To think I'm too fat to wear jeans at 14 stone?

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I have been avoiding going out for 3 years now, I would always decline invitations and isolated myself because of my weight. I used to be 22 stone, now I’m 14 stone and have been losing weight slowly since 2016.

I still haven’t socialised, I keep saying to myself I’ll do that once I reach my target weight which is 9stone. When I reach my target weight I’ll buy lots of clothes, makeup and go out. That’s what I tell myself all the time.

AIBU to think just fuck it, buy some nice clothes/makeup and go out and connect with my old friends?

I have been stuck like this for 3-4 years now, not going out, making excuses even things like sitting in a restaurant I can’t do. I’m too self conscious to sit and eat in a restaurant.

I still wear dresses/skirts, and I’m not confident enough to wear jeans which I’d love to do.

Would love to hear from people who’ve been in my situation. Ive isolated myself for so long, I don’t even know how to put makeup on anymore.

I wear jeans at 16 stone. What dress size are you now?

I'm fatter than you and I wear jeans 🤷‍♀️

AIBU to think just fuck it, buy some nice clothes/makeup and go out and connect with my old friends?

YANBU.

You should buy yourself a nice well fitte pair of jeans and a top that you feel comfortable with. If you have changes size you may be wondering where to start, have you though about a personal shopper advisor in shops like John Lewis?

You've lost 8 stone - is that right?

That's loads.

Why not embrace the body you have, buy some clothes you love, go out and live your life?

Jeans included.

Wow. Well done on losing the weight. You should be so proud. 14 stone really isn’t too bad. I was a size 16 at 14 stone. I’m bigger now though and wish I was 14 stone again but I wear jeans. They suit me more than anything else. I don’t wear dresses or skirts.

It sounds like you have some serious self esteem issues, I get it, I do too. But please don’t hide yourself away. 14 stone isn’t massive. Everyone deserves to have a good time whether you’re a size 10 or a size 30!

You’ve got a lot to feel proud of! I’ve tipped into the 16 stone zone and am still wearing jeans. The trick is to find a style that suit and the right top.
I get a bulgy tum so I like a hip-length too but you can 100% wear jeans at 14st.

Well done 👏👏

I weigh just under 14 stone, very solid size 16 in jeans (14 in tops, the dreaded pear shape) and I near exclusively wear jeans

Go for it, you’ve done amazing to lose 8 stone, reap the rewards and treat yourself to a pair of jeans and you’ll see how far you’ve came from 2016

I’m 17 stone and I’m wearing skinny jeans right now. Wear what you want. Life’s too short to be worrying about whether you’re too fat to wear the things you like.

Would recommend high waist jeans if you’re worried about your tummy, makes me feel better as everything seems a bit sucked in

You should be so proud of your weight loss so far & be out celebrating all your hard efforts!
I'm much bigger than you & jeans are always my go to. Love them & practically live in them.

First of all, congratulations on losing 8 stones, that's a massive achievement.
Of course you're not too fat to wear jeans, and nor are you too fat to socialise. I'm sure your friends don't care about your size.
Why don't you post on the style and beauty board for some advice on what jeans might fit your size and figure best. I'm sure the posters there will have suggestions to help you feel more confident about your appearance. Then get out there and enjoy yourself !

Your actual real life is happening right now and you’re spending it sat in your house following some arbitrary rules that actually do not exist about whether you can wear jeans or deserve to be seen in public.

Get out there, live your life, wear your fucking jeans! Good grief!

You mostly regret what you DON’T do, OP!

You’ve done brilliantly so far. Get yourself some jeans in which you feel comfortable, and a top that you like, a nice blow dry and some makeup if you want, and go for it.

I'm a size 22-24 and live in jeans.

Buy the clothes. Wear them. You have one body and one life. Don't lock yourself up.

very good that you've lost so much weight & are continuing to lose weight.

not every pair of jeans will suit you at your weight [though it depends on your height - 14st at nearly 6ft is a very different to 14st at barely 5ft], though plenty will, shop around & be realistic about what fits well.

Of course you can wear jeans! (And anything else you like) M&S jeans fit every size and shape and are reasonably priced. Take a good friend with you and have a try on session!

Wow, well done. What a fabulous achievement. Yes go out and buy your self some nice clothes. You still need to feel nice about your self.

Of course you can wear jeans! Well done on the weight loss. Have fun going shopping and getting a nice pair and try them on. I have a bit of a tummy and I wear high waisted with a top that goes to my hips. I wear skinny jeans with boots ( make my legs look longer), or straighter legged ones with heeled boots or trainers.
Mistake I made was getting low rise ones, and the muffin top was quite unflattering, unless I wore a baggy top.

Reaching your target weight doesn’t automatically make you happy and confident in your body. You need to live your life now and work on the insecurities along the way.

Sometimes it’s worth spending more on a pair of jeans to get a really good fitting pair. If you’re not up for a shopping trip, order online and return what you don’t like but make sure you have a full length mirror and possibly get a second opinion. Try different styles, colours, brands. Also, invest in some decent underwear. Wearing a bra that fits properly and puts your boobs in the right place will make your proportions look better, which will inherently make it easier to find a nice top and by extension jeans you like. Plus we deserve decent underwear no matter what size or shape we are.

Best bin my jeans then

I weighed more than 14 stone until early last year, and I've always liked wearing jeans. I like wider legs when my upper body is bigger, though - I think it looks more balanced that way.

Wear your jeans, we will all be a long time dead.

Well done on your weight loss! You should be so proud of yourself.

Definantly, treat yourself now. Buy a decent pair of jeans, and some nice tops. Own your body. You’ll feel a lot better in yourself.

I’m just over 13 stone and had analysis done by Styled by Suzie to boost my ego and update my wardrobe. There’s a good f@cebook page for her.

I believe John Lewis has free personal shoppers also.

Evans has a sale on at the moment. Have a look there.

evans sale

Next and M and S have good sales on also.