I want to go to bed but my guests haven’t arrived yet!

[notanotherjigsawpiece]

We are going on holiday tomorrow morning and have to leave the house at 6am to get to the airport. I had planned to have some party bites and wine, then head to bed around 11pm. I hate being awake at midnight on NYE.

A friend asked this afternoon if she and her DD could pop round, rather than spend NYE alone. It’s been a horrible year for them and I didn’t want to refuse, so we all agreed they’d arrive at 8.30pm It’s now 9.30pm and no sign of them! I’m rather hoping they’ve fallen asleep or have decided not to come - my friend has form for this.

WIBU to go to bed soon and lock up if they don’t get here soon? I don’t want to ring, in case it prompts them to pop round. I am probably BU but what would others do?

Text her. I would assume the New Years is midnight to see in the New Year.

I don’t think it is okay to lock up and not let her know when she is expected even if she is late. Give her a text

I would be checking they are ok

I assume the OP has either gone to bed (good for her) or her guests have belatedly turned up !

Bon voyage, jigsaw. I hope all is well with your friends, and you told them you had to be up early.

That's so rude and annoying when people do that isn't it.

Text her and say you assumed she's not coming. Mention you are heading to bed and wish her a Happy New Years!

How rude

Thanks all . They arrived just after I posted, and now I’m feeling guilty for complaining! Thankfully I’m in bed now

I still think they were rude not telling you they were running so far behind

They were rude.
How long did they stay?
I'd have turfed them out at 11pm.

They stayed until 11.45pm! I did drop quite a few hints about being tired and having to get up early

One of my New Years resolutions is to be more assertive

Surely you might as well have seen in the new year by that point instead of sending them away 15 minutes before midnight

You had people over on New Years Eve but then kicked them out before the midnight celebration? I think you’ve got assertive nailed!

If you invite someone over on NYE they'd expect to see in the new year with you! I bet they were surprised you were kicking them out before midnight!!

‘New Years’ Means post midnight... v strange

If you invite someone over on NYE they'd expect to see in the new year with you! I bet they were surprised you were kicking them out before midnight!!

I didn’t invite them over though! They invited themselves over at short notice and I didn’t want to refuse

I'd be embarrassed to kick people out at 11.45 on NYE at least let them watch the fireworks!

You had people over on New Years Eve but then kicked them out before the midnight celebration? I think you’ve got assertive nailed!

I’d say!

No, you are all being too harsh!

They invited themselves over, I had been planning to go to bed at 11 as we had an early start this morning. I may have mentioned a couple of times that I was tired and dreading getting up so early for our flight, then they said at 11.45 they must head home, I didn’t kick them out! Now I’m feeling guilty

As long as you made it very clear when you said they could pop round that it wasn't till midnight.

You do know that the hardest part of NYE night is midnight ?

Pressed too early.

That's the part people dislike if they've had a bad year.

If I knew someone was getting up for an early flight I wouldn't have invited myself over, New Year's Eve or not.

You do know that the hardest part of NYE night is midnight ?

Yes. That’s why I like to be asleep for it! I find the fireworks, Auld Lang Sang, Jools Holland etc utterly depressing

If you had to be up so early and would kick them out pre-midnight, why not just say that when they invited themselves over? While rude to just invite yourself, it’s very odd to not tell them they’d have to leave before midnight