To give up my full time job?

[Giraffe2020]

We have 3 primary school age DC. DH works long hours and often stays away. I also work full time. My job is draining and I don't particularly enjoy it but with a good company, average salary, great benefits and flexible working ethos however I do not have the option of working part time in this role.

DH is hands on when he is home but most of the time the children/house/life stuff is down to me which is hard when working full time too. I'll often have to log on when the DC Go to bed which means I'm working at 11pm just to try to fit everything in.

I find it incredibly hard and feel like I am just treading water, just about coping and sometimes not coping at all. Of course I know this is common with any family with young children. It's often a difficult juggling act and I know things will get easier as the children get older.

DH has recently set up on his own. The money is better but ultimately will mean longer hours and staying away even more often.

My AIBU is whether I should give up my secure job to join our Ltd company as an employee (I'm already a shareholder). The salary I would earn via the Ltd company would be very small but overall household income will be much higher and will easily cover my current salary. I'd also be working significantly less hours so managing home life would be so much easier.

Am I mad to consider it?

There must be instances when it does work though surely? (Please day it is so)

As I understand it we wouldn't be affected by IR35 as we'd have multiple clients at any given time. Happy to be corrected on that though if I've misunderstood the rules.

Agree on the shareholding not offering security. I am aware of that. DH has the skills so the business is clearly worthless in his absence.

My part time salary wouldn't offer much of a buffer should the worst happen in all honestly. Although in fairness my full time salary would.

If I was you I'd quit my job, take a break and get up to date will home backlog, start work for husbands company and when I feel more stress free and on top of stuff, either stay with his company or look for something more manageable.

You have work experience and won't have a gap in your cv if you work for your husbands company. If all goes tits up you can get another job but to sacrifice your current happiness and home harmony for 'what ifs' seems more risky and harder on you than keeping the status quo

I would stay and instead hire cleaners and au pairs/day nannies to reduce the load.

You need to protect your financial independence including pension.

Disco91 yes I wouldn't imagine me working for the Ltd company would be forever, just while the DC are young. I'd like to do something different when they need me a little less.

There does seem to be a fair among of focus on my pension. Just to say again, I would continue to pay into a pension if I worked for the Ltd company and in fact we would be paying more into my pension as it's a more tax efficient way of managing company profits.

I do agree on hiring help though and will be trying that in the first instance. We don't have room for an au pair but will find a cleaner ASAP.