To not go to a party where I’m expected to get drunk?

[Uninvited01]

My friend holds a yearly party at their house in January. There are always loads of people, music, food and alcohol. It’s an unwritten rule that you aren’t allowed home unless you’re off your face drunk. I’ve been for the last several years and when I was younger would fully throw myself into them, have a few drinks and a laugh and spend the next day feeling awful. I’m older now, and rarely drink. When I do, it’s 1-2 drinks at most and I have no desire to be drunk. I went to this party last year, had 2 drinks and left at 10pm, pretty much sober. It was pretty boring because everyone else was drunk and I was being questioned as to why I wasn’t drinking and pressured into drinking more I.e my glass being filled up when I hadn’t even asked for it to be. I’m thinking of not going at all this year but I feel like a boring party pooper for not going.

YABU - just go and not drink
YANBU - stay at home!

Nah! Stay at home with some sausage rolls and Pringles and a nice pot of tea and you will have a much better time.

YANBU steer clear and do something else. It’s sad that our society is this way.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d have been all over that in the past, but I don’t have the stamina or inclination these days and I get what you’re saying about the pressure to drink.

Wonder if it’s a British thing. Must be so hard if you don’t drink. Always having to explain yourself.