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To be annoyed he doesn't know my phone number by heart

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rosieposies · 30/12/2019 21:06

Been together 6 years and we have two children (one dd and dss who lives with us full time).

It's really pissing me off that he doesn't know my mobile number, he doesn't even have it written down on anything in his wallet. What if something happened and he needed to call me but didn't have his phone?? He says that will never happen and he's never needed it before.

AIBU here???

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Original poster
rosieposies · 31/12/2019 08:33

Feeling quite 😮 that there are some good points here I never considered. I'm a very anxious person but honestly thought my feelings were valid.

Those of you suggesting that this is the only and most pressing issue in my life need to get off mumsnet and go outside though.

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kevintheorangecarrot · 31/12/2019 08:33

For Gods sake seriously? My husband of 10 years doesn't even know mine. I better divorce him!

happycamper11 · 31/12/2019 08:33

@KareyHunt I think some people have missed the tone 😆

I'm getting all nostalgic here now realising I can memorise both my own and those of several friends landline numbers from my teens. Of course they are utterly useless now as none of us live there but I guess they are etched in my brain forever

Original poster
rosieposies · 31/12/2019 08:34

Glad it's not just me @glastogal

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rosieposies · 31/12/2019 08:35

I'd like to just make it clear that being annoyed with my partner doesn't mean I'm going to leave him. Let's not get dramatic here.

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Scarsthelot · 31/12/2019 08:40

OP if you know you are anxious, generally, how come it's never entered your head that it's you being unreasonable.

I have anxiety. And going back and forth on wether you are right or not are common.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 31/12/2019 08:49

I know DP's number, and my dads and step moms, as well as my best friends home phone (which I haven't called since I was about 12 Grin).

I'm weird though and have a really good memory when it comes to phone numbers and reg plates. I can tell you my dads reg number from when I was about 9. I don't know why.

Can't tell you what I bought my sister for Xmas or what I had for breakfast yesterday though Smile

DP doesn't know my number but I do agree OP. It's important to know at least one important persons number.

SVRT19674 · 31/12/2019 08:51

My husband has had the same number for 10 years, don't know it by heart, just the three first numbers out of nine. I salute you for being so happy this is the only thing you find to moan about. He must be a saint.

Damntheman · 31/12/2019 09:03

I know several numbers by heart including my DHs (and also a BT chargecard number from my teen years and my old UK mobile number from 15 years ago..) but like GiveHerHell I also have a weird head for patterns and remembering numbers. Totally arse at remembering anything actually useful. I wouldn't expect DH to know my number :)

Aquathest · 31/12/2019 09:03

I wouldn't be annoyed but I do see where you are coming from OP. I know my DHs number and he has changed it a fair few times.
Also, my teenage DD's phone malfunctioned a few weeks ago and she knew I would be worried if I was unable to get in contact with her, especially as we were due to meet her afterwards. She had been out at the park with friends and used one of her friends phone to call me and let me know what had happened, so I could meet her at the park instead. She was only able to do so as she had memorised my number.

I know people coped with having no contact with their children before mobile phones and this situation is not an everyday occurrence; but in this day and age - knowing my number avoided unnecessary panic and anxiety for me and DD.

AllyBamma · 31/12/2019 09:07

Oh my god, get a life! You need a hobby, seriously 😂

JacquesHammer · 31/12/2019 09:08

I know both my parents, my sisters and my daughters by heart.

DD knows mine and her fathers and has various numbers written on a bit of paper in her school bag.

It’s just common sense IMO.

BecauseReasons · 31/12/2019 09:11

@AllyBamma

Really, crying with laughter? It's not that funny. Maybe you need to get out a bit more?

AllyBamma · 31/12/2019 09:17

@BecauseReasons you know that emoji aren’t necessary literal right? Like I don’t actually have hearts in my eyes when I use this one 😍 and I also don’t have a monkey covering their eyes too 🙈

Sweet burn though, keep fighting the good fight 💩

Grumpos · 31/12/2019 09:21

Lol no.
Yes in theory we are all fucked bc 99% of us have owned phones for 20 years and now don’t know or have no need to know phone numbers.

I think about this sometimes that it’s a bit risky but I don’t get pissed off with myself nor anyone else.

Seriously, write it down and put it in his wallet if you must and move on. Really not worth taking offence when YOU are in the minority and everyone else thinks like your DH

BecauseReasons · 31/12/2019 09:21

@AllyBamma my point is that your reaction was over the top and rather patronising and unkind to OP. She clearly felt it was a serious issue and your response smacked of a schoolyard bully. See how silly it looks when people do that?

avocadotofu · 31/12/2019 09:24

YABU, I don't know my husbands phone number and we've been together for 15 years.

Chunkyetfunky90 · 31/12/2019 09:25

I can remember my first home number 21 years later but dp mobile not a scooby

greenlavender · 31/12/2019 09:26

Been married 28 years. I have no idea what DH's mobile no is.

TriangleBingoBongo · 31/12/2019 09:27

I know my dads number, my own and my parents landline (because it was instilled into me as a child and they haven’t moved). Nobody else’s. Not DH’s. Every time I enter a race and need an emergency contact either ask DH if he’s with me or copy and paste from my contacts.

You’re BU.

TinselRelatedInjury · 31/12/2019 09:29

I have only managed to memorise DH's mobile no because I need it to log into the scan and go thing at the supermarket. It's similar to my DF's number so I kept getting them muddled.

I do know my own mobile but that's because I haven't changed number in the near 20 years I've had one, and the landline for our house and my parents' house (plus several landlines from old houses). Mobiles I find harder to retain for some reason!

AdoreTheBeach · 31/12/2019 09:31

My DH and I only know one another’s mobile numbers by heart because if years of form filling where we would need to our both our numbers. My mobile number is the only mobile number they know by heart - not even their own.

So YABU. Non-issue

CheeseAndBeans · 31/12/2019 09:31

YABU. I don't know OHs number. The only number I know off by heart is my dads as he has had the same once since the days before I had a mobile and had to call him the old fashioned way!

Newmetoday · 31/12/2019 09:32

No idea what my husbands number is. If I lost my phone or it broke, I’d use my Apple Watch To call him anyway so I’m not worried.

Actionhasmagic · 31/12/2019 09:32

Yabu

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