Reflections on the past decade

[Lvp82]

Personally the last decade has been crazy, I got divorced, then went you uni, had 2 babies, went no contact with family as it was toxic, learnt how to be a "grown up" and then met a guy 11 years younger who has ended up being amazing. Anyone else had a crazy 10 years? 😁

I know it's not really an aibu but I'm just happy.

The last decade has been crazy.
10 years ago I was married to an emotionally abusive and controlling man. I had toxic friendships which were linked to my marriage.
I've since relocated, got my dream job, made loads of fabulous new friends and met the love of my life who I married, bought a house and got pregnant with all within a year🤣

I'm happier now than 10 years ago

I love hearing peoples experiences. I also got a crazy puppy who has taken over our life despite never being a dog person 🙈

I got married, divorced. Met my lovely fiance and had a baby with him. I also managed to lose 7 stone although I've put about 3 back on.

I think politically and environmentally it's been the worst yet in my living memory (and I lived through the general strike/4 day week/plus 3 wars)

I think things are getting very bad and are going to get a whole lot worse

Got married. Had a baby. Got a better job. Then got an even better job. Saw DM for what she is. Made new friends. Lost some old ones. Turned 40. Travelled to places l could only dream of when l was a kid. DS turned 21. It's been great overall.

For me the low points, and there have been some major ones, are the ones that have made me. And tbh I've been shocked at them and how I've reacted and got over them that's amazed me. And I know theres a lot of people who have had to deal with 10x more. We should all applaud ourselves for doing it well 😊

LaurieFairyCake

The general strike was in 1926 - if you were around for that, surely everything pales into insignificance in comparison with WW2?

The last 10 years have been...extreme. Massive highs and massive lows. Met and married my husband, had my son, started my own company, lost my dad (in awful circumstances), lost my mum and my grandma. Bought 3 houses. Lost one of my horses. Moved house twice. I’m knackered.

Started the decade with a huge shock of twin pregnancy and to be honest it’s been one surprise after another since then. I could never have predicted how these 10 years have gone.

• Twins
• Moved house 4 times and country 3 times
• Overseas posting which changed our lives
• Repatriated unexpectedly early (out of our control) and realised home was no longer home
• Cancer
• Moved again - this time to another country in the U.K. and started all over again

Could never have imagined we’d be living where we are now, that our closest friends would all be on another continent, that we’d still be dealing with the daily aftermath of cancer or that we’d be the people we are now.

Completely agree @LaurieFairyCake. It’s bloody grim.

Had a baby.
Moved country.
Moved country again
Moved back to UK
Moved county
Lost 7st
Divorced because my exh was a cheater
Went self employed
Moved county
Moved county
Lost principle firm, so lost income
Moved county
Daughter stayed with Dad - very stressful
Got work
Met back up with love of my life
Moved in with said love of my life
Eldest moved out as adult
Got married
Got made redundant
Got new amazing job
In process of moving house

Tbh I'm in a bloody brilliant place now, and I hope 2020 continues in this manner

So much more happened to me in the last decade than the one before it!

I hope everyone has, like I have, become comfortabler in their own skin over time.

I wish everyone a very happy twenties

I was 21 ten years ago.

Finished my degree.
Completed a masters.
Became very ill but recovered fairly well after seven year.
Got signed for the rugby team I had been aiming for.
Completed my professional qualifications.
Had a ruptured appendix!
Had to give up rugby ☹️
Travelled with the world with a partner.
Became a Dad.
Bought a nice little flat.
Met someone who couldn’t be lovelier if he tried.

Last 10 years?
Dd1's mental health problems came to the fore.
Dd1 and 2 both graduated.
Dd2 moved in with bf/ got engaged...then called the wedding off.
DS got through High School and discovered his musical ability.
Dad went into care because of dementia.
Mum fell and failed and became old.
I found my balls and made a stand.
I got a new job..and then promoted.
I finished paying off my debts
Been an eventful decade

I would say it's been the most life changing decade for me- good and bad!

