I didn't think you'd be a "crunchy mummy"

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Said to me. The reasons they think I'm a "crunchy" mum (whatever the fuck that means). I breastfed both children, with a few days gap in between, for a total of 4.5 yrs. I used a sling. I co slept with both, often still do with the younger (almost 3 yr old). I bake with them sometimes

Reasons I wasn't expected to be "crunchy" I wear "normal" clothes, wear make up, have tidy hair (sometimes) and go to work!!!

I'm a bit perplexed by this, from someone who I thought knew me quite well!

This what I found via Google
"According to Urban Dictionary, 'Crunchy Mom' is defined as, A member of an increasingly growing group of moms who are neo-hippies. They generally believe (for varying reasons) that there is something bad or less beneficial about buying mainstream products or doing other common activities in the mainstream way."
I wasn't able to breastfeed but co slept with both children until they were 4. I think it's a ridiculous term!

@RedRec do you live in Totnes by any chance?

runs away

CountFosco:

"Isn't a mum of three completely normal? Half the parents I know have 3DC."

Ha ha. Well that's not very "crunchy" is it? Sod the hippy things they do. If environmentally (for the green gases and Greta )
you're supposed to max have 2 kids.

Then the other bits of being a vegan and driving an electric car, not flying anywhere on holiday etc, won't matter anyway!

Didn't crunchy mum evolve from "crunchy granola mum"?

I remember the phrase being used on kellymom way back when, but it was roughly equivalent to lentil weaving.

It most likely comes from a position of feeling insecure and inadequate. You're doing great, no doubt they are too, we are all just made to feel like we aren't.

Apparently this meant that people should have understood that her child running round being disruptive in a church was a "free spirit”

She also wore jeans to church which she seemed to think was a radical move.

@NewName73 no, but very similar ethos! In the north. Would say where but it might be a bit 'outing'.

@NewName73 Nah. It's large ladies in purple dresses, normal little herberts in their school uniforms debating about how much fruit cider they can get away with drinking on the Gold Bus before Plymouth or women in expensive linen skirts herding the flocks measles ridden homeschooled in Totnes.

I reckon @RedRec lives in Glastonbury.

To worry I've turned into the attachment mum horror

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amii_being_unreasonable/2627336-To-worry-Ive-turned-into-the-attachment-mum-horror

Thanks so much to pp who linked the crunchy church mum thread. I remembered it, but laughed all over again.

Hebden Bridge?

@MitziK That's what I reckon ...

What’s the opposite of crunchy? That’s me no breastfeeding no sling no co sleeping. But I’m old and ‘normal’ for my era. Perhaps I’m smooth. Like different types of peanut butter. 😂

@MitziK, you got me . A sign on the way out, seriously, says 'That was SO Hebden Bridge' (caps emphasis mine, I think).

Perhaps I’m smooth.

. I like this.

I always wonder how friends know of such, to an extent, private matters.
I have no real idea of how my younger friends feed or sleep their wains.

I love crunchies - the chocolate bar. Yum. This thread is forcing me to go out and buy one.

I have no real idea of how my younger friends feed or sleep their wains.

Really? I know how all of mine do.

Another crunchy here... but also non obvious. Although I sometimes shout at DD 😂

3 kids definitely above average round my way (naice SE commuter town). Lots of onlys because parents want to afford private school.

Think if people say you don't look like you've got 3 kids it's a compliment, means you look good (time for make up/hair, clothing that isn't athleisure, exercise) as opposed to looking a bit run ragged.

Ah, I live in the north so the middle class all have big houses (and private school is cheaper, DD1 has several friends from 3+ families going to the local private school). The run-ragged mums are the overinvested parents of singles who do everything for them, those of us with 3+ are just super organised and have the DC doing as much as possible for themselves .

Completely disagree with the ssacale though. Most fluff lovers do use state school and TV.

Dunno June. Obviously, it was written just for fun off the top of someone's head, but lots of people do try to limit TV (at least half on Mumsnet, going by some threads I've seen). Plus you only have to relate to two of the descriptors from each category to move up a level.

@maddiemookins16mum well because I talk to my friends, i work in a fairly close knit team so talk to colleagues too. So, for example, when the dc were babies, if I met a friend/colleague, the baby would be in a sling. I mentioned that the youngest had one day given up bf (he had a night feed for about a year after dropping all others) and that I might dave for a boob job now my boobs were my own again (that's really not a "crunchy mum" thing to do...)

You’re exactly me!

Except I’m also fat, so apparently that’s quite crunchy aswell as the other stuff!

save not dave.....

I am known to be an animal lover, I have several, I frequent seem to come across animals in need, end up taking on poorly ones etc. There was a running "joke" at work that I hated children. I don't. I just don't go rushing over if someone brings a baby in. So the fact that I didn't take a colleagues advice and put the (cosleepibg, breasfed) baby in the cot and leave him to it, came as a surprise somehow! For the record, I wouldn't moan about the babies co sleeping and breast feeding, but people DO like to ask "if he sleeping through yet/in own room yet/ weaning yet?" Etc.

@Thehop I am also a bit fat. clearly that's the problem.

I live in a rural area, not at ALL diverse. Crunchy doesn't seem to be the norm.