To expect privacy

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Do you expect to have privacy when you are in a relationship? Would you expect your partner to be mindful when you are in the shower or getting changed? If you stated you would like privacy to change would this alter things? Dh thinks he’s entitled to be in the room when I change as I’m his wife just wondering what others think?

@TheMustressMhor thank you for your kind post. Been a bit teary and doing lots of reflection to be honest. In fact, it was another thread that made me reflect on things further. He takes photos of me(at home and in public) and shares them with his family without my permission. I’ve also had repeated assurances that he won’t show others or share them and yet again he does. He then plays the whole I’m only human card
He’s also got irate at the fact I deleted a personal photo he’d taken of me that made me very uncomfortable(fill in the blanks) and years later he still holds it against me since as far as he is concerned the photo was his. Even if I was ok about the photo at the time(and I’m not wholly convinced I was) surely I’m entitled to withdraw consent at any time?

You did the right thing deleting the photo. And yes, you do have the right to revoke consent at any time

OP, the more you post, the more I feel you're not in a good relationship.

@MulticolourMophead I’m definitely not in a good relationship and am seriously considering separation , I’m just not in a position to do so at present, although I’m definitely going to be putting things in place to facilitate leaving.

I'm so sorry to read your further updates.

I hope you'll carry on posting if you think you need advice and support. It doesn't sound like your husband has any respect for you at all.

If you have asked for privacy he should respect it. Years ago I was happy to undress/ dress in front of my husband now I'm overweight I like privacy as I no longer have body confidence. I hate it if I'm.getying ready fur a night out and it's like Piccadilly Circus in the bedroom

I’m very sorry to hear your updates and hope you are able to leave soon.

Of course you are entitled to privacy at whatever time you need it and regardless of the relationship you are in. A man doesn’t have the ‘right’ to see his partners body if she isn’t comfortable. You also did the right thing deleting a compromising photo he had of you. The photographing you and sharing it elsewhere is just another example of him walking all over your boundaries. He sounds horrid.