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I want to go to bed but my guests haven’t arrived yet!

50 replies

notanotherjigsawpiece · 31/12/2019 21:38

We are going on holiday tomorrow morning and have to leave the house at 6am to get to the airport. I had planned to have some party bites and wine, then head to bed around 11pm. I hate being awake at midnight on NYE.

A friend asked this afternoon if she and her DD could pop round, rather than spend NYE alone. It’s been a horrible year for them and I didn’t want to refuse, so we all agreed they’d arrive at 8.30pm It’s now 9.30pm and no sign of them! I’m rather hoping they’ve fallen asleep or have decided not to come - my friend has form for this.

WIBU to go to bed soon and lock up if they don’t get here soon? I don’t want to ring, in case it prompts them to pop round. I am probably BU but what would others do?

OP posts:
HouseworkAvoider10 · 31/12/2019 21:41

I'd wait till 10pm and if they haven't arrived by then yes, lock up, lights out and bed.
you have to be up early, so too bad if they can't be on time.

Sn0tnose · 31/12/2019 21:41

Give it half an hour then go to bed.

speakout · 31/12/2019 21:41

Contact her?

Chamomileteaplease · 31/12/2019 21:42

Text rather than call, and say you are assuming they aren't coming now and tell them that's fine because you are going to bed now as you have to get up early.

Sorted Smile

WhatsInAName19 · 31/12/2019 21:44

It might be worth making sure they are alright. If I had a friend who was lonely/isolated and she and her daughter (a child?) didn’t turn up as agreed then I would be checking they were OK and nothing had happened to them.

Jozen · 31/12/2019 21:44

I send a text to your friend now saying

"Hi friend, not sure what you are doing but I'm off to bed now as early start tomorrow. Happy New Year and we'll catch up when I get back from holidays."

gamerchick · 31/12/2019 21:44

Text and say that you're going to bed and not to come around now as you're up early. Enjoy your trip.

Drum2018 · 31/12/2019 21:44

I would text her and wish her a happy new year, tell her you assume she changed her mind and that you are off to bed now. At least that way she won't turn up later on ringing the bell when you're gone to bed. Did she realise that she wouldn't be staying til midnight?

Berthatydfil · 31/12/2019 21:45

Hi friend, it’s now 9.45 and you haven’t arrived so I assume you have changed your mind. As you know I need to be up at 6 tomorrow so I’m sorry but just in case you were still intending to drop in I’m sorry but I need to be off to bed now so I can get a reasonable sleep and get up promptly. Happy new year x

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2019 21:50

Text and say you’re going to bed.

RumpoleoftheBaileys · 31/12/2019 21:53

Phone her. Ask where she is.

TowelStripes · 31/12/2019 21:54

What @Chamomileteaplease said!

Violetparis · 31/12/2019 21:54

Your friend has been very rude and inconsiderate.

CodenameVillanelle · 31/12/2019 21:55

Text her but make it clear you're going to bed and the plan is definitely no longer available

ButtonMoonLoon · 31/12/2019 21:55

I’d call her and say you’re tired and ready for bed - they can’t be that desperate for company if they still haven’t arrived at close to 10pm!

LagunaBubbles · 31/12/2019 21:56

Yep text and say you're going to bed

1foot2feet · 31/12/2019 21:57

Has she turned up yet OP?

Bunnybigears · 31/12/2019 21:57

Why have them round for NYE if you are going to bed at 11pm? What so they do then just sit in your living room by themselves?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 31/12/2019 21:58

I would have sent a text-
Any word?

Spied · 31/12/2019 22:02

Text at 10 and say you're off to bed.

bettybattenburg · 31/12/2019 22:13

Phone her, there might be a problem.

Seaandsand83 · 31/12/2019 22:19

Have you heard from them OP?

GabsAlot · 31/12/2019 22:21

TBH i didnt see the point of them staying till 11 anyway you shold have just said you were having an early night

paranoidmum2 · 31/12/2019 22:22

OP, it's ok to say no, you are leaving at 6am tmorrow, you should not be stressing about guests!

They are very rude to not text.

beautifulstranger101 · 31/12/2019 22:24

Well they can't be that desperate to be with people if they're an hour late can they?!
Text and say you're going to bed. Theyre being very rude.

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