I had been friends with her for 7 years and during this time we would do everything together as a group of three - nights out, lunch dates, girly nights in, yoga, etc.
During this time, she got engaged to her long term boyfriend. I was really happy for her obviously. This was a couple of years ago.
When it came to her planning the wedding, they booked a venue quite quickly after getting engaged and she had been sending us photos of everything as it was going along. Anyway, I get a message from her that basically says that she's chosen bridesmaids and that I won't be one of them due to only being able to have a certain number. She did let me know that she had chosen our other best friend (from our group of three). My initial reaction was to feel hurt and excluded. I didn't react well at the time and did say things I regret in the heat of the moment. I was most hurt by her insinuation that she still wanted me to help her plan the wedding without being in the wedding party. I helped organise events at the time as part of my job and so felt this also took the mick a bit. She told me that she still wanted me at the wedding but that I wouldn't obviously be sitting with my other friend as she was a bridesmaid and they would be on their own table.
I sent flowers to apologise for the reaction at the time but my friend did not want to hear it and cut ties with me. I subsequently didn't get invited to the wedding and we haven't spoken since.
Although I don't think I could ever really get over this myself (as I think I learned that I valued our friendship more than she valued it), I still want to try and reconnect with her. I would want to just move forward.
AIBU to do this or to think that she would be open to it? I'd understand if there is too much water under the bridge but I feel like we did have good times together and it would be a shame to not try.
Reading this back it sounds like a plot line in the Real Housewives!!