What was your proposal like?

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I'm sat reading romantic claptrap because I love a bit of escapism and the main character just proposed in a really romantic setting with a bespoke ring to the love of his life blah de blah. Cynical, me?

It got me thinking that no one has ever proposed to me. I proposed to my exH because I was stupid and led to believe I couldn't do better than an abusive twat and I'm now divorced and in my 40s, happily single, and accepting of it being unlikely to happen to me.

The Hollywood ideal type proposal is pushed into our psyches from such a young age that I wanted to ask what your proposal was like? Was it like you imagined? Was it romantic? Funny? Original? A disappointment? An anti-climax? Do you wish it had been different or did the importance of the question make everything else insignificant?

I know lots of couples just decide to get married now with no actual proposal but if you did get a proposal I'd love to hear about it.

My dad was very romantic yet I don't know how he proposed so I'll ask my mum tomorrow when I see her. I'd love to know more of their story. My dad died a few years back now and it would be lovely to hear about when they were first together.

I'm a sucker for romantic stories yet don't really believe in romance.

The Acropolis on a gloriously sunny day and absolutely heaving with visitors. He dropped to one knee and proposed while I giggled with nerves. At this, an American tourist shrieked with delight, "Did you guys just get engaged? We gotta get a picture!" and snaffling his camera, did her best to capture the moment but was thwarted by what seemed like a cast of thousands streaming past.

After a few minutes, she lost all patience and yelled, "Hey, you guys, can't you see we're trying to get a picture here? Now MO-O-VE!"

Now I have no idea what the lady did for a living but her voice control was impressive and her "don't mess with me" tone transcended all language barriers. The crowd parted like the Red Sea and kept a respectful distance till she signalled she was done.

Our engagement photo shows the two of us beaming from ear to ear in front of the Parthenon with not a single soul in sight. That was 28 years ago. Still happy.

On one knee, under a full moon on an exotic beach. Champagne served afterwards from a bemused waiter who couldn't work out if my tears were happy ones or not! That was nearly 15 years ago.

Dh took me on a mini break (it was coming up to a big birthday at the time so assumed it was for that). He did do the whole down on one knee in a fancy restaurant thing and it was lovely... but we enjoyed going to a pub after.

I was never too interested in getting married or engaged. I knew my DH was thinking of proposing and warned him not to do it while our DS was in hospital. He was a very sick baby and spent almost a year in ICU.
We got to bring DS home for a few hours on Christmas Day for the first time. It was lovely but bringing him back to hospital that evening was beyond painful. On the way home DH insisted on going to my favorite beauty spot for a walk. I was so emotionally exhausted I just wanted to drink wine, cry and sleep. When we got there it was freezing cold, so dark and completely deserted. We started to walk along the harbour and I got pissed off so went to go back to the car. DH got down on one knee and proposed. TBH I’ve no idea what he said I was so tired and shocked. It was a sweet gesture to try to cheer me up. The ring is old and so beautiful. But my heart was breaking leaving my DS on Christmas night that my head wasn’t in the moment.
I feel robbed of that memory as I can’t remember his proposal.

We will be married 3 years on NYE, we’re going to the same place for a meal to celebrate. I might ask him to propose again!

DS came home for good 3 months later. He’s doing so well.

In bed one night. 35 years ago now

First one on a beach in France on a cold day when I was very hungover. He went down on one knee and gave me a ring. Total surprise. I said yes but he was the wrong man unfortunately.

Second one was also a surprise. It was whilst we were on safari in Africa and was ridiculously romantic. We spent the day with 2 semi wild elephants that were orphaned years ago and he had spoken to the zoologist by email in advance and arranged to have one of the elephants quietly hand me a ring box that had a ring with a little elephant on it inside. And then he was behind me on one knee. I still have the elephant snot encrusted box :) He's much more of a romantic than me (I usually forget our anniversary!) and I tend to find romantic stuff a bit cringe but I was pretty blown away by that! Happily married still.

On the steps of the town hall - exactly where we met a few years prior to that. We went back there to get married shortly after and have since taken all our babies there too to register their births.

I've had to proposals. With my first boyfriend... I used to wear a claddagh ring took it off my hand and change it's position, he changed his mind 20mins later.

