It’s over. The man I married is gone

[newlifenewme2020]

Well it over. I posted before about husband and temper and they I had left and gone away with my mum and dad.

Well tonight I came back so hour DS and there has already been stuff chuck down the stairs and a picture broken. Again is all my fault he said “why do I make him lost his temper”
I have left and told husband to pack his stuff and I want him out before DS and I return in a few days.

I am devastated because the man I married was fantastic and a loved him so much. Over the last 6 years or so I have slowly seen him fade away to be replaced by a man I don’t know. We have been married 16 years.

Had anyone else gone through this- not just splitting up but missing the man your partner used to be. Realising the man you love is no longer there

Tell him if he threatens suicide again you will be calling his family and friends, the police and the mental health crisis team and they will be turning up at his door. Not your problem. Suspect the suicide threats will stop if you say you are going to get other people involved. If he's genuinely suicidal they can deal with him. However we all know he isn't and he will be embarrassed if he had all those people showing up at his door knowing and seeing that he is just throwing his teddies out of the pram.

I'm sorry you find yourself here. Take your time, allow yourself time and space to grieve for what is lost, regarding possessions put them away and come back to them another time when things are not so raw.

The text message is just an emotional game because you've stood up and said enough! My exh did this all the time, he'd kick off over nothing then be contrite, if I still didn't budge he would send text messages, letters all heavily insinuating his early demise - he's still alive 10 years later and treating some other poor 2oman appallingly now.

I'm so glad you've found the strength to stand up to him and say enough is enough

OP This is the first day of a new life for you and your Son, it may feel rubbish right now but it will get easier, better and more normal feeling. It is now all about you and your Son what your ex wants is not your problem, tell him he can only contact you in regards to seeing your Son and that you will consider any other contact as harrasment. Dont answer any communication that is not about contact with your boy. Remember the weeks ahead will be about one step at a time, deal with what needs doing now, everything else can wait. Well done for taking the first step

Yeah mine didn't die either, (despite my best hopes) had to divorce the fucker to get free 🤷🏻‍♀️

What I mean is he too threatened suicide (like his Dad had done 20 years earlier to his mum) but of course never actually tried to hurt/kill himself

I left my husband due to DV, took my children and went to my mum's. His friend came and said my husband was going to kill himself, I went into the kitchen and got my mum's bread knife and told friend to give it to my husband with my best wishes.

Of course he didn't kill himself, got re-married a year after our divorce.

" “why do I make him lost his temper”"

This is a dreadful red flag - you do not make him do anything!

Sad but you will be well out of it

@newlifenewme2020

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do to them.