Lost a parent and supported both parents through several life threatening illnesses,
Lost my last remaining grandparents
Lost contact with one of my best friends
Gone non contact with half the family over thier behaviour after deaths in the family.
Moved house 3 times, into a new area which I love.
Promoted to my dream job which came with more responsibility,
Worked abroad in a developing country - a real eye opening and huge change in perspective
Got married, had my babies ( the biggest and best change by far!)

The culture and politics of the world have changed hugely in the past decade - sadly not for the better. Even back in 2015 I wouldn't have see Brexit, trump and the wave of terrorism across Europe. There's no sense in trusting leaders and I feel we need some sort of people's revolution in these strange times...

That said I'm excited for the next decade. We have huge challenges ahead but we will meet them. We have too....

Moved to the UK, studied an MA, got pregnant, got married, had the baby. Landed an amazing job, became a runner, lost 4st, divorced, met the man of my dreams, was made redundant, got a cat, then a dog, landed a job in an industry I love, had a baby with said man, couldn't be happier :)

Some things stayed the same .
Same house ,same dh ,same () lovely boys BUT have had highs and lows just like everybody I guess .
Took the plunge back to full time work and have since been promoted 3 times .
Been lucky enough to holiday in some fabulous places ,been to fabulous gigs and festivals ,kept and met some treasured friends
Parents (on both sides ) still with us though age and poor health are becoming an increasingly worrying factor .
DS1 ,who has a chronic mental health condition , is managing and has begun Uni and thriving but 2015 made us fear we wouldn't have him around much longer and I don't think I've ever been the same again though bursting with love and pride at how well he is now living his life
Currently trying to help DS2 deal with the events of 2015 which has now come out as a form of PTSD however he is a beautiful soul whose kindness and consideration shine through
DS3 ,worryingly ,showing some signs of also having similar issues to DS1 but we feel more equipped to help and support him (and he is funny ,clever and challenging in all ways !)
BUT-we keep going and we laugh and cry and talk (and shout ) together so that's what gets us through
Happy new year to you all

There were mass strikes in 1978 - I'm not that old !

@lauriefairycake

Wow, to have been alive in the general strike - in May 1926 - you must be at least 93 and to have any memory of it you would need to be close to 100!

I don't remember that, but I do remember the 3 day week (not the 4 day week) in 1974. The 70s are often seen as a bad time but for me, a teenager at the time, they were pretty good. Parents were not as protective as they are today, you could roam the streets with your mates all day and a blind eye was turned by parents, landlords and the police to underage drinking and smoking.

the past decade has been pretty successful for me and my family on a personal level but for the environment and the country it has been a disaster and there is no sign of any improvement in the foreseeable future.

Many people are to blame for this but there is one man whose disastrous incompetence stands out above and beyond.

David Cameron.

In the last 10 years. I've been made redundant twice. Completed a degree level professional qualification. Moved twice, had a hysterectomy at 34. Lost touch with good friends. Gone none contact with the majority of my family. Been promoted at my current job.

My husband has changed completely from the man I knew so going through a painful separation. Suffered with poor mental health.

BUT I am still here. I managing to keep the roof over our heads and look after the children and pets on my own and work full time

4 day week

In 1979

And the ambulances didn't attend emergencies in the city I lived in

And there was no electricity half the time

We were sent home from school on multiple occasions

Guessing you weren't in the city I was in

The last 10yrs have been the worst of my life.
My dd was murdered 4yrs ago. The evil bastard who murdered my Dd walked free on a NOT PROVEN verdict.
My Mum died 2yrs ago after a long battle with dementia.

The best thing to happen to us is the birth of Dd2. She was born 2mths after Dd1 died. She will never know her sister and that is really hard to deal with and accept.
I could not have got through the last couple of years without my DH or my Family.
In 2019 we were informed the evil bastard who murdered my Dd had died of a drug overdose.

Looking forward to what the next 10yrs bring at least i know it can't get any worse.
Happy New Year 🥂🥂