers me to panic

Morning sickness is awful, I had it with both of mine. 1st time I didn't take tablets, second time round I was there in a flash. Definately go back. I think I'm still a bit traumatised from it even 7 years later!! This I found actually worked was eating little and often, starchy things- chips, crisps, pastries! And bananas- they seem to be easy to throw up. Avoid rice as it seems to grow in your belly and I swear I nearly choked throwing that up. Don't feel bad about taking time off work, get back to the docs and get some rest. Hope it passed quickly

@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend a year ago I suffered this weird vertigo attack to the point where if I moved even a centimetre with my eyes closed I would vomit violently . DH called 999 as it made me go into this seizure like state and I stopped breathing . When the ambulance got to me I came round and was vomiting again and we’d had rice for tea and I choked on it too! It like tripled in size! They never got down to the cause of the attack but it happened twice and the attacks lasted over 8hours before they injected me into the bone with Cyclizine and something else to stop it. It put me off rice for ages !

I just feel guilty being off work, I know I shouldn’t and I’m sure plenty of people are off with PG related sickness ? The nhs are quite good and I am with a Union should I need them.

Best of luck with your pregnancy. I really hope you feel better soon. Please don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t forget pregnancy illness is / or should be treated totally separately at work so don’t worry about that at all. I’m sorry I have no advice but...
Re: Netflix - Bridesmaids is my absolute favourite comedy film, I’ve watched it so many times and it makes me laugh out loud every time!

Be kind to yourself! I also had really bad sickness ended up getting signed off for 3 weeks, I felt bad at the time but looking back It doesn’t matter to me at all. Once babies here it will be that last thing on your mind.
Another one saying go back to go as well, I got cyclazine at 6 weeks, and another one when that didn’t work. But just be prepared they will make you feel even more tired!!
Also, have you told work you’re pregnant? If they know you’re off for pregnancy related illness it can’t count against you, so might be worth mentioning to just your manager or HR.
All I ate was ham sandwiches! I did lose a stone in my first trimester but I was quite overweight anyway so no one was worried

And Parks and Recreation is a great funny show to watch. Think it’s on amazon prime.

Parks and Recreation is a great funny show to watch

Yes - and it's good advice to skip the first season. It's one of those shows that turned round and started to be much better from season 2 onwards.

@PurpleBee39 brilliant film! I’m just watching Narnia so I’ll watch that after !

@Bobblebop yes work are aware I’m pregnant and I explained that I’ve been very poorly with morning sickness . Oo you know what I might be able to manage a ham sandwhich . I’ve just been sucking on some lollies x

@HelpMeGetAGrip - How are you feeling? I hope you are doing better x
P.s. Did you watch Bridesmaids?! It's a must watch for me when I'm feeling low!