Would it be unreasonable to expect in-laws to do some (minimal) baby-proofing if they want us to come and stay with them?
DS is just over a year old, very mobile (walking proficiently) and loves doing anything he shouldn't. He rarely follows instructions when I tell him not to touch something - if anything, it seems to encourage him. We try to get him to follow instructions but know he's probably a bit young for that and just try to keep the rooms he is in at home fairly safe.
We went to stay with my family over Christmas. They are fairly minimalist and did some baby-proofing (eg stairgates) which meant that I could relax whilst I was there.
The in-laws have asked us to come and stay with them for a couple of days and it seems mean not to when we have just been to visit my parents, but the in-laws' house is full of clutter and they don't seem to do anything in preparation for us coming over.
I don't know how to put this into words but they also just seem to be lacking in common sense a lot of the time. Last time we went over I ended up with a small piece of glass about the size of a fingernail in my mouth because MIL had seen this random piece of glass somewhere in the house, put it on the kitchen counter and then it accidentally ended up in the food. I don't know why she hadn't just put it in the bin?? I was lucky that it didn't cut my mouth and I spat it out. They also drink endless cups of hot tea and I get nervous that they will leave them in places DS can reach or spill them on him. I can't remember exactly what is in their living room but from memory it is chock-full of ornaments etc. and I don't think they would think of moving them out the way. They are the type to go on about "health and safety gone mad" every time I see them so I expect any requests to maybe make one room a little less cluttered (eg moving all the tiny coffee tables that DS will pull over) would go down like a lead balloon.
I'd love it if they would come to stay with us instead but DH has said they wouldn't want to do that (I'm not clear why). We also cannot visit for a day this time apparently because FIL has some alcohol that he wants to share with DH without having to give us a life back to the station so it has to be at least a couple of days. I could suggest us getting a taxi but from speaking to them I think they are dead keen on the idea of us coming for a couple of days 🤷♀️
What should I do? I expect I just have to suck this up and do it even though it's going to be incredibly stressful trying to get DS to behave in their home. I'm back at work now so don't really want to spend my time off chasing a toddler around an unsafe room. Is there anything I can realistically do here that would be socially acceptable?