Would you leave 13 year old home alone on nye?

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I can't decide if I'm being unreasonable or not. She wanted to go to a party but due to lack of details and refusal to get an adults number for me followed by a massive strop she isn't. Anyway we are going to a party at a friends on nye, me, dh and dd1, obviously dd2 also invited but doesnt want to come. I said she can either come with us or see if my parents are around and stay there. We would be home about 12.30 probably go around 9. I normally work nye so was really looking forward to actually going out and now I feel whatever we do will cause problems. If we take dd2 she will be a misery all night anyway. She does quite like being home alone and we have 3 dogs. She would just watch telly with the dogs. What would others do in the situation?

Do you trust her not to go to said party anyway once you leave?

I would be worried about her having an empty. That's what I would've done at that age!

Assuming she is happy to be left alone and is usually sensible then yes I would leave her

It would be a no from me, add in the 3 dogs and it's a definite no.

She either goes to the party or stays with your parents.

No

I've heard that dogs tend to get really scared during fireworks, if she's home alone to deal with it she might get really freaked out. Just a thought

Our dogs don't tend to be bothered about fireworks and I trust her not to go to the party it's miles away. I would leave her on a normal night but not so late and have only done it a couple of times,

Take her with you. She's 13 and not being honest about her plans. She'll either bail to the party as planned or shift it to your house. Take away both of those options and ignore her miserable face at the party.

No way. I'd either insist she comes with you, or goes to her Grandparents.

I hadn't even thought about the inviting the party here, 😱. Think now that though is in my mind it will be a definite no.

I was left to mind the dog at the age of 13 one NYE.
A party of 60 people I had in my parents 2 bed semi.

Don't do it. Take her with you.

Personally.... God no! I have 14 y/o twins and wouldn't leave them alone that late at night. Even if they were together. I'd either take them with me or stay at home (I know you don't want to miss your nye event, but being a parent is first priority).

Omg miserable face it is then!

Party or your parents is the only choice I'd give her.

Absolutely no way, I'd stay at home with them.

Just take her with you and take an iPad for her or similar. Don't leave her on her own on NYE, that's a bit mean.

Depends on your child, I'd have no issues leaving my 13 year old ds alone at home. He rarely leaves his room anyway and most of the time prefers being left at home alone, as long as there is wifi and food he is happy.

I'm leaving my 14 year old. He doesn't want to go out. He Isn't sociable and wouldn't have a party.

But it's very dependant on the child really.

If she wants to be at a party and you've said no I wouldn't trust her to not go after you've left.

No way leave her!

Could you compromise and tell her she can bring one friend with her?probably all her friends are going to the other party and not be available but you could offer an olive branch so you don't have to put up with a silky face all evening.
Otherwise,can your parents sit with her and the dog's at yours?get a DVD ,pizza etc?the dogs may be more upset than you think of all alone when fireworks going off.

Ha,sulky not silky.

@MovinOnUp You rebel

yes, would leave either of mine, 13 & 14, DD would watch Netflix and DS would be gaming (neither v sociable, so zero chance of a party)

I would also see if she could bring a friend to the party but I wouldn't leave her at home alone. Apart from anything you won't enjoy yourself as you will be worrying about her (unless your parents are there of course).

I have sensible twin 13 (nearly 14) year olds.

We've been out a couple of times now for a couple of hrs up the road until 11.30, making sure their phones are to hand.

However, I was the opposite. I had a party aged 14 when my parents were out and, given what you've written, I agree that your daughter might go to the party or bring it to yours, so think she needs to go with you or to your parents.