To think you shouldn't have parties in residential areas?

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I know I’m probably being a grinch, and I know that it’s Christmas and people want to have fun.
But why oh why do people have house parties with 20+ people in a 3 bed semi on a housing estate.
This particular house backs onto at least 5 other houses and they are SO bloody loud.
They party with the patio doors wide open and their drunken voices in a small garden really carry.
Plus every 2 minutes someone chucks a bottle in the recycling bin causing a humongous clatter.
My preschool kids are wide awake, the dog is pacing and unsettled because of the shouting and crashing and I can barely hear my own tv.
I just find it really inconsiderate. Their language is foul and my kids can hear every word, they’re playing some drinking game where they keep screaming a countdown from 10-1 and now they’re starting karaoke.
Surely meeting in a pub would be more sociable than keeping at least 5 households and their kids awake until the early hours of the morning.

Oh god. Now they’re singing 5ive. Could this get any worse?

Well to be fair it's not the early hours. And people like to entertain in their homes and are entitled to do so. If it's not a regular occurrence and it's not very late then I don't think you have much recourse, although I know it must be really frustrating.

If they live in a residential area where do you suggest they have the house party?

If its every week then that's another matter. If it's going on super late I'd go knock on their door and ask them to turn it down /contain noise better shutting doors n windows etc

I just don’t get why their need to entertain trumps the needs for numerous small children to fall asleep.
Honest to god it’s like they’re partying under my bedroom window. I’ve never heard a racket like it. And I’m a good 4 houses away from them too.

Where else are they supposed to have the party? It's the holiday season and the occasional party is hardly excessive. I'd find it irritating but I'd put it up with at this time of year.

I don’t think I’ve actually had a house party since I was 18 at uni.
We have people round for drinks/nibbles, perhaps a max of 8 people and doors and windows are kept shut and music down low.
Not 20 people screaming at the top of their lungs in my garden, smashing glass and singing karaoke like they’re in a bar.

YANBU. Bloody inconsiderate! I hate the loud bass music the most.

It is horribly selfish of them but there isn't any point approaching them at this time and while they are drunk. They won't do anything and will tell you it's really early still etc. They clearly have no consideration of other people if they are being loud enough to even annoy neighbours they share a wall with. The most you can do is talk to them when they are sober - be calm and explain what problems it caused your family before getting angry at all. It's possible that by the time it got bad enough to be such a problem they were too drunk to notice so reasoning with them won't work now.

Re kids can you read to calm them down, play quietly etc?

I agree with other posters. As an occasional thing I couldn't be too annoyed, although I would find it frustrating if my toddler was kept awake. Can you play some relaxing music or white noise in the kids bedroom to distract them and help them get to sleep? That worked for us before (to be fair it was us having the party...)

*even annoy neighbours they don't share a wall with...

Yeah I might try white noise. We’ve got a really expensive day out planned tomorrow which we saved up to buy tickets for, so the kids are gonna be absolute joys when we wake them at 7am!

YADNBU. Work out your local authority rules on noise and if they're breaking them, talk to them tomorrow (bright and early) and explain that next time there will be a formal complaint. Where I am, unreasonable noise is not allowed at any time - it's one thing to be forgiving of a bit of noise over Christmas but from your post it sounds bloody antisocial to me!

YANBU. A neighbour of mine is terminally ill, another has a newborn. My friend’s autistic son can not handle loud, unpredictable noise. If some drunk twats were screaming it would piss me off, lord alone knows how the other households would feel.

It’s completely selfish, there’s a few really cheap social clubs in the area (Conservative Club/Labour Club/Liberal Club etc.) who would be glad of the business I’m sure, as well as the regular pubs.

That particular party you are complaining about, or those particular neighbours, may be annoying but it is not exactly late yet, and I think saying that no one should ever have parties in residential areas is ridiculous. Parties in general = fine, if they are not every weekend and don't have huge numbers and club-style sound systems.

