Pregnant and SO lonely- DH issues

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I’m 7 months into an unpleasant pregnancy. Off work for 5 months. DH works 60+ hours a week and has professional exams occupying all of his free time.

He Gets up at 5am to revise so gets 30 mins between getting home and going to bed. He eats and watches TV in silence. He’s been away on a course studying all weekend, got back late yesterday- again too tired to engage Just TV and food in silence.

This morning we spent a couple of hours doing admin (Bits I couldn’t do alone- mostly parental leave for him...etc) He then asks if I want to watch his TV show. I say no as the TV screen triggers my vomiting, so he immediately says he needs to study and moves to another room, where he puts on his TV show, eats his snacks and reads his books.

I cried, realising the 2/3 hours of time I was gonna get from him in this 2/3 week period was now over. He snaps at me ‘do you really think I want to study?’ then goes back to studying. Tbh I do think he’d rather study because it means being left alone and watching his shows. I took myself upstairs feeling rather rejected (he knows how I feel) he just ignored it and is now taking a nap.

He’s about to do a week of night shifts too so I won’t see him. I have made every effort to be supportive and make his life easier as he is under a lot of pressure but it’s been 6 awful months of constant unrelenting revision/work. I feel like my being unwell is a giant inconvenience and am constantly anxious about putting anything on him as he ‘can’t take anymore’.

I never see him and I’m always alone. I used to have a wonderful work/social life but am now too unwell to maintain either. He also doesn’t come to any of my medical Apts - my DM does.

* So I don’t drip feed- all of these exams and revision came after I got pregnant. He knew they were coming and what it would be like but did not communicate it to me. He was (in my opinion) deliberately vague as knew I would have waited to TTC and he didn’t want to wait!

AIBU to think there’s a point at which his lack of work/life balance becomes quite selfish? Or that expecting to spend every scrap of free time in front of his TV show (when it makes me sick) is unfair?

This is a tough one for me. He should be helping you out, but if he really only has 30 minutes of down time a day, it’s not surprising he needs to turn off and stare at the tv during that time. I’ve worked those kind of hours with school and a job and it sucks the life out of you.

Is he a doctor? If so this is familiar bull shit they all feed off each other about "how hard they revise" due to the timing of the exam and the other bullshit about needing to be married to progress most are of the age they have young children/ other half pregnant. Good new this will pass, bad news is many many many are on their second marriage by the time they make it to consultant.
Hope I am wrong. Been through it with too many friends.

Wasn’t your last thread pulled? Why was that?

You have a motherfucker of a husband/father of your child. I would never want him as a doctor for myself my child or any family member. He lacks empathy,emotional intelligence and maturity. You need to decide how much shit you WANT to ACCEPT for yourself and your baby. You are not living in the dark ages you have choices for your future and that if your child. My patience is thin for a person who posts multiple times about a useless partner and ignores good advice