wife wanted a cake baking?

[armitasp]

I genuinely not sure if I was being unreasonable or not. Just before Christmas my wife came home from work about 19:00 and said they were having a party at her work the next day and she said she would bring a cake. I said I'll pick one up at the supermarket when I go out. She said no, I want you to make one. (Some background, I enjoy baking and often make cakes and desserts). I said you didn't think to ask me before now, I've been at work all day and am tired. My wife didn't take it well and stormed off in a huff. I felt bad and made a cake. I was proud of the cake I made, it wasn't up to my usual standards. However, that wasn't from spite, it was just I was genuinely tired and I didn't get it finished until nearly midnight. Was I being unreasonable or not? I don't know whether I should have been pissed off with DW or not?

If you knew she were coming, would you have baked the cake?

whistles

I don’t get what the AIBU is? Are you asking if you’re being you reasonable for the cake not being up to scratch or for hesitating initially about making it?

It sounds as though she came home, asked (demanded) for a cake to be made, got cross when you said you were tired but you made it anyway. How does that make you in any way unreasonable?

Does she often get you second guessing like this?

I bake a lot and non bakers think it doesn't require thought or much effort; if I ask what to bring for a dinner party, people often say "oh I haven't made a pudding, there's 8 of us" - turning to your situation, I expect your wife doesn't really appreciate the effort and has probably told her colleagues how marvellous your baking is, so didn't want to turn up with a shop bought cake. I don't really understand why you are ruminating on it now, and suggest you don't give it a second thought.