Should friend contribute?

[judithandholofernes]

Friend and I decided to go for dinner as a Christmas catch up. She chose the restaurant and sent me a link to an online voucher offer and stated that she could buy the voucher after pay day. I offered to buy it and she could reimburse me at the dinner.

When we went to the restaurant one of the terms was that the voucher had to be printed. I only had it on my phone so it was refused. We stayed for dinner anyway and split the bill when it came.

It was friend’s birthday so offered her the voucher as they would be going to the same restaurant. She said she would let me know but didn’t go out at all in the end.

Friend hasn’t offered to pay for her half of the voucher. It now needs to be used within a week. I doubt I will get a chance to. Friend had a chance and didn’t use it. I feel she should have at least offered.

It was my fault to not check the terms with the restaurant. However friend found the voucher so should have seen the terms too and knows I am a SAHM with no access to a printer

I think YABU to ask for half of the cost of the voucher. You didn't read the terms and conditions so she couldn't make use of the voucher then. She paid for the food and drink she did eat.

You are free to make use of the voucher, not her fault.

Yeh I think you're unreasonable. She went out with you to that restaurant expecting to be able to use the voucher (and pay half of it) it's your fault she couldn't. And she probably ended up paying more because of it-she hasn't asked you to make up the difference though arguably she could have..? You'd be very unreasonable to ask her to pay for the voucher now too!

she's already paid for her half of the meal. I think you need to just suck it up as you were in charge of the voucher buying

sorry op

I agree with the majority here. The person who buys the voucher is responsible for checking if it needs to be printed and sorting that out one way or another. Your friend paid half the bill on the night. It's not her responsibility to also pay for half the voucher. In your shoes I would have arranged a time to use it. Can you not do so in the next week before it expires? Always nice to have something to look forward to in the dreary post-new year.

Whats being a SAHM got to do with having access to a printer? 😂

Precisely nothing! You could have sent it her to print or anyone with a printer, you could have gone to any number of shops that print. Really you should have read the T&Cs about it needing to be printed.

Whats being a SAHM got to do with having access to a printer?

Presumably she means friend could have printed it at work but she doesn't have that option.

Although I'd argue it means she has more time to read terms and conditions properly

Sorry op, if you bought it is your responsibility to read the Ts and Cs. A very generous friend might offer but it's not really fair to expect her to pay for your mistake.

I agree YABU.

If this had happened to me, I would have been pretty irritated with you for being disorganised/careless and costing me extra money especially at this time of year, but would nonetheless have offered to pay half to keep the peace/friendship. No way can you place blame for this on your friend, of course she had no responsibility to read T&Cs for a voucher you were taking care of. Perhaps money is enough of an issue for her that she simply can’t offer to pay the extra you cost her?

No she should no pay. You offered to buy it and share the cost but failed to read the t&c's so you take the hit.

She already paid more than what was planned for the day out.

She could offer if she wanted but is under no obligation whatsoever because tut didn't want to wait and took control of the situation.

I'd absorb the cost tbh as it was you that didn't print it off. Also, can you take a friend or bf ?

I dont think she owes you for the voucher.

You got it for a specific meal, you failed to follow the instructions to redeem it, therefore your friend paid more than expected for the meal out in the first place.

You have the voucher, you say she had the opportunity to go out but why should she go out because you screwed up the voucher. Why don't you go and use it yourself?

That's why I hardly ever bother with vouchers. There's often something & the stress outweighs any potential saving. I think you'll just have to accept you're out of pocket this time even though it's annoying.
Go somewhere very cheap next time you meet!

I don’t think she owes you for the voucher. She would not have been thinking about the technicalities when she sent you the link. It was up to you to note the terms. And not buy it if you couldn’t meet the terms. To me it is very clear that the responsibility was yours. You could tell her you are out of pocket though and see if she offers to help out; if you are really desperate for the money.

I also think that she doesn't owe you. It was your mistake.

No, she shouldn't contribute to the voucher cost - she already paid for her half of the meal.

A bit similar - my friend suggested we meet at Pizza Express the other week because they ALWAYS have discount codes/NUS discount on the go. But when we went to pay, the waiter said they don't do them in December (which they always have done previously, but whatever). I wasn't pleased at having to pay full price, and would have rather gone somewhere else for the same cost, but equally we should have checked the voucher situation before we went, so our tough luck.

Presumably the meal that you had together cost you both more than it would have done if you had been able to use the voucher? If so, then you have already cost your friend additional money by not reading the Ts and Cs. She said she would get the voucher, but you offered to do it and arguably she is already out of pocket as a result. If anything, it would be reasonable of you to make up the difference that she paid for her dinner due to your error, so it really doesn't seem fair to expect her to pay more for a meal and then extra for a voucher on top of that when both of those additional costs are due to you. If I was her and you asked me for the extra money, I'd be a bit put out and whilst I'd pay up to keep the peace it would make me wary of making similar arrangements with you in future.

Annoying, but I think you should take the hit for your mistake. Did the bill for the meal cost more because you couldn't use the voucher......if it did then your friend has already paid more than she had expected.

I think your friend's been a bit cheeky here, op. Looks to me like she sent you the link, expecting you to buy the voucher.
Otherwise, why not just mention what she was going to do?

Sorry OP - I also think this one is down to you ... you should have read the terms and asked your friend to print the voucher if need be . Both your meals cost more because you didn’t - you’d be unreasonable to ask her to contribute to the cost of the voucher she didn’t get to use through your error.

I personally wouldn’t take her money if she offered either .

why on earth didnt you just print it (and I am sure your Partner could or at the Library etc)

But yes she probably should offer something. Do you have a local facevook group you could maybe sell it at a small loss?

You should pay her, actually. She had to pay more because of your mistake.

However friend found the voucher so should have seen the terms too and knows I am a SAHM with no access to a printer.

So you go to the library and pay 20p or whatever to print it or you ask a friend. If you buy a voucher and it has to be printed then the onus is on you is to make sure that it is printed. You can't reasonably expect your friend to pay.

What's the value of the voucher?