Handhold - my baby won't stop crying

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He's 8.5 months. For near 3 hours since I've got home he hasn't stopped crying

I feel terrible saying this but I'm actually getting frustrated and want to shout at him. He's been fed, had Calpol (I suspect he's teething) and he's had bonjela.

I'm trying to distract him but it doesn't work for too long. Suddenly he will start the crying again but even louder than before. And then repeat.

Please somebody talk to me before I lose my sanity.

Have you seen a doctor about the cough? As it sounds like it’s getting worst? I wouldn’t hesitate to call 111 for advice if this continues as must be a reason why he’s crying so much

Calpol and nurofen can be given at the same time.

It's OK to be upset and cross. It happens to us all and there's a reason why they use babies crying as a torture technique... It is honestly unbearable!

Perhaps tomorrow go round and visit the neighbours in the cool light of day and ask if they have any magical baby whisperer techniques you can try out as they are obviously such experts

Just seen your update. If he's not well and you're at all worried I would call 111 for advice.

And absolutely its ok to acknowledge that this feels shitty and not how you saw things going with your baby! I remember feeling so powerless and thinking that it would never stop, but it will get better.

If it makes you feel any better, I took my youngest to A&E once because she wouldn’t stop screaming and she made herself hoarse. 111 sent me there and I felt ridiculous for taking my baby to A&E because it was crying. I had totally had enough though and convinced myself there was something really wrong with her. Turns out, she was just a screamer. At nearly 2 she’s very pleasant now. So there is light at the end of the tunnel!

I really feel for you- it's torture isn't it. When my DS was about 7mths old he wouldn't stop crying. I tried putting him in his cot. He screamed louder. I'm ashamed to say in that moment I hated him and wished I hadn't had a baby. I yanked him roughly up out of the cot in temper, and then felt so horrendously guilty I vowed never to do that again. And I never did. It wasn't my finest moment- but fuck me it's hard.
If you feel near to losing your temper put him safely in his cot and walk away till you feel better

In the exact same boat relentless teething and a horrible cot. He's been screaming at me for ages tonight, since dinner. Hes normally asleep by 7 but hes still up and screaming. It will pass. I know exactly how you feel though its hard. I'm tempted to just sit down and cry with him at this point.

Teething? - try massaging gums with your fingers and ibuprofen

Sling
Dark room
Car seat
Pram

And fuck the neighbours!

Awful neighbours you have OP.
Only thing that calms my baby when he has lost it is to go outside for a walk while holding him. Cooler air seems to help.
Hope he picks up for you really soon

If he's been poorly I wonder if his ears are bothering him? Might be worth calling 111

Sending a huge hug and hand hold. These are some of the toughest times. Doubt there's a Mum out there that hasn't been where you are now.

As pp suggested, work from the bottom up eliminating any visible issues and checking for any obvious rashes, tender spots etc. Is baby eating and drinking ok? What are nappies like?
You can give baby Nurofen if you have some, just remember the dose and timings are different to calpol.

My last dd was like this when she was cooking an ear infection while teething - totally inconsolable, I was beside myself and I had help.
If you are in any doubt call 111 for advice.

Go for a drive or a walk if it helps. Even if it means you aren't cooped up, fresh air works wonders.

I’m sorry you’re struggling. It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job though. I would wrap him up and go for a walk in the pram. Even if the baby screams all the way you’ll at least be outside in the fresh air. Don’t be frightened to put him in his cot and walk into another room for five minutes if you need to. This is better than losing your temper with him (I’m not suggesting you’re about to). Most importantly ignore the neighbours. There’s some great advice on here. Hope he settles soon 💐

Just wanted to second the suggestion of anbesol instead of bonjela. It really is amazing!

for you. Most of us have been through similar. Your neighbours are twunts

Can you try going for a walk just wrapped up warm? Sometimes when you're desperate it's the only thing to do

My little one has been like this twice, the first time he turned out to have a terrible case of tonsilitis, instantly soothed with a children's throat spray. The second he had really bad trapped gas, a tummy massage and leg pedalling helped with this.

I feel for you OP, hope you manage to calm him soon

Hello OP; I have an 8.5 month old who's just got over a terrible cold. I'm here for a handhold. I found olbas oil magic, I also popped a pillow yonder his cot mattress to help him breathe overnight. It was hideous though. I hope he settles soon. Sometimes even just changing their nappy helps to calm them down.

Bless you OP, it's torture when they won't be consoled.

Your neighbours can get in the fucking sea, too. Not as if you're enjoying this, is it. Our (thankfully now former) neighbours did this when our DTSs were tiny - they obviously had very short memories as they had two children of their own. Twats.

Have you tried ibuprofen? Calpol didn't seem to work for my little one when teething. Ibuprofen sorted him out super quickly. Hope baby is better soon! Poor thing

OP have you taken him to the doctors or are bouts of crying normal for him? I got an emergency appointment when my daughter was roughly the same age, I felt a bit silly doing it as she seemed fine in some ways, was drinking a bit etc but screaming that didnt let up...she had a raging ear infection and I was so glad I went. Recently my two year old was unusually grumpy, just a nightmare all day, and had a nose bleed in the night and I think it was pressure in her sinuses as after this she was ok.

I think small babies can cry for no (obvious) reason eg digestive issues, over tiredness etc but unless your baby suffers from reflux or something and is a regular crier, I'd want to go to the doctors to rule out any infection if it's not normal for your bby

As someone already mentioned maybe an out if hours go visit to check his ears in case if infection.

Otherwise you can, as another pp mentioned, give Calpol and neurogen together and cycle them eg Calpol 4 in 24 hrs, neurofen 3 in 24 hrs (I think) ... So you can give him the alternative in top if what you gave given and just keep giving it, without going past the 3/4 of each.

Anbesol liquid is the strongest of the teething solutions. Rub with finger on gums or dip a teether in it.

Frozen and v slightly thawed things like cucumber, melon etc are worth trying.

*go visit

Stupid neighbours

I have a 9m old who I think is teething again, been crabby and unsettled and clingy and tearful all evening, finally started to nap and he got woke up by my cockatiel rustling his sandpaper. All he'll broke loose!

I tend to find distraction works best. Can you carry baby to another room and start playing with toys and make it look fun so baby wants to join in?

Your neighbours are fkg dicks incidentally.

If the neighbours bang on walls once more- drop the baby off with them! Two birds with one stone

Oh and stick some smoothie in ice cube trays, freeze, thaw a tiny bit and give them to suck/crunch up.