To be annoyed he doesn't know my phone number by heart

[rosieposies]

Been together 6 years and we have two children (one dd and dss who lives with us full time).

It's really pissing me off that he doesn't know my mobile number, he doesn't even have it written down on anything in his wallet. What if something happened and he needed to call me but didn't have his phone?? He says that will never happen and he's never needed it before.

AIBU here???

😂😂 been with DH 15 years, he’s always had the same number. I have no idea what it is apart from it starts 07

I'm married and with my dh 13-14 years. I don't know his phone number. Well, I lie, it ends with 69, because ha ha, that's rude.

The rest, no clue. Because I'm number blind.

Words, now there's something easy to remember, numbers? Impossible nonsense!

No idea what my exdh number is or was (and we were together 13 years and married for 10 , and no idea whatsoever about dp's. I did know it once but we had similar numbers only one number different. No idea since then.

This is the last thing that should be considered an issue

DH does not know mine and I only know DHs because he has only ever had one mobile phone number and has moved it from network to network since he was 17 (I knew him then), he's now 36. I don't know anyone else's mobile number. YABU

Seriously? I only know my own number because I’ve had to write it on so many forms for my business but other than that no I no no ones number that’s why I have a mobile.

Okay, so his phone is smashed. He's had an emergency and is responsive.
He can still log in elsewhere through icloud or google (others probably as well) and access his address book.
He could log into facebook, twitter whatever and send messages out.
If it's an emergency that requires emergency services they will help him make contact.

If the above and he isn't responsive even with a working phone, unless he has a medical alert set it means nothing.

Plus I'm sure my emergency numbers found their own way to my hospital medical stuff from my gps' surgery. I'm sure I just confirmed this was still correct.

I do know my partner's number but that's because it used to be mine. I don't know any other mobile numbers apart from mine and his. I have to have my work number written down because I can't remember it and have to give it out.

This isn't unreasonable. He ought to try to learn a contact number for you in case of an emergency where he can't use his own mobile. Your children also ought to be trying to learn a contact number for each of you and eventually each other.

Deliberately using the phrasing "contact number" rather than mobile number, as we're better at learning shorter sequences of digits than the 11 that make up mobile phone nos. Landlines generally only require you to learn 5 or 6 digits if you learn the area code separately. He may not be able to remember your mobile no. Try splitting your number into 5+3+3 digits to give him chunks to remember it more easily. There are about four mobile numbers I know very well - my sister, my lover and two people I used to work with - I dialled their numbers by hand often multiple times per day for over ten years.

I wouldn't make this an issue on anything other than the practical level.

Does he know your home/work landline numbers? If he doesn't know any of the numbers, try to persuade him to carry them on a credit card sized piece of paper in his wallet. If his parents or other relatives still have a phone number they've used for years that he knows, could they keep a list of useful phone numbers for him, to help out in case of an emergency?

The only numbers o know by heart is mine, my home and a friends old house number (because it memorable)

My parents mobiles, my ex's, any other other number. I haven't the foggiest. That's what my address books both physical and in my phone are for. I have a few emergency numbers on a credit card size card in my wallet.

Your head can only retain so much information and phone numbers make the cut

I've had the same number 12 years and only learnt it last year...

12 years, 2 children - no clue regarding mob number other than starts 07!

I'm married and we've been together 6 years. I don't know his number off by heart.

If I lost my phone tomorrow I'd tap into the cloud and find it if I needed to get hold of him or message him through the iPad (which would need charging as I haven't touched it for 6 months) or I'd wait for him to come home.

At best, this would be a 3 hour faff not something that would keep me awake at night

Very few people know numbers these days, find some other bit of trivia about which to get upset unnecessarily.

I don’t know DH’s number. I don’t know our landline either (never plugged in).
I do know my parents landline though.

When I lost my phone I contacted DH and others via email and Facebook messenger using a tablet.

Its a good idea to memorise it if you can but its not something to make a fuss about.

FWIW Yabvvvu.

In an “absolute emergency” you only need to contact 999.

If it’s not actually that much of an emergency, I would:

• attempt to charge my phone
• go into a nearby shop (etc) and ask them to call a taxi or if I could use their phone
• ask a passerby to use their phone to contact someone (on social media) or call a taxi home

Most people will be able to manage to navigate life without their phone, whether that’s due to low battery or poor service etc. Generally you just take yourself to a place of safety and figure something out.

What happens if you ask a passer by to call your memorised number of choice but they don’t answer the phone? By the time they call back, you might have said goodbye to the passerby. It’s not foolproof at all.

I know my number and XHs number. Don’t know DHs number. And he doesn’t know mine.

As long as he has his emergency contacts set up (assuming Iphone) then it would be fine. Likelihood us if his phone was entirely destroyed (eg in a car accident) he would not be in any fit state to trot out a memorised number anyway. The alternative is he is perfectly fine but his phone dies, he could borrow a charger (or carry a power bank to recharge himself if that is potentially going to happen)

Do you not have actual things, real life things, to be annoyed by?

Some people just don’t have a brain which remembers things like that. I barely remember my own number and license plate no!

It's names on phones! Nobody knows anyone's number anymore!

*I remember the number from Going live when I was little with Philip Schofield and Gordon the

01(If you’re outside London) 855 8055

But I only know my own phone number and that of the pub I used to work at in 1999.

mother most smartphones have an option to have an emergency contact on the lock screen, along with other information useful in an emergency. On an iPhone it comes up at the bottom left of the passcode prompt. I’ve set mine to show my name, DOB and DH name and phone no.

Been with my DP for 7 years, don't know his number fully of by heart. The only ones I do are my own and my moms

You are so lucky to have such little things to be annoyed about.

@rosieposies

YABU.

I legit do not know my DH's mobile phone number. I have his number in my phone book (on my mobile,) but just dial 'HUBZ!' sorry everyone....

Do NOT know his number, and he has had this particular one for 5 years.