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Handhold - my baby won't stop crying

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cca1 · 02/01/2020 19:35

He's 8.5 months. For near 3 hours since I've got home he hasn't stopped crying

I feel terrible saying this but I'm actually getting frustrated and want to shout at him. He's been fed, had Calpol (I suspect he's teething) and he's had bonjela.

I'm trying to distract him but it doesn't work for too long. Suddenly he will start the crying again but even louder than before. And then repeat.

Please somebody talk to me before I lose my sanity.

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Chocmallows · 02/01/2020 20:17

Hand hold, sometimes babies cry and it feels like they'll never stop. He will, then your ears may still ring so plan something relaxing later.

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cca1 · 02/01/2020 20:19

thank you so much everyone, mumsnet can be an absolutely amazing place.

My wonderful mum has come to take DS off my hands. He's calmed down a lot now and is no longer crying.

Still think I'm going to take him to the doctors in the morning, all this crying is very out of character for him. He's usually the most chilled out baby.

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nobodyimportant · 02/01/2020 20:25

Things that might help assuming fed, clean dry and had pain relief (I always found nurofen more effective than calpol): bath, walk in the buggy, drive in the car.

If all else fails, put him in his cot in a dark room with some music or white noise playing. He could just be overtired.

nobodyimportant · 02/01/2020 20:25

I think Drs is probably a good idea.

Thorn90 · 02/01/2020 20:27

Gosh, please don't get angry with your crying baby. It's his only means of communication!

TabbyMumz · 02/01/2020 20:28

Does he cry more when lying down? If so, could be ears, either an infection or glue ear...the pressure builds up when you lie them down. It can also make him dizzy when you pick them up which could be why hes flailing his arms about.

Chocmallows · 02/01/2020 20:28

OP sounds concerned and tired, not angry.

EKGEMS · 02/01/2020 20:30

I am thrilled your amazing Mom has come and your darling boy is calmer! Mine was a screamer for eight months and I know I really would've lost my mind had any neighbors pounded on any shared walls! Parenting is difficult enough without judgement!

LadyofMisrule · 02/01/2020 20:33

You are doing a great job. 2. Baby will come to no harm if you put them in a safe place and step into another room for your own sanity. 3. This will pass. I used to find that switching the vacuum cleaner on helped (Mainly because it took the edge off the screams, to be honest)

Grumpos · 02/01/2020 20:33

He sounds unwell, possibly ear infection? Generally when my LO is really unwell he will fling himself about too when I pick him up.
Bath? Walk round the block in push chair? Soothing nursery rhymes on you tube on tv?
So sorry, it’s so hard. Hope he calms down for you soon.
If you feel concerned he’s not well then ring 111

itsgettingweird · 02/01/2020 20:36

Yay for great mums

Grrr for stupid neighbours.

When my ds did this my neighbour (opposite so that shows how loud he was ) who was a retired midwife came over. Took over, ran me a bath, ordered me in it and said she'd be back later with ds.

I loved that woman

user32564567 · 02/01/2020 20:36

Probably an ear infection. I'd take him to OOH drs if you have one nearby. Ring 111 for advice.

Poetryinaction · 02/01/2020 20:39

Oh bless him, he must be in pain. Yes, take him to the docs in case it is his ears or something. Get some sleep. Good mum you have there.

Sunshinegirl82 · 02/01/2020 20:41

We had this today. DS2 is the sunniest baby you could ever hope to meet, hardly ever cries! After over two hours of continuous screaming this afternoon I called the gp and took him in. They sent us to the hospital as whilst they couldn't find anything obviously wrong they could see he was very distressed.

The hospital observed him for 5 hours, let us home with open access to go back if needed (so we don't need to faff with 111 or a&e). Don't be afraid to seek medical advice if your baby does not normally cry like this. They took me really seriously and said I'd done the right thing in taking him in.

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cca1 · 02/01/2020 20:42

@Thorn90 Thank you for such a helpful comment!

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Sleeplessnights1234 · 02/01/2020 20:43

My little boy had a runny nose/cough a couple of weeks ago, he was getting himself really worked up too. I took him to the doctors (everyone was giving me the usual talk about not taking him for a cold) turns out he had tonsillitis, so glad I did! Go with your gut. Try to get a little bit of a rest with your mum being there. Hope it gets easier

Newmumma83 · 02/01/2020 20:46

@cca1 so sorry it is exhausting , take him to the doctors tomorrow to get him checked out my little dude had been a bit like that he had a terrible cold that lasted 4 weeks , and in that time he had an ulcerated throat and perforated ear drum .... he was in agony poor kid ... he had a it notice twice ( for each thing ) hope your mum gets to you soon to help out.
If it’s pain related or he has a bad temp I was advised by a nurse to give him calpol then 2 hours after give ibruphen ( though my son was not premature and has not other health concerns ) but it did help for a little bit x x

TabbyMumz · 02/01/2020 21:04

You started this thread at 7pm when he'd been crying for 3 hours, is he still crying? Can you not take him to an out of hours doctor tonight? They could give him anti biotics if it's an ear infection otherwise he might be in for a painful night.

marthastew · 02/01/2020 21:05

Whenever mine were like this it and I couldn't work out what was wrong it turned out to be ear infections.

Good for you for calling for help here and in RL when you needed it.

I hope the wee thing is feeling better.

Sexnotgender · 02/01/2020 21:07

I know how you feel, my 11 month old has hand foot and mouth. And he’s given it to me😏 glad you’ve got support from your mum.

mullyluo · 02/01/2020 21:07

Just a stab in the dark but does white noise help him at all or does he like being driven in car/pushed in pram. Hoping he settles for you soon, its awful when they're like this, even the best of us start to get frustrated. You're doing a great job.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 02/01/2020 21:09

Gosh thorn90 thank goodness you came along with your fantastic advice. Good to hear you never get angry.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 02/01/2020 21:15

I feel for you OP been there, several times. Usually turned out to be an ear infection.

In the short term a sling was my go to aid. That and feeding.

Hope you manage some sleep.

ZazuMoon · 02/01/2020 21:21

I don’t have anything useful to add that hasn’t already been said but I have had a grizzly 4.5 month old with a cold and cough all over Christmas and who was once absolutely inconsolable with reflux.

You are being so patient and doing everything you can- keep smiling and dancing in front of your baby- occasionally works for me, as will swishing a silk scarf on baby’s face. 🤷‍♀️

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cca1 · 02/01/2020 21:25

He isn't crying anymore, he's still awake and he's playing on my bed.

Going to be a long night I think! He's usually asleep by 7:30-8 latest.

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