To think you shouldn't have parties in residential areas?

[itchity]

I know I’m probably being a grinch, and I know that it’s Christmas and people want to have fun.
But why oh why do people have house parties with 20+ people in a 3 bed semi on a housing estate.
This particular house backs onto at least 5 other houses and they are SO bloody loud.
They party with the patio doors wide open and their drunken voices in a small garden really carry.
Plus every 2 minutes someone chucks a bottle in the recycling bin causing a humongous clatter.
My preschool kids are wide awake, the dog is pacing and unsettled because of the shouting and crashing and I can barely hear my own tv.
I just find it really inconsiderate. Their language is foul and my kids can hear every word, they’re playing some drinking game where they keep screaming a countdown from 10-1 and now they’re starting karaoke.
Surely meeting in a pub would be more sociable than keeping at least 5 households and their kids awake until the early hours of the morning.

It's a noise nuisance if it's in antisocial hours regardless of the holiday/purupose. I'd wait till midnight before calling either environmental health or knocking on their door to politely ask them to turn it down.

People with kids will often have a trampoline in the garden. Or a dog that barks. Or a paddling pool with kids playing in the summer. Or bbqs/birthday parties. Or audible musical instrument practise... Living around other people means living with the noise they make, and an occasional patty where noise can be heard at 10pm is not ridiculous...

If it's that loud and disruptive then you could call the non e.ergency police number (101 I think?) to come round and have a word with them. However if it's a one off then I'd be tempted to just leave it.

@itchity I feel your pain. We live in a residential estate full of family homes with lots of children around yet we have a couple of bloody annoying neighbours in the area that throw the odd party often until 3am. Thankfully it's quite a rare thing but it really drives me insane to think how thoughtless they are being considering there are so many kids asleep in the area that they could be disturbing. It's the drunken singing that annoys me most. We have a neighbour who has converted their garage into a bar but luckily it's not used all the time but expect it probably will be at NYE.

Parties every 6 weeks, spilling out into the garden with lots of shouting and shrieking would piss me off. Particularly if they go on after 11pm.

The thing is what’s classed as a party? We had around 13 people around just before Christmas. Am sure that would cause the same issues you mention - patio door opening, clinks from the bin etc.

Sorry but I wouldn’t be hiring a hall to have 11 friends around. I warned (and invited) my neighbours, made sure that after 11pm the noise was low etc.

We have a big house party every year. We live in a residential area, albeit in a detached house with a decent sized garden, so we aren't 'on top' of the neighbours. We prewarn the neighbours and we make sure that by 11ish at the very latest the patio doors are shut and people come inside.

I think on that basis, people can put up with it for one night a year? However, I see that you've said this happens every 6 weeks or so, which is a bit cheeky really.

If it continues much later OP, I'd be pissed off, and as others have said, maybe pop round in the morning and have a word.

Meh! As long as it's not too often then live and let live.

You've brought your kids into almost every post OP but the world doesn't evolve around other people's children.

I remember lying in bed as a child and trying to drop off to sleep when neighbours had the occasional party. It was just one of those things and we all coped.

Do you have a garden hose with a long range?

I have kids the same age and our neighbours had a party last week and the kids didn’t notice as our windows were shut. I think every week would be annoying but it is Christmas so let it go. What is the expensive activity that will be ruined? Can’t they nap in the car if still tired?

I hired a room in a pub for a party earlier this year.
and no one lives close to the pub?
You are a totally unreasonable, irresponsible NIMBY but its OK for me to inconvenience anyone I choose when I want a party.
I live opposite a pub (when I moved in it was a restaurant, no late nights, drinking outside, loud music...) Regular pub hours are generally OK. V quiet over christmas, but generally weddings every bloody weekend, often until 1am.
The other weekend I endured twenty minutes of bagpipes in the street after midnight, then went over and told them to shut the fuck up.

The twats that decide to come and lean on my balcony to smoke are liable to get wet if I suddenly need to wash it.

YANBU it’s really rude and inconsiderate. By all means have a party. Let your neighbours know and give them a number to contact you if they’re disturbed. Invite an appropriate number of people and keep the noise to a respectful level. Keep the doors and windows shut. Turn the music down after about 10pm. Parties are not the problem - it’s inconsiderate selfish people who think their right to enjoy themselves trumps everyone else’s right to peace and sleep.

You have my sympathy, a few friends round for drinks and nibbles is fine but it sounds like your neighbours are inconsiderate, foul mouthed slobs.

Yadnbu Op.
I've had words with my neighbours in the upstairs flat today. They are new in the building and up until they arrived it was a very peaceful place to live.

I was sat watching a movie then the loud music starts, and I can hear the movie anymore. Why should my life in my home be disrupted. How is that ok?

People who play loud music are bloody selfish.

So now Im constantly living on tenterhooks not knowing if I'm going to be able to have an ordinary relaxing evening.

Makes me sooooo angry. If you want to socialise go to the pub.

I agree OP folk are just selfish twats. Have a party fine, but why have to be so load with blaring music, doors and windows open?! What a pain in the arse.

Hopefully it is just a one off.

@Charm23 do you live in Midlothian?

@Furrybootsyecomfy Nope :) Did you think I was your neighbour? lol

Karaoke at quarter to 10, tame! 😂

Jokes aside, yabu if this is a one off, yanbu if this happens often

If it's that loud and disruptive then you could call the non e.ergency police number (101 I think?) to come round and have a word with them.

Ha. No.

Years ago I was having a very bad few weeks - my mum was in a hospice and I was spending every waking moment there, and I was in agony waiting for an operation myself.

Came home one night and our new neighbours (adjacent semi detached building, attic flats) started a party at 11pm with the loudest, most obnoxious EDM - each track got worse and worse. They had a balcony which was next to our bedroom window - they spent the night out there whooping, yelling, screaming, laughing their heads off. I had no way to get to them as they were in the next building, didn’t even know the flat number.

Around 1am I opened the window and shouted at them to turn it down, they laughed and turned it up, then it was great fun for them to make as much noise at us as possible.

So we called 101. They told us it wasn’t a police matter and to call the council. Turns out the council phone lines close at 1am on a weekend so we had missed them.

Tried 101 once more about 4am, begging them to just send someone round and ask them to keep it down - they said they would if they had time. It didn’t stop until 8:30am so I’m guessing the police didn’t have time.

I could quite honestly have throttled the lot of them. I was so angry.

We didn’t have kids then and I can’t imahine how much worse it would have been if they’d woken our kids up like the pricks around here who set off fireworks for the entirety of November from 8pm to midnight

@Charm23 not mine, but I definitely know somebody with a garage converted to a bar and was getting paranoid! Although we are bit tame and usually stick to board games and Eurovision
Parties are annoying, but any noise is annoying when it’s not yours. I used to do nightshifts, and would get woken up by kids playing in the garden, family get togethers, parcels getting delivered for my NDN at work. Unless it’s a weekly event, and unless you can move out to the middle of nowhere, I think it has to be accepted as part of communal living.

What you need is a big disco speaker. Then play the twats at their own game. Absolutely blast them! If they want you to be quiet then they have to be quiet too.

I feel your pain. My next door neighbours decided to crank up some sort of folk/ dance music 2 am Xmas morning so loud my 2 and half year old was woken up and then couldn't understand why she could go and see if father Xmas had been, bless her.
Damn inconsiderate!

Yanbu, no matter what time it is no one should impose themselves on neighbours in this way. And every month or so is too much Imo.

It's fine to have a party occasionally but you should be considerate unless it's NYE do it on a Friday or Saturday night. Once it gets late take it inside (and close windows and doors) and have the music lower.

Once a month is too often!