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AIBU?

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Should friend contribute?

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judithandholofernes · 06/01/2020 14:21

Friend and I decided to go for dinner as a Christmas catch up. She chose the restaurant and sent me a link to an online voucher offer and stated that she could buy the voucher after pay day. I offered to buy it and she could reimburse me at the dinner.

When we went to the restaurant one of the terms was that the voucher had to be printed. I only had it on my phone so it was refused. We stayed for dinner anyway and split the bill when it came.

It was friend’s birthday so offered her the voucher as they would be going to the same restaurant. She said she would let me know but didn’t go out at all in the end.

Friend hasn’t offered to pay for her half of the voucher. It now needs to be used within a week. I doubt I will get a chance to. Friend had a chance and didn’t use it. I feel she should have at least offered.

It was my fault to not check the terms with the restaurant. However friend found the voucher so should have seen the terms too and knows I am a SAHM with no access to a printer

OP posts:

Spitsandspots · 06/01/2020 16:09

YABU.
She paid for her half of the meal she ate. Why should she pay for half the voucher as well?
You ordered it, the T&C’s would have been there. Your error I’m afraid.

ConstanceL · 06/01/2020 16:12

I don't actually think she should pay - she suggested that she bought the voucher but you said you would. Whoever buys the voucher is responsible for checking how to use it. You went to the restaurant she suggested and split the bill so as far as she is concerned that event is over and done with and paid for. Also agree with the pp - your mistake cost her money, and if she hasn't complained about that I think it is churlish for you to chase her for this money. Sell it on Facebook marketplace or something if you aren't able to use it. At least that way you'll recoup some of the voucher costs.

Chocolatemouse84 · 06/01/2020 16:12

Yabu. You should have checked when you bought the voucher. If my friend had said they would buy a voucher and then we got there and they hadn't bothered to read how the puncher could be redeemed, I'd be secretly irritated I'd ended up paying more.
I'm afraid I'd just let this one go. If possible I'd make sure I went to the restaurant this week, even if it was on my own with the kids so it didn't get wasted.

Beautiful3 · 06/01/2020 16:13

When I buy a voucher I read the terms and conditions. It was down to you to read and print off. See if you can sell it on cheaper, or print it off at the library and go.

MyTuxFromProm · 06/01/2020 16:13

YABU for the many reasons already mentioned.

Amaretto · 06/01/2020 16:13

Nope, YOU offered, YOU got the voucher and YOU forgot to print it.
I’m afraid this is on you imo.

fringeforever · 06/01/2020 16:13

Money is tight at Christmas. I think if she's looking around for vouchers she probably couldn't afford a full price meal or a full price meal would have stretched her budget. She was probably a bit annoyed you hadn't printed it. I'd let it go definitely

Amaretto · 06/01/2020 16:15

Te, her paying half of the voucher only makes sense if she was also able to have a meal.
Which, if I understand well, won’t be the case.

Why should she pay for a meal she won’t eat? And, seeing that you could still go to said restaurant with someone else, why should she pay for their meal?

Scbchl · 06/01/2020 16:17

Why should she be out of pocket for your mistake. I'd never ask a friend to give me half in this situation. Go use the voucher before it expires.

Cohle · 06/01/2020 16:18

I don't think she should have to pay for your error.

MapMyMum · 06/01/2020 16:21

I agree with @fringeforever. If she was looking for a voucher then she is tight for money and really wanted to make use of the voucher, which she offered to do but you said you would do it, you then failed to deliver...how the f*ck is that her fault?
Either sell the voucher or use it with someone else

AJPTaylor · 06/01/2020 16:25

That's you.
You didn't print the voucher. She missed out on a discount but paid half without complaint.

NorthernLightss · 06/01/2020 16:35

I'm really surprised at the responses - the OP said that when they discovered the voucher should have been printed out, they decided to stay anyway, and that her friend said she'd use the voucher another time. At that point the friend was happy to go to the restaurant twice, one full price and one at the deal price. If the friend has since changed her mind then she needs to let the OP know, and decide between them what to do.

QuillBill · 06/01/2020 16:39

I don't think the friend did say she would use the voucher at another time.

It was friend’s birthday so offered her the voucher as they would be going to the same restaurant. She said she would let me know but didn’t go out at all in the end.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 06/01/2020 16:46

Did you pay for dinner for both of you when you realised your error OP? If so then I think it's fair that your friend pay half of the voucher. If she had to stump up for half a full price meal then this is at your doorstep I'm afraid.

AxeOfKindness · 06/01/2020 16:46

Your friend found a voucher to save you both money, you messed up the execution (heyho, it happens), your friend paid more for her meal than she was anticipating due to your error but kindly hasn't made any sort of fuss about it, and now you want her to pay even more for your mistake?

I would have been pretty embarrassed if I were you, OP, and would consider myself a CF if I asked my friend to pay half of a voucher she couldn't get the benefit of through no fault of her own!

NorthernLightss · 06/01/2020 16:46

It's still the friend's joint responsibility to decide what they do with the voucher.

mrsm43s · 06/01/2020 16:49

they decided to stay anyway, and that her friend said she'd use the voucher another time.

I can't see it said anywhere in the OP that the friend said she'd use the voucher another time?

It's OP's voucher to use. She could have used it at any time, but failed to do so. Nothing to do with her friend at all.

OP's mistake that she failed to print the voucher (costing her friend money)
OP's mistake that she then failed to use the voucher by the expiry date.

Not OP's friends problem at all.

Lulualla · 06/01/2020 16:49

Northernlightss, but why?
The friend was going to order the voucher. She was fine being in charge of it. The OP decided to step in and do it so she took responsibility for it. She then messed it up. The friend missed out on the discount but they paid half each for the full price meal. None of this is the friend's fault.

The OP then offered her the voucher since it was her birthday and the friend said she would need to let her know as plans obviously weren't set in stone. The friend didn't end up going again; that's her choice. She didn't make the mistake. She paid for the meal she ate. OP needs to use it or sell it or accept she has lost the money.

mrsm43s · 06/01/2020 16:52

@NorthernLightss It's still the friend's joint responsibility to decide what they do with the voucher.

Why?

This is OP's fuck up, that cost her friend money. If anyone should be reimbursing anyone, it is OP who should have covered any additional cost to her friend when they had to pay in full for the meal rather than using the voucher as planned.

snowgirl1 · 06/01/2020 16:58

a) Were you offering her half of the voucher for her birthday or the whole voucher? If the whole voucher, you're not out of pocket - but friend has missed out on a birthday present.

b) You still have a week until the voucher runs out - use it!

iano · 06/01/2020 17:00

Yabu. You got the voucher and should have checked what format they need. That's not your friend's fault.

Mamabear88 · 06/01/2020 17:03

I don't think your friend should have to pay for your mistake, sorry OP.

Derbee · 06/01/2020 17:09

your friend paid more for her meal than she was anticipating due to your error but kindly hasn't made any sort of fuss about it, and now you want her to pay even more for your mistake?

Exactly this. Suck it up OP, it’s your mistake and your problem. Don’t be tight and petty now, just learn a lesson.

FinallyHere · 06/01/2020 17:17

I'd chalk it up to ' no good deed goes unpunished' and not try and be helpful in future. You really don't need friends like that.

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