AIBU to think there’s no such thing as a plus size wedding outfit suitable for an on the go mum?

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My sister in law is having a very fancy black tie wedding in April. Obviously I want to wear something nice, we’re not well off so I can’t spend too much but I can afford a new frock.

However here’s the thing. Not only am I overweight (size 18/20) but I’m constantly on the go with my son who has ADHD and SPD. I need to be able to run, bend down multiple times without flashing, pick up and carry an 8 year old and be climbed on. All while looking nice and retaining some modesty. Help! Does such an outfit exist? Last time I went to a family wedding I looked awful in a mismatched outfit I had thrown together and I tore my pretty dress chasing my whirlwind who was a toddler at the time. Shall I just accept defeat and wear leggings and a jumper as usual?

ASOS is your friend. Set filters to your size and and dress length, they have lots. I have bought from their curve range before.

We have a similar body size and style.
I love Lady V.
Ok I’ve got big boobs so I like their Lady Voluptuous dresses (I like Estelle, Isabella and Lyra) they are below my knee with I wear them with flats.
(Plus they wash well)

Have a look at the Lady V website. They do 50s style dresses and have a plus size range.

Cross post with Mypast!

Chichilondon have a curve range and lots of midi/maxi style dresses in.

Scarlett and Jo have some lovely dresses

All of these dresses are lovely.

www.lindybop.co.uk/dresses/shop-by-shape/swing-dresses.html

Have a look on Mela Curve. They have some lovely looking dresses with great reviews. And an amazing sale on now.
This is a maxi dress but they have other styles
www.melalondon.com/navy-mela-curve-empire-waist-floral-print-maxi-dress/?sku=MC3768027__G&gclid=Cj0KCQiAr8bwBRD4ARIsAHa4YyK1HjcKkpbeTdKHWobT9FUZOR_mPzcOfkmf5ImJRys2wQ2sf4g0gxAaAkL4EALw_wcB

Another one coming on to say New Look inspire range, it’s great and really cheap.

I’m the exact same size as you op and sound similar in body shape and I hate heels but have always managed to find something from there for any occasion.

Strangely I found my dress for my mum’s wedding last summer from Asda, it was £16 and absolutely gorgeous.

I know you said no to heels, would low wedges work at all, they'd look good with some of these dress suggestions and are sturdier than teetering heels. M&S had some nice ones in last summer. Hope you find something and enjoy the day x

This dress is gorgeous www.simplybe.co.uk/shop/little-mistress-34-sleeve-floral-dress/mu396/product/details/show.action?pdBoUid=2109&optionColour=Green Multicolour&optionSize=18
I have been looking for an excuse to buy it but no big events this year.

I always wear plain vest tops under wrap dresses after a pulling/flashing incident when DS2 was small...

Chi chi London also do lovely dresses for weddings i wore one recently to my nieces wedding and everyone was commenting on it. They look a lot more expensive than they are.
www.chichiclothing.com/dresses/?size=33

I'm a very big boobed 20/22 and got a dress from monsoon for a wedding last year - think it was £65. Did try loads on though as also have a big tum! Jumpsuits did not flatter the figure! Also got a lovely dress for works xmas do from next online (think it was one of those they sell for other brands). Was £40. When looking online, scarlet and jo (I think) also looked lovely. So some reasonably priced ones are out there, and should be able to wear both again.

I’m a very similar shape to you and love lady v dresses, but I’d say get a petticoat or wear a slip, if your kids are anything like mine they inevitably get a foot tangled and pull my dress up when I lift them.

Also try Scarlett and Jo

Some of the 50s style dresses are quite long so maybe something longer in that style? I struggle too - toddlers with ASD, short with big boobs, even if I wear knee length stuff I still seem to flash my bum when I bend over to pick them up (or it feels like I do!)

@KatyCarrCan the LadyV site has some really nice stuff - NY resolution to stop buying more clothes, but bookmarked for later!

Have a look at Dolly & Dotty, Collectif, Joanie and Chi Chi also.

Fr0g They're very comfortable to wear. I have two of them - a teal dress with golden roses and a Christmas tree one And as a PP said, they wash well too.

Look at Monsoon dresses.

Ialways wear plain vest tops under wrap dresses after a pulling/flashing incident when DS2 was small
Yep me too but mostly because I’m big boobed and I can’t trust them to stay closed.

Scarlett & Jo are flipping lovely and have a sale on at the moment.

Littlewingsfactory ( online) fab 50s dresses not low necked , very reasonable and great quality. Same size as you and wore one to my brother wedding with two DC. There's a stretch in the material in the dresses so they are really comfortable.

I would opt for an empire waist floaty dress. Re length you should be able to chase after him in a maxi dress (I’m in maxi dresses 50% of warm weather andhave two very active boys so familiar with maxi dress sprinting). Maybe you d been wearing dresses that are too long?