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Original poster

To think she could have bought more than one pear!

105 replies

PearyNice · 30/12/2019 00:28

Just interested what other people think as clearly this isn't a huge issue!

We (DH and I) went to stay with my parents recently. We only manage to get everyone (siblings and parents) together once or twice a year so it was kind of a special occasion, everyone had taken leave, holiday atmosphere etc.

My parents went out to the local naice deli to get something for lunch and when they came back my mum was raving about how lovely the pears they had in looked/smelled and how much she really fancied a pear. Obviously after hearing this I really fancied a pear too! She then took out the shopping and proceeded to eat her pear with gusto telling us all how delicious it was. AIBU to think it's strange to only buy one lovely pear when you've got your whole family round?!

For context we'd not just rocked up expecting to be provided for - we went out to the shops when we arrived and bought nice things as well as essentials like milk for everyone to use/enjoy. We cooked dinner, treated everyone to a meal out etc.

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Wallabyone · 30/12/2019 01:44

That thread is so funny Grin

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 30/12/2019 01:57

Fucking hell, I want a pear now. A properly cutted up William pear, none of your Conference shite.

Pilot12 · 30/12/2019 02:05

Yes YABU. Your Mum fancied a pear and treated herself to one, what's wrong with that. Maybe it was too expensive to buy one for everyone, maybe there weren't enough for everyone. It's only a pear, get yourself down to the shop if you want one that badly.

Why are you so wound up about it that you needed to create a post about it?! Calm down and get over yourself.

Original poster
PearyNice · 30/12/2019 02:08

I'm not wound up about it, I just wondered what others thought.

Why are you so wound up about a light-hearted thread in AIBU 😂

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Redshoeblueshoe · 30/12/2019 02:10

Sadeye I have a William 🍐 🌲 in my garden, it was prolific this year, in fact I could have given everyone on here several pears.
I made 🍐 🍷 and everything Xmas Grin

madroid · 30/12/2019 02:12

I think your mum probably enjoyed the pear more because no one else had one. You should definitely go nc and join stately homes.

AravisQueenOfArchenland · 30/12/2019 02:12

I would quite like a pear now too...

Creepster · 30/12/2019 02:37

I was taught that sort of behavior is rude when I was six.

Original poster
PearyNice · 30/12/2019 03:08

Yes! If I make the mistake of eating something unexpectedly delicious when other people are around I feel compelled to share so they can enjoy it too (and not just share my thoughts haha).

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 30/12/2019 03:10

YANBU, who does that?!

"Oh I've seen these lovely fruits but I only bought one for me which I will now eat right in front of you all but you can't have any because I only bought one for ME!"

Rude.

SpoonBlender · 30/12/2019 03:20

She's just wrong. Anyone sane would have bought half a dozen.

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 30/12/2019 03:21

Damn it Op, I want a pear now too.
It's really weird for someone to do that tho. Is she generally a bit passive aggressive or just crap at self awareness?or maybe the pear looked so inviting that everything important in her life swizzled down into this juicy,non floury, rarest of specimens and she just thought fyck the lot of you. I got this pear and I'm going to enjoy the everloving fuck out of it.

I'm sad tho that you didn't post this whilst still in situ . Imagine the fun you could have had all enjoying one singular item, in front of her, with gusto. I'm imagining you trying to pull a fabulous cracker by yourself as it just looked so tempting. Or a walnut someone else conjured from a pocket and cracked open, with gusto.
I think you might have missed a trick there op And I'm disappointed.

OvenGlovesWillTearUsApart · 30/12/2019 03:23

One pearl? Is she usually this shellfish?

(I, too, am illiterate.)

Definitely go NC.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 30/12/2019 03:29

redshoe can I come and live with you? I'll be really nice & helpful, in exchange for a pear or two.

Thetruthwillout80 · 30/12/2019 03:33

Are you sure she didn't hide the rest?

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 30/12/2019 03:37

If you want a pear so badly just go and buy one,..😂

CilantroChili · 30/12/2019 03:51

A good pear is hard to find so please be gentle with this pear of mine 🎶

HirplesWithHaggis · 30/12/2019 03:51

So, all the adult children, plus partners/kids are assembled at the parents house. Parents go to local deli to get loads of nice stuff for everyone, but the senior adult woman (mum) isn't allowed to get herself a treat? Exactly htf do you share a single pear between a dozen people? Was every other adult rendered incapable of going to the same shop to purchase more pears? YABU. Harrumph.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 30/12/2019 04:50

Yes YABU. Your Mum fancied a pear and treated herself to one, what's wrong with that. Maybe it was too expensive to buy one for everyone, maybe there weren't enough for everyone. It's only a pear, get yourself down to the shop if you want one that badly. Why are you so wound up about it that you needed to create a post about it?! Calm down and get over yourself. I think this poster is the one who needs to "calm down and get over yourself"! It's clearly a lighthearted thread and isn't breaking any talk guidelines.

OP I do think what your mother did was weird and kind of rude. There was a thread a while ago where there was a family gathering, all adults except a 6yo. Her grandad and many posters said she was rude for not offering it round everyone despite them all having their own cakes. There were other factors at play there but yes it's pretty weird and rude to buy something for yourself only and drone on about it. All in all yanbu.

ambereeree · 30/12/2019 06:17

But weird to buy only one. Surely you pick up 4 or 5? If it was a cake people would understand your annoyance more.

kateandme · 30/12/2019 06:32

only way a pear is nice is when its in a pear and frangipan tart

PapayaCoconut · 30/12/2019 06:42

I have a William 🍐 🌲 in my garden

But is there a partridge in it?

QuillBill · 30/12/2019 07:01

Can you imagine if the only posts people started were about hard hitting important topics? This post is the very epitome of a MN post.

I agree with you. If you see something delicious looking like that you but half a dozen. Especiallypears which seem to have about a half hour window of deliciousness.

Fieldofgreycorn · 30/12/2019 07:09

I quite like them firm and crunchy. Nice and crisp.

3luckystars · 30/12/2019 07:13

Well how did she know it was nice if she hadn't eaten it yet??

I think she ate another one on the way home an has a pear problem. I would be more concerned about that.