Would you leave 13 year old home alone on nye?

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I can't decide if I'm being unreasonable or not. She wanted to go to a party but due to lack of details and refusal to get an adults number for me followed by a massive strop she isn't. Anyway we are going to a party at a friends on nye, me, dh and dd1, obviously dd2 also invited but doesnt want to come. I said she can either come with us or see if my parents are around and stay there. We would be home about 12.30 probably go around 9. I normally work nye so was really looking forward to actually going out and now I feel whatever we do will cause problems. If we take dd2 she will be a misery all night anyway. She does quite like being home alone and we have 3 dogs. She would just watch telly with the dogs. What would others do in the situation?

It really depends on the child - level of maturity etc. I would have no worries leaving my 12.5 year old for a few hours. We looked at the NSPCC website when deciding about leaving him home alone. He can do all the things on the checklist. As I recall the website suggests children between 12-16 could be left at home for a number of hours but shouldn't be left at home overnight.

YABU!

I'm a firm believer in
"start the year as you mean to go on"
so if you, dh and dd1 were to go and celebrate together, and dd2 was 13 years old and alone bringing in the New Year? Sorry, but that just doesn't sit right with me!

You cannot trust her so she will have to come with you. She has brought this upon herself unfortunately. Mine were always happy for me to speak to the parents so I was able to trust them. She needs to learn actions have boring consequences.

I wouldn't.

If you take her who is looking after your 3 dogs when all the fireworks go off?

How do you know the dogs won’t be bothered if there are loud fireworks close by if they are left alone?

Take her to the party. Better than being left home alone on NYE as I was at a similar age, it was horrible.

My parents left me at home when I was13 (1981),They didnt know I had bought a ticket to a whitesnake gig at Manchester appolo.(and went, on my own) I just about got home before they did...

And I can't believe it was nearly 40 years ago, my god I feel old right now.

Not late at night I wouldn't

Take her to the party with you, I wouldn’t trust her. If she wants to not join in fine, tough. If she’s got a face on her she can sulk in a room somewhere and complain about her plight on her phone ...

I have left my 13 year olds at home but i wouldn't for that length of time in the late evening. My daughter has just turned 16, don't think i would leave her, but she is quite an anxious teen.

My DS is 13 and autistic, he was far happier on his own watching action movies with the dog. (and leftover Xmas chocs) Had he come out he would have sat at the table with his hands over his ears (in the noisy pub, 2 mins down the road) Not all children wish to socialise

Nope, under these circumstances mine would be coming with us, and under a stern warning not to spoil the party for everyone else with exhibitionist grumpitude. I wouldn't expect her to plaster on a smile, she's entitled to feel however she feels, but if she doesn't want to participate she can sit with her phone/a book and keep a low profile.

And next time, madam, don't try and pull a fast one on your parents