My DP and I got drunk on mezcal and we used my mom's engagement ring. We were planning to get married but didn't do it. I'm now waiting for him to get a proper ring

@Franticterrapin lovely but sad story 😔

It was a mutual discussion.

I'm shit at romance. I knew I was going to ask my wife but couldn't think of a suitable way. I didn't want the whole restaurant down on one knee because I didn't want her to feel pressured. So I took her for a walk in the countryside. Luckily it was summer and a gorgeous day. As we were walking I just stopped turned to her and said: "Would you like to get married?" She replied with a smile, a kiss and a simple "Yes". I didn't even get down on one knee.

Phone call at work from him. Meet me outside WH Smiths. OK I said a bit confused. Friend dropped me off. He whisked me into the shop next door which happened to be a jewellers. I saw the one I liked immediately it was not the most expensive but I loved it. He had just bought a house which we chose together so I guessed we were moving in that direction. But I never had the romantic proposal which is a bit sad.

I always said I'd hate a public proposal. I'm more of a ' shall we get married.. Yep, OK we're engaged. However I always said I want fussed on marriage. In fact ds dad popped the question and I said no.. Turns out was a great choice.

Anyway dh had got the ring. And booked a meal. I hope this restaurant was quiet..
It was.. Just as he was about to build up to it.. I became light headed ( pregnancy related) .. Bad timing . Once felt better We ate and he went to get the ring out and people sat next to us, he knew I wouldn't want it like that. Anyway we went home. Put a movie on and he went to propose.. 3rd attempt lucky? And the box wedged in his pocket. Was so funny. I just said yes before he'd finished flapping lol

I’ve been proposed to twice.

The first was by my first boyfriend. We’d been together for 2 years and we were both 19.
I’d just had a huge fight with my parents (not unusual!) and gone back to where we were living at the time upset. He got down on one knee in our bedroom with a ring I already owned. I said yes as I didn’t want us to break up and I knew a no would go down like a lead balloon.
He became abusive when we moved into our own flat a few months later and I left him the following year.

The second time I was proposed to was by my now DH, we’d been together for 6 months but friends for years.
My mum had thrown me a surprise 21st birthday party in her back garden (I’d moved home after my messy break-up) and he drove up from where he was living at the time to be there we were in a LDR so it was a 4 hour drive.
I arrived at her house after work to everyone shouting surprise, and overwhelmed I went around in a circle greeting everyone, I eventually got to him not realising it was him and burst into tears.
I went into my bedroom to get changed and he followed me and got down on one knee.
Well, he tried to but my room was basically Harry Potter’s cupboard under the stairs, and I was flinging stuff all around and the floor was covered in clothes.

He said some really beautiful things and had gotten the most perfect ring for me, it was wonderful. I said yes, we hugged and kissed and when we went back to join the party they were all silent, so we said we were engaged. They hooted and hollered.
My mum has told everyone what he was going to do after he told her, it’s a good thing I said yes!

We’ve been together for 9 years and married for 5, so I think it was a good decision!
I recently lost my beautiful engagement ring after having to take it off when pregnant due to swelling, I really hope I find it as I’m heartbroken.

Romantic,funny.amazing.cold.brilliant.🐣💖💗💖💗💞

Took him to a restaurant, and proposed to him there. The waiter was driving me crazy by bringing out individual elements of our meal with huge gaps in between, so I had to keep waiting, to be sure that he was done as I didn’t want him to interrupt the moment with another random plate! It was lovely, as my now husband really wasn’t expecting it!

Two weeks ago on my 30th birthday.

He had something planned - romantic dinner etc etc however I was really poorly and said I’d see him once I felt better. We don’t live together and are long distance.

He drove to see me and proposed to me in the car as we went to pick up some pizza.

Wouldn’t change it for the world. The moment being ‘real’ was more sentimental and special to me.

I got my dream ring and lots of other presents.

On a day out in York for our third anniversary. We were 21 and 22 and about to graduate from university. DH got down on one knee on top of the city wall, in the rain. I gawped for ages as had no idea!

That was 13 years ago and we will have been married 10 years this year.