I live in an area with a lot of students, and some of them do have massive speaker stacks (blasting out drum'n'bass) and parties with bouncers etc. Unfortunately the end of the university's academic year, with all the accompanying parties, tends to be in the middle of A-level and GCSE season, so not great for younger neighbours.

Do your neighbours have loud parties often? If it gets really bad and carries on late you could try calling the police but at this time of year I doubt that they will be that bothered.

I don't think there is a problem with a household having an occasional party. But they are selfish to have the doors open & people being loud in the garden. And should be more considerate with the overall noise.

It's still quite early. I'd go over there and ask them to keep it down if they are still disturbing you after 11 / 12.
My neighbours are awful and we've had to go round there at 4 in the morning before. They don't even care.

I hired a room in a pub for a party earlier this year. It was £50 for the evening including your own barman.
They don’t have parties a massive amount, perhaps once every 6 weeks. But that’s once every 6 weeks that numerous people around them have to suffer so they get to entertain their rowdy friends.
This is the loudest they’ve ever had guest wise this. I can hear every single word of every single screamed conversation. It seems that this party is mainly taking place in the garden.

It should be possible to have a party without making a noise outside at this time of year, although it's difficult if you are in a semi/terraced house with wafer thin walls.

In the summer it's more difficult but 11pm should be the cut-off outside (at weekends, earlier on school nights). It's only showing off what a wonderful time you're (not) having to the neighbours, I find it so childish when people get drunk and start shouting at each other (either in a friendly or unfriendly way).

Noise pollution is a big problem.

people like to entertain in their homes and are entitled to do so not entitled to make a big noise though. It IS possible to entertain without being a pain in the eardrum!

People shouldn't have parties in residential areas that keep other people awake, or spoil others enjoyment of whatever they are doing. It is selfish.

Socialising at home does not have to descend into pounding music and drunken shouting in the street. Why does their wish to drink and be stupid trump a toddler's need to sleep at night, my need to sleep so I can be awake at work tomorrow, elderly or infirm people needing to recover from illness etc??

What @CommunistLegoBloc said in the first reply.

They have shut the patio doors a couple of times for a minute or so and it reduced the noise by about 70%. But they’re obviously very hot in a house crammed full of bodies. We back onto them, so me going round means walking onto my street, down an alleyway and back onto their street. And I’m not dragging the kids out at this time of night. Although maybe it would show them the error of their ways with a 2 year old knocking on their door!

Noise laws (in Scotland anyway) don’t kick in until 11. And I think it’s unreasonable to say no one should ever have parties in residential areas! Yes, hiring a social club may be only £50, but then everyone has to buy every drink on top of that - house parties are way cheaper.

They’ll definitely be going on until the early hours if previous parties are anything to go by.
I’ve been up with a teething child for nights on end and I’m bloody tired too! Debated ear plugs but need to hear the kids in the night.

I think its inevitable that people will have parties from time to time but its all about how you do it.

In the time I've lived in my quiet suburban road I've had one gathering which went on after 11pm and there were 10 people: I had it on a Saturday night, I warned the immediate neighbours beforehand and made sure that doors and windows were closed. And music turned down by 11. All guests gone by 1am.

I think its reasonable to do it once in a blue moon and at Xmas its more likely than any other time of the year. But if its a regular thing and done without consideration then it is going to get other people's backs up. I certainly think in a residential area loud thumping bass after midnight should be a no no.

Our University student neighbours are having a new year party with DJ and decks. In a three bedroom semi detached house.

We share a wall with them and they would not take into account our sons autism, so we are booked into a hotel with a pool 10 minutes down the road. Ridiculous that we have to do this. They thanked us for “compromising”!

Email sent to letting agency and uni, as having a DJ in a residential area is just unacceptable and against Uni advice. But what can we do?

Can you imagine the uproar if parties in residential areas were BANNED? YAB ridiculous.