To be annoyed he doesn't know my phone number by heart

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Been together 6 years and we have two children (one dd and dss who lives with us full time).

It's really pissing me off that he doesn't know my mobile number, he doesn't even have it written down on anything in his wallet. What if something happened and he needed to call me but didn't have his phone?? He says that will never happen and he's never needed it before.

AIBU here???

Erm. If his phone is rendered unusable how is he going to call you anyway? I'm trying to work out a scenario where I'm in an accident so bad my phone is wrecked and I need to approach strangers for help but don't need emergency services. For example If my car broke down and by some weird fluke my phone did too, I have a card in my purse with the aa number on it. It would be handy to let dh know but not essential.

2 decades with my husband. Couldn't even tell you the last 3 digits of his number. However I still have my mother's landline down in the old memory vault so if absolutely necessary I could call her and she could phone him. My husband is the same...obviously remembering his mother's number not mine!

Very weird thing to be angry about

I only know my twin brother's, he got a mobile phone in 1995 and I didn't have one so I dialled it regularly on my home phone and learnt it.

You sound high maintenance and hard work.

Get a sharpie and write it on his arm or just grow up

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I know only my own, so long as it's said out the correct way!

If my numbers said the wrong way, I will be convinced its wrong😀😀

How funny, I don't know my DH number at all, and wouldn't even recognise it if I saw it. If my phone broke down I suppose I would go without contacting him for a few hours.

Remembering a number you never type because it is saved in your phone is a tall ask. DD knows mine because she had to give it out upon registration at an activity for two years straight, and I can recall my passport number from 20years ago because I backpacked for a years and had to write down that damn number 100s of times.

The only number I know is my mums due to her repeating it on the phone to other people for 20 years🤷‍♀️

I'm kind of with you, OP. My 4 year old knows my number off by heart.
Why does your partner not know yours? How difficult is it to remember 1 phone number?

The only mobile phone number I know is my dads, purely because he's had the same number for 20 years and my own number. All I can tell you about ne my DP's mobile number is that it starts with 07 🤷‍♀️

When the kids were small (before they had mobiles) we came across a market stall abroad that engraved bangles. We got them one each with my mobile number on it in case they got lost in the busy town. When they got older and started wandering to the shops with friends, we gave them a small card each with our numbers on which they kept in their wallet/purse. Now, as teenagers, they have mobiles. Perhaps the OP would feel happier if her partner had an engraved bangle?

I know my parents Landline number but that’s only because they’ve had the same one for 35 years and I used to live in that house, and I know my own number. I haven’t a clue what my partners number is and I can’t imagine he know mine.

I don't understand why you wouldn't

My DHs mobile is actually a work phone. Sometimes the organisation changes network and they don’t always keep the same number.

Some people change their phones and numbers more often than they change their socks. We need contact numbers at work and many of our families come in and give us new numbers at least once per term! Not everyone realises how easy it is to keep your number so many don’t bother OR have a reason for not keeping the old number.

The last time I memorised a phone number was in 1998 🤷‍♀️

I don’t know how anyone doesn’t know their own number? I write mine down/type it into something all the time and I don’t think that’s unusual.

I know several landline numbers (that are still in use by family & friends) from pre mobile days (I am a dinosaur - hear me roar).

I know DH’s mobile, but no one else’s. Kids know my mobile & have since being quite small (and have needed it at times).

I always think I should try to remember a couple more. I have an
iPhone, so I guess my contacts are ‘in the cloud’ but I’d have NO idea how to access them. I’ve just assumed I’d only use that facility if I bought a new phone & I’d be able to use the screen prompts to download all of that from the cloud?!

Your DH should learn a few useful numbers or carry a note if them, but it’s hardly something to be upset/angry about that he hasn’t 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know my DH’s number but that’s because I have a memory for things when I’ve had to write it out so many times.

I’ve tried to get the dcs to remember mine but it’s difficult as they’ve never needed it.

Reminds me to write the key numbers down somewhere.

DH doesn’t know mine.

The only reason I think this might annoy you Op is because of a bigger issue?

Don't even know my mum and dads phone number and I've known them for 40 years and 2 months lol. I don't know DD's or DP's either. I think mobile phones ended the need to memorise numbers off by heart. The only persons number I know is my own

I know my own mobile off heart only due to having to read it to so many people when sorting medical things for ds.

I know my mums because she has had the same number for years and the pattern is very easy to follow

My partners? Not an idea. He is marked as the emergency contact in my phone but that’s it.

I know DH’s, he’s had the same one since 2004, so it’s stuck in my head now. It took me a good 5+ years to know/recognise my own though.

Pmsl I don't even know my number never mind DP lol

Does no one have the fear that one day you will be stranded and need to know a significant others phones number? Sorry this baffles me.

Surely if you're stranded and a phone number is useful it means you have your phone? If you don't, the number is pretty useless. If you are able to access a device I'd probably use fb messenger or something- someone is always contactable on there

If you have it memorized and are in an accident or experience a traumatic event, you are likely to not be able to recall that number anyway.

Does no one have the fear that one day you will be stranded and need to know a significant others phones number? Sorry this baffles me.

Maybe this thread will help you realise that your ‘fear’ isn’t one held by the majority. Not that you’re wrong to feel the way you do but to appreciate, it isn’t as universal as you thought it was.

. My dad kind of drilled it into me that I should always know my next of kins number in case of an emergency and I guess it stayed with me.

Well yes this was reasonable advice in 1985 before the internet, social media, the days of little devices that act as both phone books and phones

I wouldn't be annoyed by this but I do find it odd how many people don't know their partners number. Phones are not so trustworthy that this isn't necessary anymore. I'm forever forgetting mine/letting it run out of battery/it dies for no apparent reason (bloody iPhones). I don't remember the last time I needed to remember DP's number to let him know something but I can totally see how a situation might come to where I might need him to pick up DS and I may have to borrow a phone to get in touch with him. I have done similar before.

DH after ten year still doesn't know mine, last year I wrote it down and popped it in wallet where it has remained every since. No biggie