... to think that he is cheating?

[GrandmaSharkdodo]

For background, had a baby a year and a half ago. Sex life wasn't great before but came to a stand still and we've done it twice since baby was born (despite my best moves). Tonight OHs phone was going mad, message after message. I glanced over and asked who it was. He said David but angled the phone away from me. I asked what he wanted and OH got really defensive, what was I implying, what, do I think is going on ,etc. Just an ott reaction. I said ok, "show me then" and he said "look" and flashed the phone at me. But I could only see the name David and didn't have time to read what the message said. He then spent a few minutes typing really quickly with the phone angled away and it has been either in his pocket or face down since. I tried to bring it up again amd he went off, about how insulting it is that I would imply anything like that. Very odd. So... What do you think. Is he cheating?

David is probably Davina
Men are so stupid
Good luck
Get rid of him
You are worth so much more than this

@coffeem0nster are you my DP?! I must say OP I don’t enjoy my DP looking at my screen. I always sneak looks at DPs screen simply because I know I shouldn’t and it’s naughty so I do it... then I ended up seeing an awful ‘funny’ face shopped photo of a naked woman and I wasn’t happy. Well it was my fault, I shouldn’t have been looking... DP will now tilt his screen because if one of the lads sends him
Something I don’t like I get huffy and the poor buggers done nothing wrong. Fair game, but it’s always been like that. DPs phone is all locked down, he has very sensitive info on there, and for work no text messages come up on his screen. It’s always been like that. It’s fucking annoying but I trust him.

Thanks for all the advice. I'm feeling calmer today and rationalising that it's not definitely an affair and putting things into perspective. I won't be going mad with the sleuthing... But I'm definitely going to observe how he is for a while. I'm considering trying to have a sneaky peek at his phone at some point just to alay my concerns. It's not something I would normally do as I wouldn't like it myself. I know someone who is a family lawyer so could have an informal chat with her just in case. Cover all bases. Thanks again.

Should all men have a sneaky running away fund as well?

Something is up or hes just in a bad mood

An ex saved a woman as a male friends name. His phone would alwaysss go off. One day he had his phone in his hand and the chat was open.. i saw that he sent the person a posing selfie and 'good morning'.. I found it weird a guy would do this to another male friend. Especially a male friend i had never heard of before. We were attending a wedding that day and he said the guy would be there and he took the pic to show what he would be wearing. I expressed i felt he was lying and if the 'guy' even existed..i said i felt it was prob a woman. We got to the wedding and he introduced me to the guy (all we said was hello) and he said 'see!' afterwards. We saw the guy again about a week later ..i was in the car and they were outside talking but i couldnt hear ..the guy glanced over at me and they were laughing. I felt stupid and as though he was telling the guy what i had said. In the end turns out i was right though and he had saved a woman as the guys name, he admitted to the guy what he had done and he it found it funny. I was humilated. I found out because I ended up getting the phone number and messaged saying is this 'X' (i had a feeling of exactly who) she replied saying yes whos this. I blew up, he admitted to cheating and we ended.

He’s a cruel bastard. I’d be inclined to smother him in his sleep.