To think people imagine other people during sex?

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Do other people do this? Have sex with their partner while imagining someone else? Is that a terrible thing? Is it even worse if it’s a real life person rather than a celebrity or a fantasy?

No I don't and I would be pissed off if I found out DH did

How old are you op? Are you not sexually complete with your partner. It could be a sign.

Once or twice

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I've never done that.

I’m 40. Been together 15 years.

I sometimes imagine all sorts of things

My partner with someone else, threesoms, my partner and I in a different scenario

Yes I think many of us do but not many will want to admit to it and none of us like to think our partner might be thinking of someone else

Best it’s kept in your thoughts

I reckon men do this all the time. Personally, I am really happy wiht my DH and our sex life. On two occasions ever my mind has wandered to the idea of someone else (famous person, not real life) but not for long. I wouldn't say I imagined he was someone else throughout though, no.

Is that a terrible thing?

Not terrible like child slavery or illegal people trafficking but certainly not a good thing, especially with regards to the health and longevity of your relationship.

Loads of people do - look up Nancy Friday's books on the subject. It doesnt necessarily mean you aren't happy with your partner, unless you aren't.

I reckon men do this all the time.
That’s an interesting thought. I have a friend who confided in me that he doesn’t love or fancy his partner anymore. I wonder if lots of men feel that way and are they imagining other women?

No I never do and my husband doesn't. Given how things work with our sex life there is no reason he wouldn't be honest about it really. It isn't that I would be bothered if he did, it is more that we are usually talking to each other during and enjoying ourselves. I have had bad sex with other partners though where I have been thinking about the shopping list or emails I needed to write in work.

Yes - we imagine each other with other people joining and feel free in telling each other. we are both fine with it - it adds an extra flavor sometimes.

It's not something I've ever done personally but have heard of other people who do

Nope. Never have never will. Even during a wank I'd rather focus on how it feels than imagine someone else doing it for me.

I'm with that person in the moment, fucking, playing, whatever, why would I even bother to shag them if I wanted to think about someone else? That's like using the poor guy as a human dildo

I don't really think of anything tbh. It's too difficult and takes my attention away from the job in hand. I don't have an imagination though if that makes a difference; I don't "see" pictures when I close my eyes.

Nope. Not with my partner anyway as we have a brilliant sex life. If it was shit I might!

Never done it, the idea of it is an anathema to me and I would consider it tantamount to rejection of my DW, but I respect others who consider it ok

Nope but I'm pretty sure stbexh did he gave me a long list of all my shortcomings in the bedroom department. ... New dp seems to have no issues whatsoever

I have done but not deliberately, more like losing concentration and thinking of something else like work. I haven't gone out of my way to think about someone else while having sex with DH. My mind wanders all the bloody time though.

Yep I do. Don't know why cause my husband is hot.
I do think men do as well

God your thoughts are your own and as things stand today, there's no thought control or mind reading going on.

If you want to imagine your husband is Tom Hardy then crack on. Nobody need ever know. Unless you're daft enough to mention it to him

I don't when I'm having sex, because what he's doing is more than enough to allow me to enjoy it completely. However if I'm having some "alone DIY time" I imagine other people sometimes. It's weird, but my partner and I are totally compatible in and out of the bedroom, but visualising him when I'm doing it alone seems weird to me. I want something a bit different when I do that. I'm fully willing to admit it, as it's not like I'm ever going to run off with any of these people. I probably wouldn't tell him I do it though.

There'll be a number of men who do it - but not in the way you'd think.

Imagining Katie Hopkins' face would be a marvellous way to treat PE, keeping the wolf from the door, so to speak.

Depends who you imagine. If its some celebrity, not that bad. But someone you know in real life - not nice.

No that's pretty grim and disrespectful