To be really quite jealous of my DD

[lucyellensmum]

My 17 year old DD seems to have found herself quite a nice young suitor. He is 21, although he looks about 12 and is very very tall Doesn't say much but has a nice smile.

ANYWAY, this week my 17 year old DD is having a romantic week in cornwall, sitting on newquay beach today, horse riding tomorrow, being wined (well lemonaded!) and dined in posh itallian resturants (thats what she said in her text - then asked me if i was jealous!!)

Is it wrong to be jealous of my own DD?? I mean, dont get me wrong, im happy enough, my DP is a star and of course then there is DD2 (aged 2) who is the light of my life, but what i wouldnt give for a romantic week away. Our finances our tight and i dont see a holiday on any near horizon and its not exactly going to be romantic at centre fecking parc or disney land sodding paris is it!!!

But anyway, im kind of pleased for DD1 and kind of jealous too. I am a BAD mother

Lucyellensmum, my parents used to go out every Thursday night and I'd babysit my brothers, from when my youngest brother was 2. Then, years later, they repaid the compliment to me by babysitting every Wednesday night. (Sadly, they've since got cancer and died - miss them loads)
Please ask your older daughter to babysit, not necessarily as often. You and your DP need to get out - that's why you're feeling these pangs of jealousy and I wouldn't blame you. And, if she has a weekend off, she could mind DD2 so you and your DP could go to Cornwall. And let her know it'll be an investment into her future as you'll do the the same for her in return in years to come.

And your DD2 won't be little forever!

Aaaaaaaaaah, that is great.
My mum and I were/are great friends. We used to go out together when I was 17 sometimes, pubbing or clubbing. It was brilliant.

I just hope my 2 little girls will grow up ;loving and trusting me as much as I do my mum.

I bet your dd will love to earn some money babysitting for you

i think yanbu!
but i gess the word shud be envious as mentioned earlier...
envy is wen u want sumthin that the other person has without them losing it...
and jealousy is wen u want it and want the other person to lose it...

i hope it makes sense!
and yes i her too!

Well that's interesting isamama - I always thought that jealousy applied to relationships, and envy applied to things.

But you learn something everyday they say.

i thought you covetted when it was applied to things, but then that makes the whole ten commandments a bit sexist - "thou shalt not covet (sp) another mans wife" But anyway - it seems dd is having a fab time so its all good.

I would think jealousy and envy can apply to anything and everything. To me they have different meanings, hence the mix up initially!

DD is on her way home, phew She better had of bought me a pasty

Can I just say, it definitely is not odd that a daughter should say 'aren't you jealous?' in that way - not at all. Just one of those comments. That's the trouble with texts / emails- the tone can go so wrong so unintentionally!!!

I'm a bit jealous of young things having amazing times, but I'm having an amazing time with my 4 month old daughter who means more to me than anything. I had fun at that age too - now I'm doing something different. Simple as that.

by the way...

Jealousy is the desire to keep what you have, and the desire for others not to have it (like a 'jealous' boyfriend)

Envy is the desire for something someone else has.

I think

I dont see why its odd

I could quite imagine getting a text off some one saying they were some where nice ect and putting...."are you jealous lol"

we are talking about a 17 year old also

and yes, I would be jealous also lol lol