To think people imagine other people during sex?

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Do other people do this? Have sex with their partner while imagining someone else? Is that a terrible thing? Is it even worse if it’s a real life person rather than a celebrity or a fantasy?

Some people do and some people don’t.

As long as sex is always consensual, does it really matter? I mean if I found out that my partner was imagining Debbie from accounts during every session then yeah I’d be hurt but if he closes his eyes for a Moment or two and has a few flashes of an imaginary scenario involving a big busty blonde (I’m neither ) or something then I really would just view that as normal.

People aren’t binary, you can’t limit what someone thinks or imagines or finds attractive. Whilst you might have an amazing sex life with your partner, does it really mean that they won’t be turned on at the thought of a new or different sexual scenario? Something they find a turn on but know won’t happen in real life? Do we have to give these thoughts up when we get into a relationship?

Like most things, context is everything isn’t it

When having sex with my husband, no. For some reason my mind is concentrated on us.
When flying solo yes, every time.
No idea if my husband does or not. It's not something I've ever thought of asking him.
Imagine post shag? Ere Mr Chuffit, I was just wondering who you got fruity with in your head while we're bonking? 😜